The little things that piss you off

[Dra508]

Insomnia. Never had insomnia like this before in my life. Just all of a sudden the past 4 or 5 days. Took a second Seroquel just now to try to knock myself the fuck out. Can someone punch me in the face or something?

Stressed? Anxiety? Eat too much late at night?

[tony.parente]

3 degrees outside and my heat doesn't work. Emergency maintenance isn't answering their phone and it's approaching 40 degrees in my apartment. I'm close to burning the cabinets for heat.

[halloween]

It irritates me to no end how my dad will just fall asleep watching tv. Then he wakes up and continues watching tv until he falls asleep again. I wish he's just go to bed already, he's hurting his neck and his legs (he keeps them up on a chair and his knees get stiff) by sleeping this way. I've woken up at three or four in the morning and I can still hear the tv on.

Why why whyyy can't people just say "I'm sleepy and it's time to go to bed"?!?!

[Ryan]

Stressed? Anxiety? Eat too much late at night?

It seems to be better now.

Pissing me off: needing a job.

[Ryan]

3 degrees outside and my heat doesn't work. Emergency maintenance isn't answering their phone and it's approaching 40 degrees in my apartment. I'm close to burning the cabinets for heat.

Do it, son. Burn it. BURN IT ALL!

[tony.parente]

Do it, son. Burn it. BURN IT ALL!

The "emergency maintenance" cunt still hasn't returned my calls/voicemails and all my calls are going straight to voicemail. I had to sleep at the wifes parents house today.

[Dra508]

It seems to be better now.

Pissing me off: needing a job.

There's your issue bro

[Swykk]

Explaining or hearing others explaining things to old people. It's like talking to toddlers but you know they should be able to comprehend what they're being told. Now granted, the distrust of information being provided is relatively the same with toddlers and the elderly.

In about 13 years? It'll be more like me saying, "I don't understanding a fucking thing any person between 13-35 is telling me."

That coin will flip sooner than later.

[tony.parente]

Explaining or hearing others explaining things to old people. It's like talking to toddlers but you know they should be able to comprehend what they're being told. Now granted, the distrust of information being provided is relatively the same with toddlers and the elderly.

In about 13 years? It'll be more like me saying, "I don't understanding a fucking thing any person between 13-35 is telling me."

That coin will flip sooner than later.

One of the reasons why I quit my job as an installer for charter cable. We did a LOT of business with "retirement communities". I couldn't tell you how many jobs I went to where they didn't have their box CRT TV on channel 3 and they couldn't watch their cable. And don't get me started on having to hand write detailed 3 pages instructions on how to open email.

1. Move mouse to turn on screen
2. Move arrow over the blue E
3. Click the left button on the mouse twice quickly
4. Move the mouse to the word favorites at the top of the screen
5. Left click that once
6. Move your mouse to the word yahoo!

etc etc

my god

NOOOOOOOOOOPE

[allegro]

Explaining or hearing others explaining things to old people. It's like talking to toddlers but you know they should be able to comprehend what they're being told. Now granted, the distrust of information being provided is relatively the same with toddlers and the elderly.

Ditto this but when I was in college (like, EIGHT YEARS AGO) I had this stupid idea that college students would be computer savvy. HAAAAAA HA HA HA HA HA WRONG! WHAT A BUNCH OF FUCKING MORONS! You know that SNL skit with the computer fix-it guy, where he goes "MOOOOOOOOOVE?" (see below) Yeah, that was me with college students. My dog knows more about computers. We had to do a bunch of "group projects" in various classes, and a few actually said, "Oh, I don't use email." Um ... what? They didn't know how. A few had NEVER BEEN TO THE GROCERY STORE because, you know, the helicopter parents always did it for them. So that marketing class was going to really tank their fucking GPA. Good luck with LIFE, buddy.

Meanwhile, my 77-yr-old Mom still does a mean Excel spreadsheet.

Here's me, Nick Burns:

[orestes]

"oh, i don't use email." um ... What? They didn't know how. A few had never been to the grocery store because, you know, the helicopter parents always did it for them.

whaaaaaaaat.

[icklekitty]

I'm fairly certain this is the wrong thread for this, I can't work out which is the right thread, but I know this is a "tell ETS" thing, so I'm putting it here (sorry mods).


Nutshell: I have a growing feeling that my life was better before I had real-time people in it. I moved back to London in 2007 and started socialising locally around 2010-11. In between, I pretty much just stayed at home and refreshed the Internet. I now have lots of friends and a partner and have done lots of fun things since 2010, but I'm seriously considering getting rid of most of that (including the partner) and going back to the way things were. Most of these people are perfectly nice and we have things in common (some are dicks and I'm getting rid of regardless - I have been trying to put myself first recently), but I'm finding it all rather overwhelming and stressful. I think I was happier and healthier when I was alone.

Disclaimer: I'm not doing that thing where I push people out of my life, become depressed, and spiral out of control. But this is weird, yes?

[ldopa]

being actively social is a huge investment and can be VERY exhausting. especially when your particular interests and hobbies are introverted and don't require another person involved in order for it to come to fruition. at the risk of being too repetitive: loneliness is the longing for the other, and being alone is the presence of one's self. when i fall in the latter, i feel more confident and accomplished. which makes me calmer about approaching social situations and all that comes with them.

so find a good percentage! mine is about 60% alone / intro to 40% social / extro. mind you, my extro only (truly) comes out with the few i feel safe and comfortable with. those people are fucking hard to find. which is half (or more) the battle to begin with.

edit: i'm a very gnarly "small doses" personality to deal with, so i inherently seek others with the same qualities. our hearts are in the right places, and that's what matters.

2 edit: TLDR: it's hella fine and not weird to be a lone wolf, in the times we live in now, it might even be better that way.

be your eccentric ass self no matter what!

[Ryan]

it's hella fine and not weird to be a lone wolf, in the times we live in now, it might even be better that way.

Words of wisdom, Lloyd.

[ldopa]

you get more shit done, that's for sure.

[icklekitty]

To be clear though, I'm talking about getting rid of my friends and ending my relationship, not just toning down how often I go out.

[eversonpoe]

To be clear though, I'm talking about getting rid of my friends and ending my relationship, not just toning down how often I go out.

i think doing all of that at once is potentially a bit extreme. maybe take it one step at a time?

[Timinator]

i think doing all of that at once is potentially a bit extreme. maybe take it one step at a time?

I agree with this. I don't see why it should be an extreme all-or-nothing cull.
@icklekitty : You said: "I have a growing feeling that my life was better before I had real-time people in it...I'm finding it all rather overwhelming and stressful."

Why do you feel this way?

I've known you online since 2005-ish. But I knew you IRL from 2007-2009. We have eaten and drunk together; we've seen movies together; we have been to each others' houses; we know things about each other. I know that they were NIN-based (or, at least, NIN-initiated) social interactions during those years, but you appeared to be happy during them. If you were faking it, you did a good job. Did you feel as uneasy during that period?

Is it possible that it's just the people, or type, or amount of social interaction you have now that's making you uneasy?

[icklekitty]

Well all of that stuff was before 2010, and I'm talking about the people post-2010. Also you (ETS people) are from an Internet-time, not a real-life time; by that definition it is a type of people yes. ETS people are still fine - perhaps because everything to be told has been told on here in the past 13 years and I find myself posting this here and not on Facebook with all the riff-raff.

[DF118]

Disclaimer: I'm not doing that thing where I push people out of my life, become depressed, and spiral out of control. But this is weird, yes?

Sorry, yes, it's weird, and that might happen. Don't do it. You can always distance yourself from people and situations without burning bridges.

[Timinator]

Well all of that stuff was before 2010, and I'm talking about the people post-2010.

ETS people are still fine.

I think you need to figure out why that is.

[allegro]

I dunno, seems like too much soul-searching to me. Sometimes you get to a point in life where mature and you re-assess and you simply say "who the fuck are these people and are they actually valuable in my life, or were they some kind of diversion and just a bad idea?"

You don't actually have to TELL people this stuff ("hey, sorry, I can't get together with you, anymore, you were a bad idea") but you can just be "unavailable" to people and they'll eventually get the hint, since these people might not be "close friends," anyway.

[marodi]

To be clear though, I'm talking about getting rid of my friends and ending my relationship, not just toning down how often I go out.

My soul is screaming DO IT but maybe that's because I'm a misanthropic hermit who don't answer the phone or the knocks on the door. So maybe you should listen to Timinator and allegro. A bit. Just a little bit.

As for what's pissing me off: pretty much everything right now but specifically my left shoulder that I manage to injure somehow.

[Substance242]

Really little thing here... about gaming. Online championship race, Bathurst track, heavy damage = zero contact with nothing or car damaged, ONE HOUR race, practice yesterday, quite powerful car (Lexus IS-F CCS-R '11), no traction controls or any aids. Immersed in game, no mistakes, fuel strategy, watching positions shift with pit stops, two in front of me are fighting so maybe I will gain something, 5 minutes left, focus... one second you are in the car, and one second later you are staring at screen "DISCONNECTED". For fucking fuck! I hate this sudden change, I really needed this little stupid satisfaction tonight! Yes it means nothing compared to real problems, but still, yaaarrrggghhh!

[Dra508]

To be clear though, I'm talking about getting rid of my friends and ending my relationship, not just toning down how often I go out.

i think doing all of that at once is potentially a bit extreme. maybe take it one step at a time?

Yeah, why do you feel the need to push all of it away? When you break up with a partner, often you are breaking up with some of those friends too, but you sound more like you want to go hid in a closet because that made life easier. Not sure if that's going to solve your problems.

[icklekitty]

External pressures, obligations, getting involved with a "scene" I guess. Allegro's thing makes sense in that here I get to do it in my comfort zone and on my own terms. I was diagnosed autistic in 2011 too so I'm not sure if I've self imposed some kind of obligation.


Nonetheless i was was aware that this wasn't a regular way to think so thanks for the very useful perspectives everyone. As always I haven't made any moves yet but you'll be in the loop if so.

[DF118]

@icklekitty, social isolation can be symptomatic of autism (not suggesting you're naturally anti-social, you weren't in the times we've met ).

[allegro]

@icklekitty, social isolation can be symptomatic of autism (not suggesting you're naturally anti-social, you weren't in the times we've met ).

It can also be a symptom of being an introvert, (SEE THIS) and I'm not sure she's suggesting that she totally blow off all friends, just these useless friends from this more relatively recent "scene" that she fell into that ended up being more obligation and less fun.

[Jinsai]

I just spent an hour and a half designing a business card, paid an extra $30 dollars to make sure they'd reach me in time for NAMM, and when I just checked my receipt, the design was ever so slightly off. It's not the end of the world, but what the hell?

[thelastdisciple]

Right now what's pissing me off is that unless you want to store movies, music and photos on external memory.....the micro SD cards for Android phones are basically USELESS, i realize this is basically how it's always been but god fucking damn it.

My latest phone.. it only has 5GB internal memory with 2.5GB already eaten up by bloatware which leaves me 2.5GB to play around with. I have a 32GB iPod touch as well so i do most of my "apping" on that and i had previously downloaded a game on that which didn't work very well, i found out that my new phone would be compatible and i got to try it for at least a few minutes, there was a world of difference but here's the catch... the specific game takes up 2.5GB OF FUCKING INTERNAL MEMORY! It'd be nice if i could have all of that game data moved to my 32GB sd card but noooooooo why make use of external memory? that makes no sense at all. Shame on me for wanting to actually have space left on my phone in order to receive texts ffs. Ugh, the developers of these things drive me up the fucking wall. So back to square one... even though the game works i still can't play it. What else is new. *flips some tables*