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Faceplams: Hit the vagina on the head there. Err, I mean nail.Originally Posted by Amaro
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Hit the vagina on the head there. Err, I mean nail.
she/her/hers
i wouldn't call it a fetish, but i enjoying giving oral sex sometimes more than penetrative sex. i enjoy receiving it fine but i love giving it.
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In any case, maybe I've lost sight of the actual word meaning, and by itself oral sex can't be placed in the "fetish" category. But, for me, in my mind, giving is just that because it's a certain echelon above all other turn-ons. I've definitely almost cum with her climax.
Last edited by Amaro; 03-05-2018 at 10:15 PM.
she/her/hers
i also really love eating someone's ass (although i wish there was a better way to phrase it? it sounds so silly) and i really like getting mine eaten, too, but not everyone enjoys it :/
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I haven't experienced either on this... It's basically never come up or has been unofficially motioned against, which was fine as I would've said no to any ass stuff. At the same time, I can't say 100% that I rule it out for the future. Everybody won't shut up about it these days, to the point where I feel almost weird for not at least trying it, at least giving. I'd have to be pretty goddamn tight with the other person.
Last edited by Amaro; 03-05-2018 at 10:21 PM.
she/her/hers
do it during shower sex if anyone's worried about it!
it really feels fucking great, and something about giving it is just really fun to me. idunno. my wife used to like it a lot more than she does now, not sure why. it basically never happens anymore.
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-____- I can't believe I actually forgot about shower-ANYTHING (I should find myself in the Horny thread or whatever, I'm not getting the action my poor brain craves). Of course!! I can say I would most likely give that a go someday.
Maybe if and when ass stuff comes back around for her, the appeal will be in full-force. That can happen.
Last edited by Amaro; 03-05-2018 at 10:58 PM.
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I myself have never tried shower sex. Kitchen sex though, yes.
As an extremely OCD person, the following morning I was tempted to grab a flame flower and go RJ MacReady all over the counter.
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nevermind
Last edited by playwithfire; 05-04-2020 at 07:53 AM.
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Liking something a lot does not make it a fetish.
grrr. woof.
shower sex is cumbersome for big guys like me. even more so with another big guy.
also, analingus orgasms are about as good as they get.
she/her/hers
yeah we've never had shower sex at our apartment because our tub isn't very big and the shower curtains (there's one on each side) stick in and it would just not be very comfy. it's always been on vacation or when house-sitting for someone.
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I have only fond shower memories. Usually it was standing up (in a standard size/shape shower), with her against the corner, leg up and balancing on one foot. For that reason, naturally she didn't like it as much as me, but we both found it super hot...and romantic (simulated rain effect? lol).
I hear it now. Now, curious--could public oral sex be fetishistic or would it just be kinky?
Last edited by Amaro; 03-06-2018 at 07:37 PM.
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Define public.
I don't think oral counts as a fetish or kinky.
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That's really intriguing.
Any environment where there's a high enough chance of being seen in the act by strangers. I feel like if one's arousal level is highly dependent on or is heightened by such a factor, then that is a fetish.
Last edited by Amaro; 03-06-2018 at 08:08 PM.
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That's called being shitty and nonconsensually involving others in your vanilla sex.
she/her/hers
(i love you, sarah)
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I’m lead to believe I don’t actually have any fetishes, but just so it is clear—that’s not my fetish.
Am I supposed to feel bad for getting road head though?
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Well like, I have a fetish for neon. Like, the light tubes. I've jerked off to videos of electric discharge. I'm also super fetishistic about latex.
I heard some one describe it as a bit of a "zoom" in terms of your focus. Like, it narrows down to That Thing. And That Thing independent of other stuff is arousing.
Oral is just... having sex with someone. On my end it sounds like a narrative I hear a lot from people, typically dudes, where they're very fixated on "giving" their partner orgasms. Like, giving pleasure as a whole thing that they do to their partners. I don't mean like "hell yeah we're going to have a mutually enjoyable experience" but like "she has to come first" kinda shit.
There are so many ways to have sex.
Last edited by playwithfire; 03-07-2018 at 03:47 AM.
she/her/hers
that's so weird. like...the whole point of sex is to have a mutually enjoyable experience, however that works for the people involved.
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But obviously they're god's gift to oral!
I actually like getting head if my body is working, but this shit is real: https://splinternews.com/against-the...ers-1793855807
Also this is good. http://www.bkmag.com/2016/04/19/stop...go-down-on-me/
Give me cis dudes who consider sex continuing after they orgasm to be something enjoyable and normal, and then I'll be interested.
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I...should not be reading this at work lol.
Never had shower sex, or kitchen sex...how once used a mars bar (UK chocolate candy bar) and i do NOT recommend it!
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Agree with both of those. And holy shit, read the comments on that second one. Oh my goooood.
she/her/hers
ahhhahahahahahaMike is a dude who DEFINITELY understood the point of this article
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That's pretty cosmic to imagine. Definitely a first. Thank you for sharing. I was going to request that people share their fetish(es) in my last post (but I forgot), to segway this all into actual examples of fetishes.
Maybe that order and/or attitude doesn't do it for you, but I don't find anything inherently negative about it at all. I'm positive that countless couples operate in that dynamic, probably because it works best for both of them. There have been times where I've just gotten her off, and it was heavily implied -if not verbally communicated- that that's all I desired for that moment, and for me that was a mutually enjoyable experience.Oral is just... having sex with someone. On my end it sounds like a narrative I hear a lot from people, typically dudes, where they're very fixated on "giving" their partner orgasms. Like, giving pleasure as a whole thing that they do to their partners. I don't mean like "hell yeah we're going to have a mutually enjoyable experience" but like "she has to come first" kinda shit.
Well? You can't please everybody. I know women of today who are way into receiving, not to be confused with finding it appropriate or cool for a guy to just blurt out how he wants to dive in her vagina headfirst, on the first date. This is a hugely subjective area though....this shit is real: https://splinternews.com/against-the...ers-1793855807
Also this is good. http://www.bkmag.com/2016/04/19/stop...go-down-on-me/
On that note, I can only speak for myself, and that's all I care to do... I knew I had an oral thing ever since I was in the single digits. I have no desire to assess why that was for me, but it's still there. If I don't see pretty much eye-to-eye with a woman on one of the ways I want to show my affection for her (T in the V), I can't fathom we'd work out like that.
I do like how the articles brought up strictly finger/hand stuff. I personally tend to associate that approach with the more gentle side of sex... I've learned to come back around to those more 'humble beginnings' and appreciate how that method sometimes works really well for a woman, as in she really seems to like it, and it's its own super intimate thing to me (and I am quite into that). The last gal I was with was on a high dose of an antidepressant, and had never gotten off by somebody else. Long story made short: clitoral stimulation by hand was super key in getting her there... I don't know who was more surprised when it finally happened for her. That was quite nice.
As long as I'm not expected to become fully hard within 15-20 minutes after an orgasm, I've been game for something before.Give me cis dudes who consider sex continuing after they orgasm to be something enjoyable and normal, and then I'll be interested.
Last edited by Amaro; 03-08-2018 at 10:33 PM.
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Yeah, but it's not the order, right? It's either the expectation of it as a status quo (regardless of individual experience, the typical social pattern is absolutely that the male orgasm is viewed as the "end" to sex under ideal circumstances, continuing after male orgasm is viewed as "caring about their partner's pleasure" vs. something just as chill as a female partner doing so/a normal part of routine, and that dismisses that tons of women also have refractory periods and is just heteronormative as all get out) or all the other things in play around that. The "she comes first" narrative (note the "first" part of that, and I'm specifically referring to the book + the things that spun out for it) is problematic as hell.
Also to be clear, I'm talking about like this as a social theme and not your own experiences.
So like, sadism is a big thing for me. I didn't realize how big it was until someone framed it as "giving intense sensations" vs. just "pain" because I thought what was basically edging as standard practice was just like, me enjoying giving hand jobs. But, it's absolutely a sadism thing. And like Charlotte says, you see that a lot in porn these days. "Hardcore-lite gonzo porn of the early aughts has given way to the Kink.com trend of performers trembling through numerous orgasmic seizures, sometimes forced out of them by the infamous Hitachi magic wand."
The mentality of men basically "giving' their partners orgasm as this like, new breed of sexual prowess, is a whole thing. Because instead of it being about what their partner *wants* it's about what the men *do* for/to them.
Yeah, similarly for me if it was important for a partner to be able to sexually touch me every time we had sex, it wouldn't work. Everybody has to find who they're compatible with.
Anyway, I mean, broader oral fixation *is* a fetish? So maybe if this is a broader thing for you, it is fetishistic? But, if it is restricted to just really liking going down on women, that's just... enjoying sex imo.
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nevermind
Last edited by playwithfire; 05-04-2020 at 07:47 AM.
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Friend living in Germany paid a surprise visit, so it became a sexual Sunday.
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Going on almost 5 year dry spell, maybe thats part of why i feel so irritable.
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