How fucked was your day?

[anita]

One of my cats isn't urinating, and is clearly uncomfortable and in pain. I can't take him to the vet until the morning, because I just noticed it before I was heading to my overnight shift. Blah. I hope he does ok until then.

[sublimaze]

One of my cats isn't urinating, and is clearly uncomfortable and in pain. I can't take him to the vet until the morning, because I just noticed it before I was heading to my overnight shift. Blah. I hope he does ok until then.

Hope he's ok, anita.

Hula, I'm so sorry. Pets are furry children.

[anita]

Hope he's ok, anita.

Hula, I'm so sorry. Pets are furry children.

Thanks. He's at the animal hospital until Monday. He had a urethral blockage. They had to sedate and catheterize him. I feel bad because he's in a kennel. He usually sleeps in my bed or my roommate's bed. Le sigh.

[Lew]

first thing this morning, while still crawling out of the arms of glorious sleep, i find out that someone very close to me FINALLY confessed their infidelity to someone else very close to me.
then i found out my 12 year old son, who appears to be entering the golden age of hormones AND has aspergers syndrome, is on his 3rd week of being a total fuck to girls in his class. he is being beyond a dink. i cannot seem to get through to him that a) he is bullying and b) he isn't funny to anyone outside his own mind and c) he is a pubic hair away from losing anything that has meaning to him (and trust me, there is NOT a lot that matters to this boy). he is usually pretty good once you can get him into someone else's shoes, in terms of perspective, but i cannot do it this time. and gods forbid you say anything that hints at the possibility that he is interested in girls. and, oh ugh, the worst is that i guarantee that 99% of what he is saying and doing is based on something he watched or read. LIFE ISN'T AN EPISODE OF FUCKING SUITE LIFE, DUDE.
then i drop off pizza lunch to the 6 year old son and catch him getting in trouble for not listening in class...he was in the middle of art work, which he loves, and i guess he didn't want to stop...THEN he gets in trouble, again, because his idea of tidying up was to shove everything in his desk. i get that the teacher was frustrated, but when he looked at me with teary eyes i wanted to grab him and bring him home.
now i am supposed to be writing a letter to the school board because i just found out they are changing the education assistants over the christmas holidays. because OBVIOUSLY changing support staff on the kids MID YEAR makes sense for the special education department ??????????? if this was due to illness, or maternity leave, i understand...but you would think that mid year support staff changes would be a no-no.
for fuck sake.
FUCK.
oh yeah, and i am a really REALLY bad cook...but i want my kids to eat well...so i spent hours yesterday making fucking vegetable purees to hide in tomato sauce...put said sauce into lasagna aaaaaaaaaannnnnnnnnnnnnndddddddddd used too little sauce. while i give props to my dad for still eating it, and the eldest boy (he has no taste buds, of this i am certain), the youngest summed it all up with one single look.
ok, so we are all healthy and these are my firstworldproblemsboohoohoomadame, but i am fucking majorly bummed out.

[Charmingly Miserable]

first thing this morning, while still crawling out of the arms of glorious sleep, i find out that someone very close to me FINALLY confessed their infidelity to someone else very close to me.
then i found out my 12 year old son, who appears to be entering the golden age of hormones AND has aspergers syndrome, is on his 3rd week of being a total fuck to girls in his class. he is being beyond a dink. i cannot seem to get through to him that a) he is bullying and b) he isn't funny to anyone outside his own mind and c) he is a pubic hair away from losing anything that has meaning to him (and trust me, there is NOT a lot that matters to this boy). he is usually pretty good once you can get him into someone else's shoes, in terms of perspective, but i cannot do it this time. and gods forbid you say anything that hints at the possibility that he is interested in girls. and, oh ugh, the worst is that i guarantee that 99% of what he is saying and doing is based on something he watched or read. LIFE ISN'T AN EPISODE OF FUCKING SUITE LIFE, DUDE.


now i am supposed to be writing a letter to the school board because i just found out they are changing the education assistants over the christmas holidays. because OBVIOUSLY changing support staff on the kids MID YEAR makes sense for the special education department ??????????? if this was due to illness, or maternity leave, i understand...but you would think that mid year support staff changes would be a no-no.
for fuck sake.
FUCK.

Sorry. I know your frustration. I'm pretty sure you must be pissed at staff changes. I work in special ed and I see the effects on the children that can happen when staff changes. I don't know where you live but my school district doesn't think of things like these when they change staff around. Fortunately, I'm in a permanent spot and my students are well used to me. From what I read, it seems like your son stims off of tv? If so, are his behaviors out of control? Have you thought of a little behavior modification? Or do you feel he doesn't need it? I hope things go better for you and son.

[Lew]

Sorry. I know your frustration. I'm pretty sure you must be pissed at staff changes. I work in special ed and I see the effects on the children that can happen when staff changes. I don't know where you live but my school district doesn't think of things like these when they change staff around. Fortunately, I'm in a permanent spot and my students are well used to me. From what I read, it seems like your son stims off of tv? If so, are his behaviors out of control? Have you thought of a little behavior modification? Or do you feel he doesn't need it? I hope things go better for you and son.

i am not sure if the job posting, mid year, is a school board thing or a union thing. i am waiting to find out. the e.a. said that it looks like he has a good chance at keeping the position, but since he is pretty much only the second school staff member my son has trusted EVER, and he is very forthcoming with his e.a. i want to do what i can to ensure they keep him. it is hard to make sure the board understands, as well, that yes i am fighting for my son but i am also fighting for EVERY kid who is facing losing their e.a's.
it is so illogical. these are kids who do not trust easily and have serious issues with transitions. ????? i get that the real world is full of some chaos and we can't keep a bubble around the kids, but when and where you have the ability to accomodate them: DO IT.

as for my boy (lol. he is taller than i am now. weirdest parenting moment yet. he is a techno junkie, not surprisingly. i have found that he takes scenes and dialogue from tv shows or computer games and uses them irl. the hardest part of the girl problems right now is that a) i know he is trying to be cool and b) the girls are fine with him, based on how they are around him after school, but the school is going mental. i get that he has to behave a certain way but i don't understand why context is never part of the equation when it comes to behavioural issues, period. c) i asked his e.a. to explain the double standard in society, because this is a huge part of life he has to try to understand OR try to work with, even if he doesn't understand. in his grade, 7, if a boy does something to a girl the reaction is way different and far more intense than if a girl did the same. inequality rages on! but again, it is part of the social fabric so he has to at least know it exists.
behaviour modification always hinges on electronics time. we used to have a demerit system, as in he would lose time for behaviour...but i want to turn it around and make it an earning system...as in his good behaviour earns him time. he is old enough, and has come for enough along, that this is actually a good starting point for such a system.
he used to be wildly out of control, emotionally, until he turned 10. we can reason with him now, and he has come along way in terms of putting himself in another persons shoes/perspective, but he does get angry if you suggest he is behaving like this with girls because he likes them, which is making it difficult to get him to see what he is doing. he thinks he is being funny, and he is a gigantic smart ass.
thank you for your response, and sorry for the novel i left you in return ;p

[Charmingly Miserable]

i am not sure if the job posting, mid year, is a school board thing or a union thing. i am waiting to find out. the e.a. said that it looks like he has a good chance at keeping the position, but since he is pretty much only the second school staff member my son has trusted EVER, and he is very forthcoming with his e.a. i want to do what i can to ensure they keep him. it is hard to make sure the board understands, as well, that yes i am fighting for my son but i am also fighting for EVERY kid who is facing losing their e.a's.
it is so illogical. these are kids who do not trust easily and have serious issues with transitions. ????? i get that the real world is full of some chaos and we can't keep a bubble around the kids, but when and where you have the ability to accomodate them: DO IT.

as for my boy (lol. he is taller than i am now. weirdest parenting moment yet. he is a techno junkie, not surprisingly. i have found that he takes scenes and dialogue from tv shows or computer games and uses them irl. the hardest part of the girl problems right now is that a) i know he is trying to be cool and b) the girls are fine with him, based on how they are around him after school, but the school is going mental. i get that he has to behave a certain way but i don't understand why context is never part of the equation when it comes to behavioural issues, period. c) i asked his e.a. to explain the double standard in society, because this is a huge part of life he has to try to understand OR try to work with, even if he doesn't understand. in his grade, 7, if a boy does something to a girl the reaction is way different and far more intense than if a girl did the same. inequality rages on! but again, it is part of the social fabric so he has to at least know it exists.
behaviour modification always hinges on electronics time. we used to have a demerit system, as in he would lose time for behaviour...but i want to turn it around and make it an earning system...as in his good behaviour earns him time. he is old enough, and has come for enough along, that this is actually a good starting point for such a system.
he used to be wildly out of control, emotionally, until he turned 10. we can reason with him now, and he has come along way in terms of putting himself in another persons shoes/perspective, but he does get angry if you suggest he is behaving like this with girls because he likes them, which is making it difficult to get him to see what he is doing. he thinks he is being funny, and he is a gigantic smart ass.
thank you for your response, and sorry for the novel i left you in return ;p

Omg!!! Don't worry! It was not a novel! I understand that behavior modification can hinge on electronics time. With that being said, use his electronics as a reinforcer for good behaviors/staying on tasks/etc. I think you are on a good path on taking away the demerit system. Personally, I don't find that it works with my students and we don't use that. What we use is a token board system where they earn tokens for a desired reinforcer/preferred object (i.e. iPods, computers, etc). I think kids can grasp the concept of earning something rather than having something and then having it taken away.
PM me if you would like to discuss this even further/collaborate on successful strategies.

[Lew]

Hey man, you shouldn't feel bummed out. From the sounds of it you're being an awesome parent, so don't sweat it. I'm sure your 12 year old will learn over time, sometimes you can only tell people so much, they've gotta learn it for themselves. I just hope that it happens quickly, but it sounds like you're doing all you can to try and nip it in the bud.

you made my fucked day into a better day with this. thank you so much. bless you. (i tried to send this yesterday and instead crashed ets. lol. or it was just timely coincidence that it crashed while i was trying to respond to you?)

[Lew]

how fucked was the MONTH???
i do not get, in any capacity, what one couples relationship has to do with anyone else?
my marriage is not my parents marriage or my siblings marriage.
i find that pretty basic and easy to understand, so why is that so hard for others to grasp?
you are allowed to feel how you feel about my marriage, but do not try to claim that my marriage has anything to do with you.
why are people so fucking afraid to hold personal responsibility?

[Serene Nymph]

Hi friends, today I FUCKED UP
I fucked up by mentioning TDS to a stranger. My feet are running cold thinking about it again.
I had to ring up a guy for alcohol so I IDed him, the birth year: 1994. I said "That's interesting."
He said "What's interesting?"
I told him the year he was born was the same year this cool rock album came out called "The Downward Spiral"
Somehow he misunderstood me (I figured that out afterward) but I didn't know he misheard.
He said "Do you treat all your customers rudely? or just the young ones?"
And guess what? I thought he was teasing because I IDed him so I answer back "Just the young ones."
He's really pissed (somehow), He tells me how dare I treat him with disrespect and dumb me thinks this is still banter
"You know we don't have to shop here, we might just stop shopping here."
and I fucking say sarcastically "Aw man, I guess they'll have to let me go then since I lost a customer."
It started to dawn on me that he's dead serious when he asked for a manager. I obliged with confusion yet felt a deep horror start to trickle in.
So yeah, I had to explain to my manager our conversation. I was lucky he understood.
The horror though fully coursed through my body when the customer told him "She told me that my birth year, my generation was a downward spiral."
At least he bought the wine. I wish I could buy back those minutes of pure terror.

[Erneuert]

Hi friends, today I FUCKED UP
I fucked up by mentioning TDS to a stranger. My feet are running cold thinking about it again.
I had to ring up a guy for alcohol so I IDed him, the birth year: 1994. I said "That's interesting."
He said "What's interesting?"
I told him the year he was born was the same year this cool rock album came out called "The Downward Spiral"
Somehow he misunderstood me (I figured that out afterward) but I didn't know he misheard.
He said "Do you treat all your customers rudely? or just the young ones?"
And guess what? I thought he was teasing because I IDed him so I answer back "Just the young ones."
He's really pissed (somehow), He tells me how dare I treat him with disrespect and dumb me thinks this is still banter
"You know we don't have to shop here, we might just stop shopping here."
and I fucking say sarcastically "Aw man, I guess they'll have to let me go then since I lost a customer."
It started to dawn on me that he's dead serious when he asked for a manager. I obliged with confusion yet felt a deep horror start to trickle in.
So yeah, I had to explain to my manager our conversation. I was lucky he understood.
The horror though fully coursed through my body when the customer told him "She told me that my birth year, my generation was a downward spiral."
At least he bought the wine. I wish I could buy back those minutes of pure terror.

Lmfao what an idiot! Sorry that happened to you but that’s so funny at the same time.

Super sensitive young fucks.