How fucked was your day?

[allegate]

Okay, ya'll got me Googlin' now, lol

"It turns out that Grey Poupon Dijon mustard is derived from the founders of the mustard empire. Grey provided the recipe, and Poupon financed the venture."

"The body uses acetic acid to produce acetylcholine, which is essential for leg muscle contractions. This is why mustard is effective for leg cramp relief. Mustard contains acetic acid. Yellow Mustard is the only kind of mustard documented to relieve nighttime leg cramps."

I'll be damned, he was right. He even said "I don't know why it works" but now I do. I didn't even think to Google it because what the hell, right?

Thanks!

@sweeterthan I actually do feel better, and as I told my boss today if I had waited a couple more days I wouldn't have bothered because my leg stopped hurting. And if your leg doesn't hurt you don't go in for a $35 copay visit for someone to say "I don't know why your leg was hurting".

bonus: he said "what if they didn't believe you that you weren't the mental patient and held you there" and thanks Dan now I have something else to worry about.

ya learn something new everyday! usually i just drink more water if i get a leg cramp.

one of the medical reports I read about cramping said that not only is water not effective, neither are bananas or supplements that you always hear about like potassium and...I forget the other. That thing really took me for a loop because finding out nothing that you've been told for 40-odd years is true? wow.

[ickyvicky]

I would always get charley horses, so I try to eat a banana everyday. I'll try mustard now! Thanks, Doc! lol

[Magnetic]

Fascinating. When I got leg cramps I reached for sugar-free sports drink that had potassium, which seemed to help. When I was running in my 20s, I developed a tolerance for yogurt - normally I can't stomach the flavor to choke it down. Now that I'm not running anymore....can't deal with yogurt.

[shade]

I think with today's diet we're all lacking one or another thing. Especially when not eating fairly healthy.
Bananas and mustard seem to be a wiser choice compared to the uncontrolled supplements market that has had a big comeback. It's crazy what people throw down their throats on a daily basis with almost zero regulation.
I have leg cramps almost daily and take potassium, it got a bit better. But I also hydrate way too little and work out a lot, so I'm not really surprised my muscles are whining all the time.

[sweeterthan]

i’ve been dealing with eye lid problems for a few years now and i agree that modern medicine is lacking. yes, at some point i was taking too many supplements, trying anything that might work. i’ve only had one doctor suggest diet changes. she was filling in for my doctor and suggested i try going gluten free. from there it was a bit of journey. now i’m gluten and dairy free which fucking blows to be honest but it’s helped a ton. i had a lot of hair loss and it started growing back after these diet changes. i found a dermatologist podcast and that guy suggested adding more veggies into your diet. i’m not anti veggie but he said to eat 6-7 a day and make sure they’re green. i’m having really good results as long as i don’t cheat with sugar. some days are better than others. i tell myself that not eating things like cheese and candy is helping my body and it’s worth fighting those cravings.

this a long tmi post to say yes, so many of our problems can be treated with diet. i’ve seen a bunch of doctors and only one of them suggested diet changes. it doesn’t happen over night either, it’s gotta be lasting change in order to help.

[allegro]

this a long tmi post to say yes, so many of our problems can be treated with diet. i’ve seen a bunch of doctors and only one of them suggested diet changes. it doesn’t happen over night either, it’s gotta be lasting change in order to help.

Totally. Although, if I had to totally give up cheese, I’d want to kill myself.

It’s amazing how docs don’t promote proper nutrition via diet (vs. supplements). Also, nearly all of us don’t get enough vitamin D.

My uncle used to drink tonic water for leg cramps because of quinine.

This says that doesn’t work, but drink water.


Meanwhile, this is day two of being pretty dizzy. Like, lightheaded. Like, I feel if I move too quickly I’ll fall on my ass and get hurt. This has never happened to me. I don’t know WTF is going on. I had to drive to Mom’s yesterday to supervise an electrician while G was at our place supervising construction, and driving was kind of scary. I had to go up to the supermarket for my Mom, and it was pretty difficult. I took a Dramamine today and it helped some, but not totally. I guess I will have too see my doc if this isn’t improved by tomorrow.

Last week, I had to see my eye doctor. I got a bunch of abrasions on my left cornea, evidently because I was in the construction area in my house, dust debris was flying around, some must have gone into my eye, then I RUBBED MY EYE. Steroid / antibiotic drops for two weeks.

[shade]

It's my mantra.
There's a pill or supplement for everything today. Got high blood pressure? Take a pill. Got type 2 diabetes? Here's a pill. Got chronic back pain? Here's a pill. Got arthritis? Here's a pill. Depressed? Here's your pill.
Oh, and here's your side effects. Take them all together? Here's your interactions. Have fun.

I'm not some homeopathic-go-vegan-shaman-ritual-medicine-anti-vax-naturopath-oil-sniffing-lunatic. I pay my bills by the above.

But from personal experience, and friends that went the same way, I can say: exercise, nutrition and generally taking good care of yourself goes a long way and for many conditions works better than modern medicine - take mental health and lifestyle diseases.

[fillow]

Had an accident while cycling today... Was exploring some path I never rode before and caught a thick branch with a handle. Thankfully no body part is broken as I landed on my side. Bike suffered a broken front reflector. Elbow hurts. First fall in two or three years.
Also stumbled onto some roadwork on the way back and had to take huge detour.

[shade]

Mountainbiking?
Ouch, feel better. You'll probably feel it full force tomorrow.

[Jinsai]

just a random observation, but it's really weird how a decent mustard brand has become this famously avoided thing, because of an advertising campaign in the 80s where it became ubiquitous with being a piece of shit snob.

Because Grey Poupon is good, and it's not like it's even expensive or fancy really. Worst advertising campaign of all time.

[allegate]

@allegro, I saw some stuff about that quinine and almost all of it was a forcible "NO". I'm still drinking a lot of water and Gatorade and taking magnesium and potassium supplements. I even take Soma once I get home from work and again before bed for the muscle relaxant. I still get cramps but it's once or twice a week instead of 3-4 times a night.

I need to eat a lot more veggies. I get my daily recommended of course but I really want to try to get further into it. When my son was younger we would have a 'finger food night' where we'd cut up a lot of veggies and eat that and watch a movie or something so he loves veggies - except for peas but he likes snap peas(?!?) - but still. It would be nice to have even more veggies.

dizzy sucks, especially while driving. Hope you figure that out.

also RE eye balls: I was listening to this podcast and the guy said he got a sunburn on his eyeballs because of the sun reflecting off the water. weird stuff.

[Jinsai]

also RE eye balls: I was listening to this podcast and the guy said he got a sunburn on his eyeballs because of the sun reflecting off the water. weird stuff.

I apparently got something similar once. looked like a small cyst near my cornea. Freaked me out when I saw it, but it eventually went away after about a year or so.

[otnavuskire]

My dog, Ruby has a broken toe. One of her rear dewclaws. The vet wrapped it up and said she needed to be restricted to lower activity and be leash walked for a month. Which sucks since she's super high energy and very active. This was all diagnosed on Wednesday.


The vet just called again a few minutes ago. They had a radiologist look at Ruby’s x-ray. They’re concerned that it’s possible that Ruby’s fracture could have been caused by something infectious or cancerous. My vet thinks cancer is less likely due to her young age. And it’s possible that neither is the problem. But now she’s gotta go on antibiotics, I gotta get a urine sample to bring in on Monday, and they want to have the dewclaw removed and looked at to check for cancer.


Unfortunately it’s impossible to get appointments right now. I just made a consult appointment (so not even a surgical one) at a specialist and the earliest they could make it was July 27. I'm hoping I'll be able to get one sooner at another vet, but everyone is slammed right now.


Ugh.

Those who have been following along may remember that I lost two dogs in less than two months last October and November. My Willow who died thanks to antibiotics poisoning her kidneys a week before the five year anniversary of her adoption. And then Nugget who I adopted a month later and died two weeks later due to internal bleeding from complications from her spay surgery. I'm trying to stay positive but if things go bad with Ruby, I don't know if I could take it.

[allegro]

and the earliest they could make it was July 27

WHAT?!?!?! Oh my God. Holy shit.

I hope Ruby will be okay!

[otnavuskire]

WHAT?!?!?! Oh my God. Holy shit.

I hope Ruby will be okay!

Yeah, the vets around here are totally slammed. Many of them aren't even accepting new patients right now. The vet I made that appointment with is a specialist. My personal vet should be giving me a call sometime hopefully next week to talk about options there, so I'm hoping that they can get Ruby in sooner than that. Even if they schedule a surgery for the same day it would still be better as the appointment I have now is just a consult.

EDIT:
My vet just called and said they moved stuff around and are able to get her in for surgery next Thursday. That's somewhat of a relief I guess.


But still...


Ugh.

[Magnetic]

By all the gods... Ruby must be ok!!
Any wait isn't ideal, but next Thursday sounds better than previous options. Fingers and toes crossed.

[shade]

Hope she'll be okay. Fingers crossed. I lost my dog in 2013 and I have never gotten another one. I don't think I could go through it again..
I'm surprised at the waiting time for appointments?
What the fuck? It's faster to get a specialist appointment for a human here than for a dog by what you describe...

[otnavuskire]

What the fuck? It's faster to get a specialist appointment for a human here than for a dog by what you describe...

I think it has a lot to do with the boom in pet adoptions that happened during the pandemic. And a lot of vets were already short staffed even before the pandemic started. Put those two things together and you've got a serious lack of appointments. Of course if it was a true emergency, a pet would be seen a lot sooner/immediately if necessary.

[allegate]

and, uh, not to bring the thread down (seriously this is going to bring the thread way down) but there's another factor as well: Alarming suicide rates reflective of stresses felt by veterinarians

[otnavuskire]

and, uh, not to bring the thread down (seriously this is going to bring the thread way down) but there's another factor as well: Alarming suicide rates reflective of stresses felt by veterinarians

One of the reasons my vet is so short staffed is they've had a few staff members quit due to client abuse. Sucks. People are shitty.

[shade]

Honestly, I couldn't do that job - thanks to the owners. There's people that want to put down their perfectly healthy pets for whatever reasons. Or because they can't pay the bills.
I have no idea how the laws in the US are evolving, but out here pets are still considered property and I can't even smash in a car window to get a dying dog out of an overheating car without getting into trouble. Bet it's the same in the States? Probably instead of the cops coming after me it will be some self-righteous lunatic with a gun.

[eversonpoe]

i know multiple people who are vet techs or used to be, and my mom does dog massage at a vet. the clients are often some of the most belligerent and entitled people in existence. people's animal companions are SUPER important, and you would think they would treat the people trying to help those animals with respect and kindness...but i guess that's not how most people function. it's the same with the foodservice industry.

[eachpassingphase]

So I wanted to pop back into this thread for some updates. A few months ago I had shared about my marriage, and a lot has transpired since then. Most notably - he has officially moved out.

I've been up and down with how I feel about things, but I found a new therapist that I really click with and I'm going weekly now. I've come to the realization that my husband always been shitty to me. I grew up in a family where every generation dealt with the most insane levels of domestic violence. As a consequence, more subtle forms of emotional abuse went totally unnoticed by me. I knew he was emotionally abusing me in the last few months, but that stuff was always there in less direct ways. He withholds affection when he doesn't like things you've done or said, he always thinks he's the smartest person in the room (he's undeniably bright, but he doesn't know everything), he holds grudges over petty things and never lets you forget about them etc. I can count on one hand the amount of times he's sincerely apologized to me in 11 years. Meanwhile, I found myself apologizing constantly.

I felt really stupid once I figured that out. I don't tolerate anybody else treating me that way, and I usually pick up on that sort of thing in other people really quickly. But it never dawned on me that he was sort of a narcissist the whole time. I mentioned that to my therapist, and he was like "I'm literally trained to do this for my job, and I don't always pick up on it either. Don't be so hard on yourself, this can happen to anybody."

Do I miss my husband? Not at all. I miss being a wife, but I don't miss being his wife. I hate that the life I was building with him turned out to be a lie. I hate that my youngest is now confused and her life will be affected in ways I can't explain to her due to her disabilities. But do I want him back? Not even a little. It's nice to not have to check in with another adult before every little thing. It's nice that my house is always clean now. It's nice that I don't have to listen to somebody complain constantly about everything. It's nice to not have to ask somebody "are you mad at me?" once a day because they are sulking in a corner somewhere and not telling me what's wrong.

His behavior has only gotten uglier since he moved out. Just constant lies about what happened between us. We've followed each other's accounts on reddit for years, and I think he forgot that. So I see all his damn posts. He made some comment in a reddit thread the other day about how I "surprised" him with divorce by packing up all his shit. Which is obviously a lie. He was also mad that I unfriended him on Facebook. Remember - this is a man who made sure to tell me how selfish, unemotional and unattractive I am repeatedly for months on his way out the door. Why do you want to be Facebook friends with me? I didn't unfriend him as a punitive measure, I unfriended him because we aren't fucking friends.

He's getting everything he wants, so why is he so angry at me? What's with the lying to strangers on the internet? It's so bizarre.

Anyway, this whole thing will hopefully be legally concluded this fall. It has made me extremely wary of dating or remarrying again in the future. Maybe one day I'll date again, but I never want to share finances or a house with anybody again. I'm too paranoid about my daughter's safety to bring another dude into my house, and I'm too paranoid about my own judgement to trust anybody romantically since I clearly didn't recognize how awful he really was.

In conclusion, I'm actually doing ok practically speaking and no longer heartbroken. Mostly just mad at myself right now.

[allegro]

In conclusion, I'm actually doing ok practically speaking and no longer heartbroken. Mostly just mad at myself right now.

I'm really glad you're doing okay. But, please don't be mad at yourself. You're a good person - that's why you didn't see what a BAD person he is.

[shade]

Do I miss my husband? Not at all. I miss being a wife, but I don't miss being his wife. I hate that the life I was building with him turned out to be a lie. I hate that my youngest is now confused and her life will be affected in ways I can't explain to her due to her disabilities. But do I want him back? Not even a little. It's nice to not have to check in with another adult before every little thing. It's nice that my house is always clean now. It's nice that I don't have to listen to somebody complain constantly about everything. It's nice to not have to ask somebody "are you mad at me?" once a day because they are sulking in a corner somewhere and not telling me what's wrong.

In conclusion, I'm actually doing ok practically speaking and no longer heartbroken. Mostly just mad at myself right now.

Mad for what? Waiting this long until there was an end to it? Don't be mad. You had a life together, and with a household/house/mortgage etc. and children there are always strings attached. It's natural to try and "safe" what you have, or at least give it the benefit of the doubt.

I kind of get what you mean and what you write really reminds me of myself, although in a pretty different situation.
I recently ended a six year relationship and came to the conclusion that I value my freedom, independence and solitude (and I mean this in a good way) more than anything else in this life. I'm not a domestic housewife. I don't want to grow roots, I'm not a tree. I don't need marriage for the sake of social compulsion. I will, for my own personal reasons, never have children. It's hard to find a guy who really is OK with my life choices. Most fake to be OK with it, those encounters usually ended quickly. Others were OK with it but eventually grew soft on me and started pressuring me into that white-picket-fence-house/marry me/plant-a-tree/have-a-kid direction. It's okay, it's what most people want out of life, I get it. My previous long-term relationship ex, who I admittedly turned down pretty badly, is happily married with two kids and a home now, we parted ways exactly because of things taking that turn..
This latest one? Let's see where he ends up. At least there's no drama, I'm really not into drama. Just two adults splitting up a household, works for me.




As for the colonoscopy (this is a weird change of topics, man..): glad it all went well and seems to be nothing serious! I'd so insist on getting hammered with drugs. No way I'd do that consciously, haha

[allegro]

Ryan, at least they found the polyps way earlier than the typical age-50, too. That’s great. I hope it all works out.

[Erneuert]

Ryan, at least they found the polyps way earlier than the typical age-50, too. That’s great. I hope it all works out.

Yeah, definitely! What are polyps exactly? I haven’t bothered to Dr. Google it.

Also, there are so many videos on YT of people post-colonoscopy doing these massive farts and having a jolly old time. I didn’t need to fart at all after it was done. What’s with that? lol.

[allegro]

Yeah, definitely! What are polyps exactly? I haven’t bothered to Dr. Google it.

Mayo Clinic:

A colon polyp is a small clump of cells that forms on the lining of the colon. Most colon polyps are harmless. But over time, some colon polyps can develop into colon cancer, which is often fatal when found in its later stages.

There are two main categories of polyps, non-neoplastic and neoplastic. Non-neoplastic polyps include hyperplastic polyps, inflammatory polyps and hamartomatous polyps. These types of polyps typically do not become cancerous. Neoplastic polyps include adenomas and serrated types. In general, the larger a polyp, the greater the risk of cancer, especially with neoplastic polyps.

See this: https://www.verywellhealth.com/what-...-polyp-5080136

Colon polyps are very common; but since they can lead to cancer, the sooner they get removed and biopsied, the better.

[Jinsai]

Well, I guess it means your guts aren't suuuuuper messed up, and that's good!

In other news, oh god I checked my dog's head... he's been dealing with cancer and increasingly less and less energy... this marijuana juice I spray in his mouth seems to help and he eventually gets up and wags his tail but eventually just seems to sleep all day and doesn't like to be pet. There's now a hole in the side of his head about the size of a quarter, and it's just oozing this goop that looks like the slime from Ghostbusters. The doctors say just don't touch it or try to clean it, that way it might naturally heal. It's hard to even clean this side of his face. The stuff coming out of this hole in his head is just leaking out all over his face...

And this is not a happy animal. The vet says there's no "real pain" and I'm getting... I don't know.

[allegate]

sorry, confusing sentence structure but that's why I posted that article as well.

I know that my 2x attempts were both 'awake' but also with the forgetting drug administered. They wanted me awake to follow directions but didn't want me to remember anything, basically.