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^ Heh, Looks like he’s been sent to Ban Town.
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Attachment 495
^ Heh, Looks like he’s been sent to Ban Town.
Last edited by allegro; 06-06-2019 at 12:21 PM.
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NY banned "panic defenses" in murder trials.
https://www.nytimes.com/2019/06/19/nyregion/gay-panic-ny.html
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about fucking timeOriginally Posted by Sarah K
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Hello, again, everyone! My roommate has begun her transition now and so in honor of her announcement I have gone back through all of my old posts from before she told me and corrected the pronouns.
Also as an update, my daughter has moved back to Louisiana and is doing well.Love you guys, and again glad to see a community to talk to here <3 <3
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officially using they/them pronouns!
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Well, this is fucking terrifying.
https://news.yahoo.com/us-supreme-co...134534353.html
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bought myself a pair of "womens" yoga pants at target on wednesday. i've technically been buying stuff from the womens section (sporadically) since i was like 14, but this week was the first time i didn't feel out of place. i wasn't worried about someone confronting me or calling me out. and i didn't even get anxious when i brought my stuff to the fitting room. it was so liberating.
also, they're the comfiest things i've ever worn on my legs. oh my god. i wore them today to my last IOP day (and we did yoga!) and it was amazing.
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It's such a great feeling, isn't it? That is a big milestone.
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wow, a lot has happened since the last time i was here (just internally, regarding this subject). once quarantine is over, i'm going to get on track to start taking hormones. i am so excited and so nervous.
tonight, i bought myself a dress. https://us.killstar.com/collections/...r-hood-dress-b
i haven't worn a dress in 16(?) years. whenever i would wear dresses in high school, i borrowed them from friends. this will be the first dress that's MINE and i can't wait.
also, it was so frustrating because i kept finding things i loved on a bunch of different sites and every time i did, it would be out in XL. blargh! so i'm glad i found this one.
now i need to decide if i want to get a bra and falsies, or a pre-stuffed bra, or another option, before i start taking hormones...
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I'm so late on this, I just saw this!! Aaaaggghhhh!! I am so, so, so happy for you! As a friend who has watched your journey it makes me so incredibly happy to know that you're taking steps to finally be yourself. You are awesome and this is awesome and I am now filled with happy feelings.
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i have a tele-appointment for wednesday afternoon to talk to someone about starting hormones!!! ������ nervous but excited!
also, one of the dresses i ordered came, and it's maybe the comfiest item of clothing i've ever worn. i love it. now i just need to get a bra and some "chicken cutlets" hehehe
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my other dress came! it's goth as fuuuuuck and i love it. also ordered a sports bra type thing (the tank bra from everlane). kind of wishing i had gotten a couple dresses that are light-weight and not long-sleeve since it's so hot here all of a sudden :/
i have my tele-appointment in an hour. my tummy hurts from applying for a job this morning and i'm hoping that subsides so i'm not as anxious.
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Please tell me where you’re getting these comfy goth as fuck dresses.
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https://us.killstar.com/
most of the stuff on here is super goth
https://www.dresslily.com/gothic-dresses-c-714.html
dresslily has a whole specific goth section, which is what i linked
i'll post pictures once i manage to take some good ones haha
also, my appointment went super well, and then i went into the clinic (was weird being anywhere in public besides a grocery store for the first time since march 17th) to get blood drawn and get my prescription!!! i start estrogen and t-blockers tomorrow (in pill form). i am just...i'm so glad i finally took this plunge. i wish i had done it 20 years ago when i first started feeling this way, but better late than never, right?
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Apologies for my ignorance, but does this change mean HRT is not available, or that HRT is not covered by insurance? I read the announcement at HHS.GOV but it was not clear to me. Though I can be a bit daft at times.
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It means that insurance companies under the ACA used to be barred from discriminating their coverage to LGBTQ people under the ACA; that has now been reversed, and any insurance provider under the ACA is free to deny treatment coverage to LGBTQ individuals who are covered under the ACA. It's aimed directly at transgender individuals, because "the Trump administration defines 'sex discrimination' as only applying when someone faces discrimination for being male or female, and does not protect people from discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation or gender identity." See this article for details. Because cruelty is the point, the decision was announced during Pride week and on the anniversary of the Pulse Nightclub massacre.
Last edited by allegro; 06-12-2020 at 09:14 PM.
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one of the scariest implications is that it allows discrimination not just by insurance providers, but also by any healthcare provider. if a trans person is having a heart attack and gets brought to the emergency room, it would allow a transphobic doctor to refuse to treat that person with no legal repercussions. or, as a more timely example, if a trans person caught the coronavirus and needed immediate medical attention, they could be refused treatment.
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That latter implication in an emergency situation that is actually prevented by the hippocratic oath as well as hospital and health provider liability policies, especially due to precedent in court cases. It’s been argued and won, (previously related to racist doctors who refused to treat black people, and doctors who refused to treat AIDS patients). This comes down to corporate policy and customer service, as well as avoidance of large malpractice lawsuits being paramount.
More importantly, AMA ethics rules clearly prohibit it:
The AMA states: "Physicians who offer their services to the public may not decline to accept patients because of race, color, religion, national origin, sexual orientation, gender identity or any other basis that would constitute invidious discrimination."
There is a pending SCOTUS decision that will settle all these matters, which was argued last year, opinion is expected in the coming months.
https://www.laborandemploymentlawcou...iscrimination/
POWER TO THE PEOPLE!
Last edited by allegro; 06-13-2020 at 05:04 PM.
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I don't understand, are gay people not already protected against that over there???
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nope. because we in the queer community (and especially those of us in the trans community, regardless of orientation) are seen as sub-human by many people, and a lot of those people have positions of power.
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So, if someone doesn't want to hire someone because they're gay they can just not hire them?
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Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964 bars employment discrimination based on race, religion, national origin and sex. But “sex” did not include sexual orientation or gender identity.
HOWEVER, it should be noted that many protections under Title VII - particularly sex or gender - are often hollow and do not totally protect employees; for THAT, we need the passage of the Equality Act, H.R. 5:
https://www.congress.gov/bill/116th-...se-bill/5/text
Well, yes ... or black, or a woman, or of a certain ethnic group, etc. Which happens ALL the time. It’s REALLY hard to get treated fairly, here. Employers break these laws all the time, which is why the courts are constantly busy with employment lawsuits. But, the system has to at least have legislative protections in place to support those court cases.
Last edited by allegro; 06-15-2020 at 05:37 PM.
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That's what I was getting at. So there are laws? It's just no one really gives a shit that they exist?
Sorry, I am being completely ignorant. The whole thing just strikes me as weird
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nice to have some good news for once. oy veh.
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two things!
one: after sarah trimmed my hair and beard, i trimmed my leg hair with an electric hair trimmer because i haven't actually shaved my legs in :: checks watch :: 12 years? it took me 20 minutes. i didn't even have the energy to properly shave them after that. i am also not nearly as flexible as i once was. woof. hopefully the hormones will help it not grow in as much. or i'll be able to save up some money for laser/electrolysis.
and two: i'm thinking of changing my name to Mae (as a reference to both Mae West and Mae Borowski from the video game Night In The Woods). it would allow me to keep my initials, and it sounds similar to Max (though i've been going by Maxwell for a long time). thoughts?
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1) funny, once I went through menopause, the best thing about it was not having to shave my legs, anymore!
2) Mae is a cool name! Oddly enough, my Grandmother' best gf's name was ... Max! (Grandma was born in 1907 so this is old-school.) Mark Zuckerberg's daughter is named Max, short for "Maxima." But, Mae is a pretty nice name, too.
Last edited by allegro; 06-24-2020 at 07:46 PM.
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i was really good at it in high school! i probably could have done it with my eyes closed (not really). but i was also skinnier and way more flexible so i guess we'll see how this goes haha1) funny, once I went through menopause, the best thing about it was not having to shave my legs, anymore!
2) Mae is a cool name! Oddly enough, my Grandmother' best gf's name was ... Max! (Grandma was born in 1907 so this is old-school.) Mark Zuckerberg's daughter is named Max, short for "Maxima." But, Mae is a pretty nice name, too.
max is totally a doable gender-non-specific name, and while i'm still going to be me, i want to distinguish myself a bit. sarah has been suggesting "mj" (my first two initials) and consistently making the joke "like from spider man!" but i don't really feel like it fits me. oddly enough, mae was also her suggestion.
@GibbonBlack i have never used a hair removal cream or done waxing, but not a bad idea...
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