ah, interesting. is wanting to be that person a sexual thing? that happened to me once, about another guy -- I'm not (very) gay (at least, not for normal dudes (long story)), but looking back, it was pretty clear that my projection had sort of weird sexual undertones.
I think "Somewhat Damaged" works pretty well to himself -- the vision of who he wants to be, who he thinks he is, is who is singing to. but as he tries to live that life, he finds that vision has betrayed him; he's tucked the real him deep inside -- under this shell ("in the back, off the side, and far away / is a place, where I hide and where I stay") -- and he finds that that idealized vision was not there when he needed it and didn't have the answers he needed = "and where were you?" ... And hence begins the album...
EDIT: as a side note, thanks for giving me a reason to listen to this song just now... one of NIN's best...
Last edited by screwdriver; 06-25-2014 at 07:46 PM.
dude, whatever you think love is -- love is not that! you're not in love, you're just obsessed. love is an act, not a state of being. and to quote another song, "love is not enough" ;-)
but, other than that -- that really sucks :-/ sorry to hear about it. I'm sure anything I could say you've already thought of / heard a million times...
without knowing anything about you and only narcissistically looking at myself, I would say that the times I've been most obsessed with people wasn't because I didn't love myself -- it was almost the opposite. I didn't think I needed to work on me, to invest in me, because I thought that the other person could fill what was missing in me -- I didn't realize that I was the only one who could do that
dude, that's not silly at all -- that's totally fair! but that should be a starting point, not a crutch for 10 years! but I don't mean to beat up on you. but, um, let it go -- you would never, ever want to be with someone who it took 10 years to realize they want to be with you, anyway. its trite but true...
anywho... "I'm just trying to find my way / oh dear lord, hear my prayer"