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    Did not get laid, still having bv probs, but didn't even want to. Neither of us were in the mood to. My desire to have sex with other people has been like... almost not-present lately and I can't figure out if it's depression or just fluid sexuality being fluid. Which like, isn't super great since I have a couple of dates I'm supposed to follow up with now that I'm back in NYC and stuff, and one of them is a girl who I think is just amazing and is super my type so w t f, brain.

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    i'm in a weird sexual slump, too. zero libido. none. it even goes beyond that right now -- i saw a porn ad this morning that honestly made me feel nauseated.

    wtf, indeed.

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    Ugh, solidarity like, dude. It's really bothering me. I miss feeling attracted to new people. Though hey, I'm remembering there was a burlesque dancer I saw last week who made me feel at least something. That's comforting.

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    Quote Originally Posted by kel View Post
    i'm in a weird sexual slump, too. zero libido. none. it even goes beyond that right now -- i saw a porn ad this morning that honestly made me feel nauseated.

    wtf, indeed.
    That seems to be going around. I'm going to use the Broad City explanation and blame it on Trump.

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    My favorite part about this is that it made me think about how I'd totally make out with Ilana because I keep forgetting there are people who exist characters I'd like to do that with, at least, even if I can't get into wanting to fuck

    Quote Originally Posted by Ilana
    “I’ve just been more anxious and depressed this whole disgusting gross year and now I have dead pussy,”


    :~)

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    Quote Originally Posted by kel View Post
    i'm in a weird sexual slump, too. zero libido. none. it even goes beyond that right now -- i saw a porn ad this morning that honestly made me feel nauseated.

    wtf, indeed.
    I, too, am having the strange lack of libido. The struggle is real.

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    Quote Originally Posted by elevenism View Post
    I, too, am having the strange lack of libido. The struggle is real.
    Same. My guess / hope is it's just the joys of seasonal anxiety. Cold and grey, cold and grey, cold and grey...it's easier to deal with than "it's too hot to even think about going outside," but it messes with my head.

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    Shouldn't that make us want to do the cuffing season thing, though?

    I finally wrapped some traveling so I'm back in NYC for the forseeable future so I actually have time to go on DATES and intellectually I want to but yeah, the libido thing is just a mess :/

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    Quote Originally Posted by playwithfire View Post
    Shouldn't that make us want to do the cuffing season thing, though?

    I finally wrapped some traveling so I'm back in NYC for the forseeable future so I actually have time to go on DATES and intellectually I want to but yeah, the libido thing is just a mess :/
    I mean, I'm in a long term relationship. Cuffing season (possibly my second most hated phrase in the world after "bae") is for single people who don't want to be single anymore. Here, winter just means the windows are drafty as fuck, we don't turn the heat up high because of it so it's never really "warm" inside, my better half spends most of her non-working time in bed, and I'm a lot less physically active due to a combination of factors ranging from my job to a vitamin D deficiency. It's the perfect storm for just feeling like crap and losing all interest in...you know.......stuff.

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    I'm in the midst of the longest dry spell for near 4 years (its been 3 months), Some days there is extreme libido, other days there is no desire for human interaction yet alone any libido, there is no in between.

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    http://gawker.com/its-the-horny-time-1710702578

    MUST BE NICE, I WOULDN'T KNOW BECAUSE MY LIBIDO IS STILL DEAD AS HELL

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    Quote Originally Posted by playwithfire View Post
    http://gawker.com/its-the-horny-time-1710702578

    MUST BE NICE, I WOULDN'T KNOW BECAUSE MY LIBIDO IS STILL DEAD AS HELL
    That's got to be one of the dumbest things I've read on the internet in a long time. I can't grasp why people were sad to see that website crumble.

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    I kinda love it for how ridiculous it is.

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    People always tell you that you're supposed to like Sex & the City if you're a woman. I hated that series with a passion. After I finished watching the last season, I felt like shit about my life because I wasn't in a relationship. I would much rather watch Supernatural or even that campy AHS.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Boots View Post
    People always tell you that you're supposed to like Sex & the City if you're a woman. I hated that series with a passion. After I finished watching the last season, I felt like shit about my life because I wasn't in a relationship. I would much rather watch Supernatural or even that campy AHS.
    this thread is for complaining about wanting to have sex...not for complaining about a TV show. i'm so confused by all of your posts.

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    On a huge dry spell

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    Quote Originally Posted by Boots View Post
    People always tell you that you're supposed to like Sex & the City if you're a woman.
    what? what people? that's ridiculous. also, you suck at being a part of a message board. i honestly don't know why you're here.

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    Three months.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bachy View Post
    Three months.
    didn't you move out to colorado for a relationship?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ribbitman View Post
    On a huge dry spell
    on a 4+ year dry spell. you'll be okay.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Thomas W Jefford View Post
    I'm in the midst of the longest dry spell for near 4 years (its been 3 months), Some days there is extreme libido, other days there is no desire for human interaction yet alone any libido, there is no in between.

    I've officially hit the 4 year dry spell. It sucks. I have a hard time meeting women.

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    It's been a couple years i guess since i've not even had a date since i moved here and that was just over two years ago. Thing is most times it's not really a big deal and if I really wanted to just get laid i'd imagine i could. These past couple of weeks though my biology has been kicking it up a notch or 10. To quote a song, "It's been so long that even the roses hips are turning me on."

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pillfred View Post
    It's been a couple years i guess since i've not even had a date since i moved here and that was just over two years ago. Thing is most times it's not really a big deal and if I really wanted to just get laid i'd imagine i could. These past couple of weeks though my biology has been kicking it up a notch or 10. To quote a song, "It's been so long that even the roses hips are turning me on."
    haha nice murder by death quote

    hope you find someone soon!

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    Quote Originally Posted by eversonpoe View Post
    didn't you move out to colorado for a relationship?
    The move is on July 31st. That’s a whole other point of stress for myself.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cookster426 View Post
    I've officially hit the 4 year dry spell. It sucks. I have a hard time meeting women.
    And since the U.S. Government got rid of Craiglist and Back Page, it is really hard in the dating scene these days. Sometimes, a bitch gets tired of the same ole stupid ass small talk. And all I want to say is "Here is $50. What will your penis do for it." I guess, many guys feel that way about vagina, too.
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    I was participating in an rpg session on Saturday and I was contemplating one of my team members (who is clever and good for banter, which is basically kryptonite for me) and was like "oh I totally want to make out with him" which is not a good idea and not something I plan to pursue but AM I MAYBE FINALLY FINDING PEOPLE ATTRACTIVE IN AN ACTIONABLE FASHION AGAIN? HOPE SPRINGS ETERNAL

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    Quote Originally Posted by playwithfire View Post
    I was participating in an rpg session on Saturday and I was contemplating one of my team members (who is clever and good for banter, which is basically kryptonite for me) and was like "oh I totally want to make out with him" which is not a good idea and not something I plan to pursue but AM I MAYBE FINALLY FINDING PEOPLE ATTRACTIVE IN AN ACTIONABLE FASHION AGAIN? HOPE SPRINGS ETERNAL
    welcome to boner city, dude

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    I think i've finally learnt to let go of needing someone. The last actual date i had was 2011 (and the last time i got laid...i hate that term) but i've finally gotten to the place where i realise constantly feeling i needed someone was probably a big part of what was making my depression so bad. I'm much better off now just making sure i'm OK then chasing the idea of having a partner, and just better off just letting whatever happens, happens (even if that does mean i'll be single for most of my life)
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    Quote Originally Posted by Haysey View Post
    I think i've finally learnt to let go of needing someone. The last actual date i had was 2011 (and the last time i got laid...i hate that term) but i've finally gotten to the place where i realise constantly feeling a needed someone was probably a big part of what was making my depression so bad. I'm much better off now just making sure i'm OK then chasing the idea of having a partner, and just better off just letting whatever happens, happens (even if that does mean i'll be single for most of my life)

    That's how I feel. I haven't been in a serious relationship in 5 years, but during this period I've been focusing on myself and feeling better about myself. I've accomplished so much such as getting a 2nd college degree, buying a house, etc. I don't think about whom my next girlfriend is going to be. I'm just going to let things happen even if it means being single for a long time. Being single has its advantages though. You can do whatever you want without worrying if the other person is having a good time. I've been able to travel and go to concerts I've been wanting to go to without dragging someone else. (Yes I go to concerts alone. Don't care).

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    This seems as good a place as any I've seen to share this story of thing: I've been in a sort of rut since I hit puberty. I have *no idea* how to express any sort of sexual/romantic interest to someone. It's antithetical to my programming. My friend the other night was telling me that my problem is overthinking everything, and while he has a point, it hit me that going with my gut isn't a solution because at the end of the day that's what keeps me from capitalizing on the (already quite rare) opportunities.

    The closest I've come was a couple months ago, some girl on Tinder messaged me (they always have to message me) and was extremely forward about how she felt--told me I was cute, that she was interested in me, and eventually straight up that she wanted to fuck. Even tried dirty talk, which I reluctantly contributed to for the first time (saying stuff like that makes me reeeaally uncomfortable). Finally, we made plans to meet up at my place and split a joint, just to hang out. I psyched myself up so, so hard--"She's given you everything, you fucking dunce, now is the time, take the lead, be cool"--and, to my credit, I thought it started out alright. Some awkward smiling and introductions, some banter.

    The first real problems were when the joint came into the mix; I sell legal weed for work, but I bit off waaaay more than I could chew. Defcon 5 anxiety kicked in... the kind where you're having to remind yourself not to physically shake because you'll look insane, and you think you might have a heart attack. Last time I had that was when my friends tried to set me up with a gal three years ago, but let's skip that. What proceeded was her talking for an eternity while I mostly said "yeah" and things to that effect, too crippled to make any kind of decision. She eventually said she had to use the bathroom, which got us back inside, and then we continued this but sitting on my bed. She basically had to give me permission to go get water when I said my mouth was dry. After a while of sitting on the bed talking, she says she's tired and is gonna head out. I walk her to her car, and as we look at each other before she gets in, in what's definitely in the top five most thrilling moments of my life, I go in for a kiss. It's very short, before I pull away and ask "was that bad?", to which she lies and says it's fine before never contacting me again, but damn, walking back inside after that was something else.

    But anyway, I feel like that story is my story in a nutshell. I feel like Chidi in The Good Place. Opportunities handing themselves to you like that is like a unicorn, and every time I've completely choked, no matter how self-aware I felt going in. And now my only single friend, my best bud in this city of Seattle that I moved to a couple years ago, got himself a girlfriend for his last two months before he moves away, which sucks even harder not because of any sort of jealously, I'm happy for him, but just because I really like hanging out and being the third wheel sucks.

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