Originally Posted by
allegro
Most marriage counseling starts at a point where it's way too late and one partner has already gone past the point of no return and is barely willing to put in any effort because she/he has already exhausted all emotional efforts and has given up and has already, emotionally, moved on. And the counseling can be further complicated by the psychological problems of one partner who, ultimately, will never really change or needs years of individual counseling (e.g. one partner commits domestic abuse). Relationships are made up of two people and if those two people are not going to be truly compatible, no amount of counseling and money in the world will fix that shit; and that's not something people know until they give marriage a test drive. It's why a lot of couples go to "pre-marriage counseling," to develop good communication habits in advance, before problems start. Not sure if that's useful, statistics will tell with time.