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Faceplams: I'd probably be a little uptight if I were in your shoes. I'd ask the person who's invited about it, and maybe call them out on the dangers inherent if people mix play with inebriation.
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I'd probably be a little uptight if I were in your shoes. I'd ask the person who's invited about it, and maybe call them out on the dangers inherent if people mix play with inebriation.
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No, you're not uptight at all.
With all of the private parties I've been to, the rules of the party were always a direct reflection on the atmosphere the host wanted to encourage. It makes me assume that this party is more swinger-ish in nature.
If I were to get there and find it's a party that encourages heavy play, at the same time that weed and alcohol are being actively encouraged, that would definitely make me uncomfortable, too.
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I think if Sarah knows people who have been to the party before, it's a great idea to ask them about what they've experienced. But it's a private party, and the host is the queen/king -- it can be a meth and bondage party if that's the party they want to throw; you can't really lecture someone on the rules and atmosphere of their own party. To me, the appropriate response is just not attending.Originally Posted by onthewall2983
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Well, it is the first time that this person is hosting a get together, from what I gather.
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I ended up going with my friend.
It was basically one of the most horrible social experiences of my life.
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I'm sorry to hear that
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15 Photos Reveal What BDSM, Kink and Fetishism Really Look Like (a little NSFW, obviously).
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http://www.cracked.com/quick-fixes/4...han-you-expect
For everyone who thinks it's a beautiful love story and will be a wonderful, romantic movie. Seems like it'll make Twilight look Oscar worthy by comparison.
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I had a weird dream last night that I went to the movie and all they did was dress up in grey spandex suits and wrestle.
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That sounds like a much better movie.
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I am actively hoping this will bomb, and I think it very well could too. Twilight could get away with being stupid in part because it was appealing to hormonal teenagers. This is aiming for an adult audience, granted a young adult audience who probably were some of those very same teens but maybe it'll seem like "been there done that" to them too.
I won't be leery at anyone reading this who does go and see it, but count on me dusting off my Secretary DVD that night.
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I've never actually seen The Secretary, but I've wanted to for years. After 50 Shades came out, a lot of people started coming out of the woodwork talking about how that movie gave a much more realistic view on what a true BDSM relationship is like. And James Spader is just one of those guys I'll happily watch in damn near anything because he's just that awesome.
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Bitches have been looking forward to this movie since before it was even announced. I will be shocked if it doesn't do extremely well.
Secretary of good. A bit overhyped. But still enjoyable.
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It's about as positive a portrayal of it that I've seen in any movie, made in America anyway. It uses BDSM as character development, not for cheap thrills or low-ball comedy.
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I agree, despite the fact that James Spader fully scares the shit out of me. I've bookmarked @onthewall2983 's post to share when the shite one comes out.
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What amazed me about it the first time I saw it, is how much he turns the creep level down. His character is flawed and distant but not the least bit malevolent. It may just be what I have in common with the character, but that was my biggest takeaway from it.
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Oh, it's going to make a FUCK-ton of money. It's a horrible representation of the lifestyle, but somehow it's still acceptable porn for housewives and people who don't know any better. Remember how much Twilight made despite it getting nothing but negative reviews from anyone over the age of about 17? The only reason my sister and her friends went to see them was to turn it into a drinking game (whenever someone unnecessarily took off their shirt, they'd take a shot... they all needed their husbands to come pick their drunk asses up from the theater). But then again, most of the Harry Potter movies made more money separately than all four Twilight films made combined, so there's hope.
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It's R rated which means that it has to depend on the adult audience it's supposedly aiming (though you just know there are hordes of teenagers who will eat that shit up when it comes out on DVD, or even sneak in). If the word-of-mouth is as bad as the link may suggest, it could hurt it's chances a little. Or I'm just being hopeful.
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Oh no, why so bad?
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Well, on three different occasions, men began hitting me with objects without even being like "Hey" or "Hi". Like, just came up to me and started hitting me with shit. And I wasn't in the playroom at all. I was just walking around the other parts talking to people. At one point, I was sitting down and talking to someone on my right. Someone on the other side of my the hit me in the fucking face with a crop. Thinking that it was an accident, I turned around and looked at him, thinking he would apologize, and he just smiled. A girl who I was talking to a lot wanted me to "take a picture" with her, and a guy came up behind us with floggers.
Note that none of this was hard enough to cause pain or anything. It was just REALLY FUCKING ANNOYING since this is a crowd that is generally really concerned with consent. I think the drinking and weed had a lot to do with it. People were even doing Molly and shit. I mean, I'm a pretty big fan of all three of those things. But just not in a situation like this.
I tried to leave at like 1:00, but the train had stopped running at midnight for construction. The dude I rode with was like "Yeah, yeah, we'll leave soon", and we didn't end up leaving until 7:15 in the goddamn morning.
Also, and this is probably a weird thing on my part, but people just coming up and being like "What are you" is weird to me. Like, I understand the question and the intention behind it. It's just a personal thing to ask someone before you even know their name. Another annoying thing was the whole not taking no for an answer thing. Basically as soon as dudes started talking to me, I made it clear that I was not interested in playing. But I still got asked multiple times.
I'm probably nitpicking. It just wasn't what I had envisioned in my mind.
Last edited by Sarah K; 11-23-2014 at 09:20 PM.
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what the fuck
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Jesus christ... That sounds like a nightmare. Sorry you had to put up with all that crap.
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People need to learn some goddamn respect. No one should be in a situation like that, because a situation like that shouldn't even exist in the first place.
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I don't partake in any of what was imbibed at your party, I'm not straight-edge either, but I am really not well at ease if there's that kind of thing going on at events like these. At a munch is one thing, it's just people sitting around talking and maybe a demonstration or two. But at a play party, I can see how things can go from what Sarah experienced to worse really quick.
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Well, not to mention it was a sausage fest, so it kinda upped it to a fucking competition. There were 5 women all together(including me, so technically 4 who were participating), and maybe 25 dudes or so.
Lol. What a clusterfuck. I can chuckle about it now. But I was REAL PISSED that night.
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And I bet most if not all those guys were straight too. If they weren't, then it might have been something I'd never want to leave. On certain days anyway lol.
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Yeah... Like a year ago, that would have been a dream come true for me. Lol. Oh, how quickly things change.
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Like the last month or so, I've been really super interested in bootblacking, and I'm not sure why. It isn't something that I've ever even been around. But I find myself drawn to and fascinated by it for some reason.
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I have no idea what that is. Care to enlighten me?
I'm fully aware that I could look it up online in about ten seconds, but I have a feeling that an ETSer could make it so much more interesting and entertaining than a simple Google search.
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Sub service of... bootblacking. Lol
Shining boots(and other leather goods) of dominants in the scene. I like tasks and service. And I'm super super drawn to the whole "I am sitting above you, now you will do this for me" aspect of it.
I also feel this could be a good way for me to actually be INVOLVED at parties and such. I don't want to bottom at a party. But I think I would shine the shit out of some fucking boots if someone taught me in the proper way.
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