The Relationship Thread

[Tea]

We're both trying this whole forcing ourselves to spend time apart from each other every now and then. Neither of us are particularly good at it. I'm naturally quite a paranoid person (one of the main reasons I gave up drinking for 10 months) so every time we're not together I start to freak out about things completely ridiculous. I know they are ridiculous and obviously I don't raise any issues with him, especially as when we are together everything is perfectly fine and great. I really hate having clinical paranoia at times.

It is honestly SO WEIRD hearing you talk about being a relationship like this; but I'm really happy for you!

[Christo]

It is honestly SO WEIRD hearing you talk about being a relationship like this; but I'm really happy for you!

But whoooooooo is this? I hate all the new username anonymity.

[icklekitty]

We're both trying this whole forcing ourselves to spend time apart from each other every now and then. Neither of us are particularly good at it. I'm naturally quite a paranoid person (one of the main reasons I gave up drinking for 10 months) so every time we're not together I start to freak out about things completely ridiculous. I know they are ridiculous and obviously I don't raise any issues with him, especially as when we are together everything is perfectly fine and great. I really hate having clinical paranoia at times.

See everyone, I told you he was just as messed up as the rest of us.

It's good that you're not telling him if it's completely unfounded - and the spending time apart thing is presumably working up to your next middle-of-nowhere adventure?

I have a question for the guys and the ladies here...

a lot of times when I am talking to an attractive female, they will pretty quickly make it known that they have a boyfriend, by way of comments like "well, when me and my boyfriend go to..." or "my boyfriend told me the same thing..."

is this supposed to be some kind of warning to me? Like "I'm not available so don't get any bright ideas"? Is it supposed to be some kind of jealousy thing? Or does it mean nothing at all

I think it's the better alternative to letting him talk to her for ages, thinking possibly that she's interested in him, only for her to tell him half an hour later that she's attached. Many guys have this "conveyor belt" approach to talking to women, so maybe you're getting caught in the crossfire of that. If I were attached that's definitely how I'd go about it. Then if you still want to talk, that's cool, but I'm not leading you down a dead end.

[iamanexit]

I think it's the better alternative to letting him talk to her for ages, thinking possibly that she's interested in him, only for her to tell him half an hour later that she's attached. Many guys have this "conveyor belt" approach to talking to women, so maybe you're getting caught in the crossfire of that. If I were attached that's definitely how I'd go about it. Then if you still want to talk, that's cool, but I'm not leading you down a dead end.

I mostly agree.
Also, if I am in a relationship long enough that my boy/girlfriend is just that person who I share just about everything with, I will happen to bring them up because it's just that natural to do so. I guess it could go both ways.