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    Is it with Midori?!

    Edit - I just creeped, and it is. She is awesome. That will be a great experience.

    Double Edit - Paddles is like 10pm - 3am, so if you are up for it, definitely come. But I bet you'll be tired!
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    YEP. (aaaaah)

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    I am just having A Weekend

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    happy coming out day, everyone! though i am married to a woman and look like a man, i am both queer and trans. i came out as bisexual in 8th grade and everything else from there just felt like a natural progression.

    for those of us who feel safe being out, let's set good examples for those who don't feel safe. let's help change things so that people can be themselves without fear of repercussions.

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    This looks interesting.

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    I came out as gay to my family and friends yesterday. Some of them knew already, but most didn't. I've had positive support all around, including from people I didn't expect to be supportive.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BRoswell View Post
    I came out as gay to my family and friends yesterday. Some of them knew already, but most didn't. I've had positive support all around, including from people I didn't expect to be supportive.
    congratulations and welcome to the family!

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    I came out to my mom and four of my closest friends at the beginning of this year. Two of my friends were 100% clued in for quite some time, LOL. Pretty sure my mom had to have known as well. They all accepted it beautifully, and one of my friends came out to me as bisexual when I came out to him.

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    last week, brooklyn nine nine aired two episodes for their fall finale. the first dealt with one of the main characters coming out as bi not only to the squad but to their family, and it was handled realistically and beautifully. i love that show's ability to handle delicate social subjects with grace and poignancy while still being a comedy, at heart. needless to say, my wife (who is bi) and i were both crying a lot.
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    Hey everyone on here. I'm gay and weirdly do not have any gay friends. At this point most of my straight friends are married. I did NOT plan well for this inevitable future! So ... hello!

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    I feel you on that, with the exception of my two bi friends. Maybe look into going to some sort of Pride event? I've been thinking of doing that myself at some point.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pbgut View Post
    Hey everyone on here. I'm gay and weirdly do not have any gay friends. At this point most of my straight friends are married. I did NOT plan well for this inevitable future! So ... hello!
    i feel like 75% of my friends are queer, which is really nice, because i have never really felt like i was truly part of the queer community. i didn't think i was "gay enough" when i was younger, i didn't really come out as trans until a couple years ago, and i just didn't want anyone to think i was some sort of invader. it's a shitty feeling to be part of a marginalized group but to not feel like that group will accept you openly.

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    Not to get nitpicky about this thread and those posting to it recently, but it seems like some of these posts are a little off-topic. I always took this to be the successor to the BDSM thread on the old site, and the recent discussion has tended more towards coming out.

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    Yeah weird, I thought we had one. Could only find a bi thread (that you made, ha): http://www.echoingthesound.org/commu...isexual-Thread

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    WOOF!

    It's been a while since my last post here (even in any ETS thread), so here's my pup self waving a paw and saying hello.
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    I know I'm like a stuck record on this point, and it's been years now... but I am once again unhappy with my sex life with my wife, and I know it's never the right time to ask if she'd be OK with me dating/sleeping with other people. Part of it has to do with the fact that I'm into kink/BDSM and I want to explore that further, and she is pretty vanilla. Whenever I ask her to try stuff I'm into it ends up awkward at best, her disgusted and troubled at worst. This bothers me because there's a whole aspect of my sexuality that I can only explore with masturbation when she's not around. She's had a few health problems over the years and we've been unsuccessfully trying for another baby for a while - which has also made sex into this awkward monthly duty. I don't want another romantic relationship, but I do want the freedom to have sexual contact with other people. I don't want to cheat or do it behind her back; several times it has seemed to me that her vibe has been that she wouldn't want to know if I were doing stuff. But I am very prone to guilt, and don't want to do it without asking first. The problem is that I really have no idea how it would go down and I don't even know if I haven't asked before because I know it would be a shitstorm or because I'm just scared.
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    Can we rename this "The kink thread"? Or something along those lines?

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    i don't know if posting this here is appropriate, but i've been following this story a couple months.

    https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article...ank-hafertepen

    i'm no prude -- been to many circuit parties, enjoy my own limits of kink, etc. and i've been a part of the bear community since my 20's and have seen A LOT. this, however, was completely new to me. the dom/sub thing i am well aware of for the most part, but the contract? and the tattoos? not to mention the body modifications that took his life (and look INSANE)? whatever to all that.

    this dylan guy seems like a royal piece of shit. oy, tank's (jack's) poor mother. very sad.

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    I'm guessing that this is the right thread for it, although I'm still not sure. Anyway, as for now I just wanted to say that I've had a foot fetish and a fetish for high heels and nylons for about as long as I can remember. As much as I like legs, feet can be very attractive to me whether they're bare, encased in nylon or with a pedicure. I also loved the very idea of footjobs and sucking, licking and smelling feet as well. High heels such as stilettos and pumps are along my favorite heels for this particular fetish as well.

    And since this thread, from the looks of it covers BDSM in general, foot fetishes and high heel fetishes are often a given in BDSM, especially in interests such as foot worship or ball-busting to name a few.

    Upon just skimming through the first few pages of this thread, it is nice to see some reassurance here and there as I quickly realized that I wasn't vanilla long before even turning 10, and considering how there's sometimes a lot of people that act as if everything/everybody should be vanilla, it still gives me some sense of relief to see like-minded people here, or anywhere else for that matter.
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    I personally feel like most people have at least one kink, whether or not they choose to admit it and/or explore it. I think we'd be a little boring if we were all vanilla.

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    If not everyone does, there are certainly some of us who can make up for it

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    New York Times: "When The Dominatrix Moved In Next Door". Nobody comes out of this smelling like roses, but the Domme in this article is particularly daft. The chatter among some professionals on Twitter is pretty much of the same sentiment as me, and none of them can vouch for knowing even who she is.

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    In another article, the main person causing a stir about the situation compared it to having a meth lab on the block, and then implied that the men are poor. Clearly she has no understanding of the cost of these services!

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    This is incredibly hard for me to post, and I could probably put it in other threads but I feel it best fits here. It's been stirring within me for awhile, and I feel it's about time to get it out here. I have written about it on FetLife, and have talked to people I know in BDSM or D/s lifestyles.

    2018 for me, was maybe the most depressing year of my life short of the 12 months following my father's arrest and removal from our lives. Last February, I learned of the death of a woman who I developed a Dominant/submissive bond with, and a deep friendship and understanding rooted in things in our early lives we found difficult to cope with as adults. Things I never could speak to in terms of the deep, dark truth with even my family. Not so much secrets but just how hard it could drag me down. Of all the things I miss, including our one and only night (our communication was limited to text and video chat) where we met and our passions roamed as freely as they could, I miss those moments of openness to each other the most.

    It was hard on many levels, the hardest of which being that I don't know any of her other friends or family. Nor do I really wish to introduce myself as someone she indulged these sides of herself with. And while I could tell my family and friends I lost a girlfriend, who could sympathize and understand the most simple and basic level of loss this was, with how much she surrendered herself it felt hollow amidst their inability to understand how deep a D/s relationship goes. And I wasn't about to teach them, either. It sounds selfish to write that in criticism of them now that I see it written out.

    The very worst thing I feel is that because I alone have these memories, I feel like it almost didn't happen. Too good to have been true that I connected with a woman who had a deep, if not troubled soul. By the time I found out she had passed we had not spoken for over a year. I found her obituary page and in it there were many tributes to a kind, generous woman with a spark and a spirit that didn't seem unbreakable to them. It did break in front of my eyes and I only wish I could have had done more to put it together. While I am over the initial shock of the loss that rendered me unable to cope for a very long 9 months after, I still think about her every day.

    New year's eve was unseasonably warm and it rained that morning. I sat outside and watched it pour down, and the metaphor could not be clearer that something was being washed away on that dreary morning. It does take more than a new calendar year to better myself from who I was, and as odd as it sounds I did feel genuine relief for awhile, and while I took a few emotional hits and anxieties I wished I had her to confide in about, I was able to be open to the ones I could talk to. I have re-established relationships, and have been a little more open to my family about who I am and how I feel. I am also working on my health, with it's own little victories and drawbacks, but I do feel a renewed determination.

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