The little things that piss you off

[Jinsai]

@elevenism it's just that the last twenty times Pitchfork has shown up on my Facebook feed it's been bullshit about Taylor Swift, or something like "Greenday were great." Let me check right now. Here's an article about Dave Grohl's song Everlong. The next is a Taysway article. The one after that is a Taysway article. Then they're on about Neutral Milk Hotel, who haven't done anything in like 25 years and are the most overrated band of all time. Then there's another Taylor Swift article. I'm not making this up. Then there's ANOTHER Taylor Swift article, in a row.

Seriously, check out the Pitchfork Facebook feed.

[elevenism]

@elevenism it's just that the last twenty times Pitchfork has shown up on my Facebook feed it's been bullshit about Taylor Swift, or something like "Greenday were great." Let me check right now. Here's an article about Dave Grohl's song Everlong. The next is a Taysway article. The one after that is a Taysway article. Then they're on about Neutral Milk Hotel, who haven't done anything in like 25 years and are the most overrated band of all time. Then there's another Taylor Swift article. I'm not making this up. Then there's ANOTHER Taylor Swift article, in a row.

Seriously, check out the Pitchfork Facebook feed.

I hear you. THIS is why I thought the fantano video was so strange. I THINK it was fake, but like, everything it said about fantano read like a criticism of the way pitchfork USED to be.
So I am confuse.
Inception level shit.

Meanwhile, DAVE FUCKING GROHL pisses me off. Why is Dave Grohl the arbiter of rock these days? He's THE FACE of "rock." Yeah, I likedd the first tape, and everlong, and a couple others, but that's it.
He was in Nirvana, for fuck's sake. Now. NIRVANA ROCKED.
Dave could have, too, but he opted out. Dave opted not to rock. He mostly writes bubblegum, middle of the road stuff.

Yet, when they couldn't have traditional R&R HOF, it was Dave Grohl.
Shit, there was some series about musicians and their mothers. It was hosted by...Dave Grohl. I watched ONE EPISODE, about Geddy Lee: I'm a Rush geek and Ged's mom is a fucking HOLOCAUST survivor.
The episode had more to do with Dave Grohl and HIS mom, than Ged...and there was ALREADY a fucking Dave Grohl episode.

He's inescapable, this Dave, and I don't know WHY.

[Jinsai]

I don't like his music, but he's a really nice guy and it's hard to dislike him on a personal level... and he's a talented musician and he was the drummer for Nirvana, so I guess I get it, even if I never want to hear his music ever again. But I'll take the Foo Fighters over Taysway any day.

EDIT: and, apparently Grohl doesn't know any of the words to March of the Pigs except "I wanna watch it go down"
https://www.nme.com/news/music/watch...RcXj_G7iszyB1U

[fillow]

Fuck kidney stones.

[Erneuert]

Fuck kidney stones.

How bad are yours / what size are they / how many?

My worst experience was a few years back. Got put on that medication that opens up your urinal tract, etc, to help it pass through more easily, and given suppositories for pain (they didn’t work). The worst bout had me on the floor in pain at 1am, punching my leg in agony on the drive to the doctor. He gave me morphine and even that had no effect on the pain. The only relief I got at all was to lay in a really hot bath tub. That’s saying a lot.

I’ve had a few since then but nothing that bad since, touch wood.

[Jinsai]

if I ever get another kidney stone I'm going to a doc. Passing that thing naturally was hell.

[allegate]

Back in December my wife had a kidney stone block the little tube because it was 12mm. Didn't know that's what it was, just knew she was in excruciating pain but she has nerve damage from a surgery so she thought it was that. Friday morning she was alternating fevers/chills and we rushed to the ER - a 30 minute drive that only took 20 - and they took her back almost immediately due to the pain levels. She set an ER record with a temp of 104.8 as well. Anyway, they put her in a isolation room because they needed to rule out it wasn't something crazy that could take people out and finally they did an ultrasound. Oh look at that, the 10mm kidney stone is 12mm now and is nicely plugged into the exit. They prepped up pretty quickly to put a stent in.

Now, what I'm about to type is going to be spoiled so don't click if you don't want to read one of the most disgusting two-word pairings I've ever heard: Spoiler: puss-ey pee was drained from the kidney along with some other smaller stones now that they had an exit. They gave her some antibiotics for the infection and scheduled her for a follow-up surgery to blast the kidney stone when the infection had cleared up.

They tried to give her penicillin but she said she was allergic. They said "well actually it turns out that the agent penicillin was in was what people were reacting to back when you were a kid so we've changed the formula" and I told them that she broke out in hives when giving amoxicillin to our son and they said OK so she's allergic...we'll give her something else. As if the kidney stone wasn't doing enough work to kill her already! lol

But wait, the story doesn't end there.

The day of the surgery it goes fine. They give her some fentanyl and she got loopy almost immediately. Goes in, they blast it, she wakes up, we go home. All good. That night her Fitbit woke her up saying her heart rate was 122 bpm and she should probably do something about it. Off we go on the same 30/20 drive (though it was much easier at 3AM) and get into the ER. It takes a lot longer to be seen because they are confused due to her being there the day before and a lack of a doctor who specializes in that area so we have to wait. They finally get someone and they finally decide to put her into a hospital room for monitoring. I go home to sleep - they still weren't allowing visitors to stay - and come back later.

Turns out the doctor who did the surgery asked for a second opinion because the kidney stone looked "fuzzy" on the monitor and she was worried about another infection. The second opinion said "go ahead and blast it, it's fine" and so they did. It was not fine, it blasted the stone and its bacteria into the kidney proper and she had to stay in the hospital for another week or so because of the infection and having to pass all of the pieces before they would let her leave.

She's still alive thankfully but it was pretty close there both times. 103 is the "ok this person's sick" temp and 104 is where you start to worry about hyperpyrexia, which was what she had due to sepsis. Fun.

[Erneuert]

^ And that’s why the leading cause of death is medical malpractice. Or bad opinions.

[Jinsai]

I had no idea what was going on when I first felt the stone. We were setting up to play a live show and while carrying in my gear it felt like someone stabbed me in the back. Luckily the set list called for lots of screaming

[elevenism]

Yesterday would have been the 43rd birthday of one of the best friends I've ever had: RJ Brown. But I always called him Rod.
He was a beautiful, brilliant person, who'd had a heroin problem, but BEAT it.
Rod was studying Criminal Justice on a scholarship in Oklahoma. He left Dallas to get AWAY from the tar.
Alas, he relapsed on some oxy.

Here's how the press treated it...Police Find Large Drug Cache in Apartment of Dead Man." Edit: Seriously. Somebody look at this and pretend it's about one of YOUR best friends, you'd met on first day of HS, and stuck with till the end).
because, omg, he had weed in his dorm room, and a couple Xanax bars, and was attempting to grow a couple psilocybin mushrooms.
No mention of his studies, or his devout church activities wherein he served as the de facto youth minister (at a time when i fucking ABHORRED christianity of any kind) or ANYTHING about him, aside from his name.
Even in the headline, he's just the "dead man."
Fuck you, you stupid fucking rednecks.

I still think of something I wanna say to Rod, or ask him, at LEAST once a week, but suddenly remember I can't. This has been going on for 15 years.
Love you, dead man.

[Jon]

At the ER for my wife. Liver enzymes have been elevated for over 2 months now... Do you have a specialist? Oh, you do? Let's rush you right in. 6am let's do this!

[Jon]

At the ER for my wife. Liver enzymes have been elevated for over 2 months now... Do you have a specialist? Oh, you do? Let's rush you right in. 6am let's do this!

Talking to myself... Surgery successful, enzymes 24 hours later are down more than 20x (from 600+ to 32 on one score).

All from a stone in the bile duct, 12 years after gallbladder removal.

[elevenism]

Talking to myself... Surgery successful, enzymes 24 hours later are down more than 20x (from 600+ to 32 on one score).

All from a stone in the bile duct, 12 years after gallbladder removal.

Jesus, man! Glad you're better
And see, both my wife and mother have SEVERE gi issues, and neither has a gallbladder, and both complain of pain where it WAS.

[eversonpoe]

Talking to myself... Surgery successful, enzymes 24 hours later are down more than 20x (from 600+ to 32 on one score).

All from a stone in the bile duct, 12 years after gallbladder removal.

i'm getting my gallbladder out on thursday...good to know to look out for this shit.

[Jinsai]

I guess there's no thread for things that make you sad, but someone I went to high school with just died of a heart attack. We weren't close friends or anything, but I didn't have anything against him. He actually reached out to me randomly and we "caught up," though the last time I talked to him I basically told him to piss off over an argument. And then suddenly, the guy's dead.

He'd just given birth to his son, who I think is just turning two. It's just depressing, and I realize this sort of thing is going to happen more and more frequently the longer I go along. People grow up and die. I just feel strangely shocked by this, and I also feel guilty for telling him to fuck off. It's not the first time that sort of thing has happened either. I don't know. I feel stunned.

[Swykk]

Had COVID from May 30-Jun 8th. I’ve been struggling with getting my energy levels back to usual. Got that lingering cough and my usual allergies too. On top of bullshit work politics which I’m kicking myself for; I’m soooo bad at this aspect; I’m honest to my detriment and I do not play “the game.”

It’s not been a good scene the last 2 weeks.

I typically get 9-10k steps daily and yesterday I went on the longest walk I’ve done since I came down with it, then spent the day with my girlfriend walking around antique shops and I crashed hard after. I was so determined to overcome this shit.

So I made the questionable (admittedly haven’t been of soundest mind during this time) choice to try one of those IV places to see if that would aid the recovery process. I don’t know if it’s made a difference yet. It’s only been like 4 hours. What I do know is the lady fucked up the first attempt and I’ve got this really rad painful bump behind it that my friend who used to be a phlebotomist says will likely become a hematoma.

Really cool and fun stuff happening. Very exciting times. I want to disappear.

[sweeterthan]

Had COVID from May 30-Jun 8th. I’ve been struggling with getting my energy levels back to usual. Got that lingering cough and my usual allergies too. On top of bullshit work politics which I’m kicking myself for; I’m soooo bad at this aspect; I’m honest to my detriment and I do not play “the game.”

It’s not been a good scene the last 2 weeks.

I typically get 9-10k steps daily and yesterday I went on the longest walk I’ve done since I came down with it, then spent the day with my girlfriend walking around antique shops and I crashed hard after. I was so determined to overcome this shit.

So I made the questionable (admittedly haven’t been of soundest mind during this time) choice to try one of those IV places to see if that would aid the recovery process. I don’t know if it’s made a difference yet. It’s only been like 4 hours. What I do know is the lady fucked up the first attempt and I’ve got this really rad painful bump behind it that my friend who used to be a phlebotomist says will likely become a hematoma.

Really cool and fun stuff happening. Very exciting times. I want to disappear.

sorry swykk! i get it. my own recovery from covid i got 14 days ago has been rough. i don’t know about those therapy places either. the only people i know who use them are mostly healthy alcohol drinkers.


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[Swykk]

I thought the extra vitamins would help.

[Jon]

i'm getting my gallbladder out on thursday...good to know to look out for this shit.

If you end up getting stones in your duct down the line, it will feel exactly like gallbladder pain (except you don't have your gallbladder). It will also be very apparent on the three liver enzyme tests they run.

[allegate]

Read through this and did the usual feeling of "this shit sucks" but then saw that he added at the bottom that he ran the strip in 1999. ridiculous how terrible it is still.

[Jinsai]

went out to a club last night, industrial music. Some guy walked up to me like "give me a hug" and I was ok with that, accepted his hug, and then he reached down and very aggressively grabbed my ass and then reached around and groped me. I immediately made it clear I wasn't into it and he wouldn't let go and kept groping at me while I pushed him off, and then a couple minutes later he tried to do it again.

At the time, I felt like "well, that was a little strange and whatever" and went back to mingling and enjoying the show... the band was good...

But I woke up this morning feeling really weirdly violated.

[Khrz]

Well yeah, that's sexual assault... It took you some time to process it because as men, we're not really used to that kind of behavior, not on a regular basis anyway, so it takes a while before our brain goes "waiiiiiit a minute...."

[Jinsai]

Yeah... I mean, I've had a couple experiences in the past where a guy has come up to me and been pretty forward with the wrong idea, but it was like a gentle crotch touch kinda thing... and then I would just quickly say no, "I'm not gay" and they'd say "oh, that's too bad" and it wasn't that weird. This was weird. The guy literally grabbed my junk and squeezed hard and wouldn't let go and he was in my face while I was pushing him away.

[Khrz]

Yeah same, well especially when I was younger, guys being pretty forward in an "all or nothing" way, and that doesn't phase me, sorry dawg, wrong tree. And then there's the other guys, the ones we constantly hear about from our sisters, our girlfriends or friends, the guys who think "no" is a temporary fancy that they can overcome by leaving you no choice.

Sorry you had one of those encounters, man...

[sweeterthan]

i’m pretty sure my 19 year old cat is dying. he’s been falling down a bunch so i took him to the vet yesterday and they gave him pain meds and he’s just been a mess since. it’s so sad. i love him so much and i can’t help him.

[Jinsai]

@sweeterthan I'm really sorry. Give him some hugs and try to forget for a moment

[ickyvicky]

oh no i'm so sorry @sweeterthan

sorry to hear that @Jinsai

[marodi]

@sweeterthan and @Jinsai

My heart is breaking for you both. I'm so sorry you're going through this.

[sweeterthan]

thanks everyone. we’re keeping him comfortable and watching for the signs.


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[Deacon Blackfire]

I only know you both from your excellent contributions here but I am so sorry that you are dealing with such pain in your lives, from trauma and from grief & loss. Words just kind of fumble at these sort of issues, I know they don't really help. I just wish you weren't going through this.