We don't... talk on the phone. I don't have many people in my life who do that. I guess I'll listen to the new Kendrick Lamar and then come up with an email. Oh, this digital age. <3
We don't... talk on the phone. I don't have many people in my life who do that. I guess I'll listen to the new Kendrick Lamar and then come up with an email. Oh, this digital age. <3
i'm of the school of thought that if you blab and text on the phone, you don't have boo to talk about when you see each other. you correspond on the phone for a meeting place and time, then have great conversation when you see them in front of you. it keeps things fresh and ALIVE.
i'm glad to see others still think this way. i'm a freak among my peers because i don't own a CP.
good god, you're still one of those?! But yes, why not just call?! It's true that most of us won't unanswer a 25% of calls... and although, the phone call won't be answered and will be redirected to voice mail... voice mail that is ignored... over a text... and if you get ignored via text... there's no question... any questions?
I'm more comfortable with texting. Outside of work where I'm pretty much always on the phone, I only really talk with my parents.
Well, another development. So I was talking (texting) to my friend today about the whole horror marathon, suggesting movies and such. I suggested the weekend after next because she's going out of town next Wednesday, but she asked if I was available sooner. Seems like she really wants to spend time with me.
Sorry, I misspoke. I meant to say, "That's the message you want to get across," which I agree has ambiguity to it. You shouldn't just put everything out there, especially in a text. It allows some mystery and negotiation in the following communications. I only meant to focus on the fact that she shouldn't undermine herself with backpedaling.
I did the music email thing and I did leave in the qualifiers. I think that was good advice, but I'm not afraid of undermining myself in that situation, as I would be genuinely interested in just being friends with her and wouldn't want to lose out on that by seeming to be focused on dating stuff. We'll see!
All that moderate amount of effort I was putting in to the ~world of online dating~ earlier this year seems to have fizzled out. Between a stupid ridiculous unattainable crush I have on someone, hooking up with my ex on very rare occasion (not a big deal), hooking up with a friend and colleague on very rare occasion (not a big deal), and things developing very slowly with a ladyfriend of that friend (she's delightful and I think things will be awesome) stuff is both... not dead but kind of dead. Meh. *shrugs* March is for some downtime.
Here, Relationship Problems overview by The Oatmeal.
http://theoatmeal.com/comics/problems
I really, really don't know how to handle it when the people I'm dating start getting all clingy and want to be in contact like constantly. I NEED TIME AWAY FROM YOU IF YOU WANT ME TO SPEND TIME WITH YOU.
hahaha we could never date. i hate being by myself (as an only child, i've spent enough time alone, thank you) and when i like someone, i just want to be around them. when my wife and i first started dating she was definitely in the "i need some time to myself" camp and we actually got in a huge fight about it (probably our biggest fight ever) after only dating for about a month. eventually we worked it out and these days she ALWAYS wants to be around me haha.
I mean I'm not talking about like weeks of no contact. Just like... a day or two Haha. I feel smothered easily. And I'm a definite "nope" on the children front! I need quiet time.
I'm with you on this. My ex and I used to see each other in a solid 1:1 way once a week and I was totally fine with that. I like communication and affection and that stuff matters to me a lot, but I find too much attention/time with a partner stifling at a certain point.
Welp, I royally fucked up and now I fear I may have lost one of the best friends I've ever known.
What happened?
Maybe I overreacted. We talked. All is gravy.
For about a month and a half I've been seeing this woman from Japan who's living here in Vancouver to improve her English and travel. Well, slowly over this time I've been progressing physically. On Thursday I finally grabbing her butt. All good but then Saturday I try to make plans with her to go to my friend's dinner. She said yes, but then my friend cancelled. I asked her if she still wanted to meet and she said no. She only wanted to meet if other people would be there because she wants to meet new people. I feel upset and I won't message her until she messages me. And after that I will lay back... I want to date around anyways and I need to increase the size of my circle of friends. The only thing is that I'm really falling for her.
When you meet someone really cool and you have a lot in common and then while getting an impromptu shoulder rub they mention how nice your shoulders are to massage compared to their bony girlfriend back home... dammit
You could say that was a... Mixed massage !
I'll see myself out.
This October I will have been dating my girlfriend for 2 years. We are waiting on a call back to move into a place. We are both really excited to live together. I can't wait for that day. We've both had a rough life and I'm glad we can support each other emotionally and Spiritually as well.