The Fucking Thread

[Sarah K]

Well, in my experience with these things(kink, not swinging), the women tend to be a bit stand-offish at first. You know... Yes, we are all there for a reason, but we are people, too. If you see a woman that you think is attractive, just start up a conversation with her, and see where it goes.

I mean, I doubt that you're approaching anyone in a rude manner. But men at these functions often times forget that there is a woman behind the boobs and vagina. All decency is just thrown out the window for a lot of them. So when someone approaches me like I am an actual human, it gets them much further.

[playwithfire]

If you want to get with a chick, Swinging probs isn't the best way to do it. You'd have more success doing the unicorn thing. Sorry stuff was lame. :(

[Sarah K]

Ohhhh. Excellent idea. You can be the unicorn!

[playwithfire]

I'm totally a unicorn.

[The_Prowler]

Now all I can think of is the unicorn from Robot Chicken...

Dudes need to learn to treat women with respect regardless of the social situation. Even if he's got her gagged and tied to the bed and wailing on her with a riding crop while calling her a filthy slut, respect should be maintained at all times... am I the only one who finds that statement kind of an oxymoron just based on content?

[Pillfred]

http://youtu.be/4HMKLA2MWok

[icklekitty]

You need to find a night for bi women to explore their sexuality. Those blokes will be dicks regardless of whether it's a swingers club or McDonalds.

[Charmingly Miserable]

If you want to get with a chick, Swinging probs isn't the best way to do it. You'd have more success doing the unicorn thing. Sorry stuff was lame. :(
Wait, what's a unicorn thing? I'm sooooo in the dark.

[allegro]

Regardless, nothing but guys wanted to hook up with me. The wives/girlfriends weren't interested. I went there to have some fun with the ladies. Did that happen? No. The wife of the couple I did end up hooking up told me that she was a no play zone from the waist down. If I wanted to hook up with men, I could have done that with my fwb. It was such a let down.
I have swinging friends (WELL ACTUALLY they call it THE LIFESTYLE) including one couple who hosts parties and pretty much NONE of them are bi AT ALL. Swinging is pretty much mostly a het thing in the mainstream (the suburbs are secretly LOADED with the Lifestyle) but once in a while you may find one bi female but you need to see who's there in advance, the host usually knows.

[Sarah K]

Wait, what's a unicorn thing? I'm sooooo in the dark.

Unicorn = bi-female who is wanting to join a couple for play or a relationship.

aka - the most common personal ad.

[scotty79]

I had visions of it being something to do with strapping a dildo to your head

[playwithfire]

I had visions of it being something to do with strapping a dildo to your head

Only sometimes.

But yeah, I typically think of Swinging as a straight thing. It's partner swapping more than it's group sex.

When my boyfriend and I were dating a couple, the chick made a swinging joke once and I was like NOOOoOOOOooo

[Ryan]

I like to fuck.

[Sarah K]

Charmingly Miserable, look for a "Poly Cocktails" munch/event in your area. That might be useful. I went to one last night for the sex stories bit of it. But I went up to checkout the cocktails thing for a minute, and there was a good crowd.

[The_Prowler]

I had visions of it being something to do with strapping a dildo to your head
No, that's the screwnicorn.

The screwnicorn is where you attach a dildo to your forehead and fuck your partner like a unicorn on amphetamines.

[Charmingly Miserable]

@Charmingly Miserable (http://www.echoingthesound.org/community/member.php?u=3645), look for a "Poly Cocktails" munch/event in your area. That might be useful. I went to one last night for the sex stories bit of it. But I went up to checkout the cocktails thing for a minute, and there was a good crowd.
Oh yeah. That's really gonna happen in my small fucking town. Then again, it is Palm Springs. I honestly believe if I was a gay man living where I am at, I would have A) a real relationship and B) I'd get laid all the time.

[green]

Had this hippy chick tell me my nut was sweet one time. I had been on xans and dark chocolates all day, wonder if that had anything to do with it.

[Sarah K]

Three of my friends are going to a swingers club tonight. They've been trying to get me to go, and I told them that I would. But now I'm hella nervous.

[Kid Charlemagne]

Been having sex on a weekly basis since December. Hooked up with my trainer from work and began our courtship once I got on the floor. It's been awesome, last night she asked for anal, which caught me off guard and it felt amazing, I came in under five minutes. This was almost as good as when he came over for the Rose Bowl on New Year's Day and gave me an unexpected BJ. Not to mention, sex with this woman is amazing, never been in someone so tight.

[Charmingly Miserable]

Three of my friends are going to a swingers club tonight. They've been trying to get me to go, and I told them that I would. But now I'm hella nervous.
Why are you nervous?


Hooked up with my trainer from work and began our courtship once I got on the floor.
Well now everyone else knows!!! I thought you were gonna keep that on the d/l. Remember what I said, don't let feelings get involved with that one. I'm glad you're getting your noodle wet.


Not to mention, sex with this woman is amazing, never been in someone so tight.
Obviously you haven't visited Palm Springs yet. ;)

[Sarah K]

I didn't go! One of them wanted to go to a BDSM event so I went with her. I had my first public scene. Can't sit.

[Charmingly Miserable]

I think I would rather go to a BDSM event than a swingers club. Jealous.

I have no idea why I'm mentioning you Ryan, but since we were talking about TON over in the other thread, I just want to share it with everyone that my man has a Peter Steele penis.

[Ryan]

Had this hippy chick tell me my nut was sweet one time. I had been on xans and dark chocolates all day, wonder if that had anything to do with it.

You're so charming. xx

[Sarah K]

I think I would rather go to a BDSM event than a swingers club. Jealous.

I have no idea why I'm mentioning you @Ryan (http://www.echoingthesound.org/community/member.php?u=67), but since we were talking about TON over in the other thread, I just want to share it with everyone that my man has a Peter Steele penis.

GO! Even though I've been involved with it for a few years now, I just recently started attending events. I've gone the last three weekends, but this weekend was my first time participating. It's a pretty good time, even if you don't wanna get involved. Lots of interesting people around!

[Charmingly Miserable]

Where would I go find these events that would cater to the hetero crowd?

[Sarah K]

If you're on fet, just click "Events" at the top of the page. It will bring up all of the events in your area.

If you're not on there, just send me your INFOZ and I can find shit.

[The_Prowler]

I've seen a couple BDSM/fetish clubs in Richmond and D.C., and they all had signs on the door that specifically said that you're not allowed in if you're wearing your normal street clothes instead of BDSM gear. And I'm just standing there like "fuck that! What if I'm more comfortable tying somebody up in my everyday attire instead of a leather corset and PVC assless chaps?"

[Sarah K]

I've seen a couple BDSM/fetish clubs in Richmond and D.C., and they all had signs on the door that specifically said that you're not allowed in if you're not wearing your normal street clothes instead of BDSM gear. And I'm just standing there like "fuck that! What if I'm more comfortable tying somebody up in my everyday attire instead of a leather corset and PVC assless chaps?"

Wat? This is confusing.

But if you meant you're only allowed in with fetish gear, then that is still confusing. Every event I've ever looked at attending or have attended usually has a price for if you're wearing fetish gear, and then a price that is usually $10 more for all black clothing.

[The_Prowler]

Wat? This is confusing.

But if you meant you're only allowed in with fetish gear, then that is still confusing. Every event I've ever looked at attending or have attended usually has a price for if you're wearing fetish gear, and then a price that is usually $10 more for all black clothing.
I fixed my original post. The signs said that you're not allowed in if you're wearing normal street clothes instead of fetish gear. Sorry for the confusion.
But yes, it's still bullshit. And why would you have to pay more for wearing all black since most fetish clothing I've ever seen is black?

[aggroculture]

Maybe I'm wrong, but my sense is that they do that in order to get customers who are fet-friendly, rather than squares who are less likely to know how to behave appropriately. It's a filtering process to create a safer space. That's my guess.

[The_Prowler]

Maybe I'm wrong, but my sense is that they do that in order to get customers who are fet-friendly, rather than squares who are less likely to know how to behave appropriately. It's a filtering process to create a safer space. That's my guess.
I would say that I can understand that, and to a certain extent I do, but not everyone is comfortable wearing what constitutes as "fetish gear", and not everyone actually wears it when they're doing it. I know I can't possibly be the only one who enjoys bondage and knows how to conduct himself accordingly but doesn't want to dress up like Derek Smalls from Spinal Tap in order to practice it.
I'll still throw on a pair of leather pants and a black shirt, but I don't think that meets their criteria for "proper attire".

[icklekitty]

I wish the true test was that you walk in in your PVC crap, and then once you get inside you change into a suit, then everyone left in their PVC crap is promptly ejected because they are damaging the scenery and harshing my buzz. #selfish

Addendum: this is why I have never found a single ...bloke (they're not Men) attractive at a BDSM club. Hilarious, yes.

[The_Prowler]

I wish the true test was that you walk in in your PVC crap, and then once you get inside you change into a suit, then everyone left in their PVC crap is promptly ejected because they are damaging the scenery and harshing my buzz. #selfish

Addendum: this is why I have never found a single ...bloke (they're not Men) attractive at a BDSM club. Hilarious, yes.
I would rock the everloving hell out of a suit at a BDSM club.

[Charmingly Miserable]

You guys, I just found out what sounding is. Sorry guys, but that shit looks like it is painful.

[aggroculture]

I find the idea of it - and the hentai depictions - hot.
But when I'm looking at videos of the real thing - nah, I can't deal.

[The_Prowler]

You guys, I just found out what sounding is. Sorry guys, but that shit looks like it is painful.
I can't say that I've ever heard of that... care to enlighten me?

[Vertigo]

Things go in to places where things should really, REALLY only come out.

[The_Prowler]

Things go in to places where things should really, REALLY only come out.
Oh... oh, god... ohgod... ohgod ohgod ohgod OHGODOHGODOHGODOHGODOHGODOHGOOOOODDDD!

I just looked it up. I... I just... no... nononononononononono... NO! No.



Just... no. That is a thing that should not be a thing.









No.

[theimage13]

Yeah, I looked it up yesterday, and immediately wished I hadn't.

[allegro]

Lol this is as much fun as when I used to run my nails down the chalkboard in school and watch the reaction ..

[Digital Twilight]

I saw a guy in a pub once open a pair of scissors then shove one blade down his hole. He then set his pubes on fire.

Fun times :)

[Lew]

and in 'fucking with the mind and libido" news...literotica is highly addictive.
there are some really good authors on there.
a high five all around, from brain and snatch.
lol.
oh, and i must join the line of folk who cannot un-know what sounding is. i mean, to each their own..but wow...my penis went on lock down and then up and left...and i don't even HAVE one.

[Khrz]

A penis going up and left is not that uncommon.


I'll show myself out now.

[Lew]

khrz: out and up to the left? ;p

fucking and forties...brilliant stuff.
wish i could take my current brain and implant it into my teenage self...

[Khrz]

khrz: out and up to the left? ;p

Well I'm a man, so I tend to follow my penis, yes :D

And yeah, if only my teen self knew. Poor kid though he was wild ? HAH.

[allegro]

I dunno, females have something called the "urethral sponge" that's a real asset so whenever you say "urethra" that's what I think of, LOL.

[Bachy]

http://youtu.be/hkb13Bbu1Ng

[ophelia_]

You guys, I just found out what sounding is. Sorry guys, but that shit looks like it is painful.

But it's so much fun! :D

[Charmingly Miserable]

What's so fun about it?

[ophelia_]

My ex used to really like sounding, and I'd insert the sound and then jerk him off, or just watch him jerk off (I like to watch), and when he came the sound would shoot to the other side of the room because of the force behind it... pretty hilarious.

Plus it's fun because there's a fear aspect to it, regardless of how little it actually hurts, guys aren't really used to sticking long metal rods down their weiner.

Female sounding though, that kinda freaks me out a bit. I just can't imagine doing it to myself.

[The_Prowler]

I had a thought yesterday that there needs to be an official Harry Potter porn parody. As it turns out, one already exists, so someone beat me to it.

BUTI'm pretty sure it doesn't feature Dobby holding a used condom and saying "Master has given Dobby a cock sock! Master has presented Dobby with penis clothes! Dobby is freeee!"

[Charmingly Miserable]

My dude accidentally poked me in the pooper last night. Honestly, it wasn't as bad as I had anticipated but I wasn't expecting it so I naturally yelped. I have been really wanting to get into anal but I don't think I can go full on just yet. I can tolerate a couple of fingers up there and the anal beads I just bought were like meh to me. If I can withstand 1" anal beads, what do you think I should do then? Should I try a plug with a wider diameter or just have my guy put his really lubed tip up there and work up from there?

[Sarah K]

YO! I went to a swingers party for like 6 minutes the other night. ARE YOU PROUD?!

[Charmingly Miserable]

YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!!!!! How did all of the 6 minutes go?

[Sarah K]

Weird. Haha. I thought that I was going to a BDSM thing. And I was NOT. 4 of my friends were there. As soon as I walked in the door, a lady started biting my boobs. So I was like ummm... I stood there and talked to my friends for a few minutes until people started screaming at me to get naked. Then I bounced. I was not mentally prepared for the situation that I walked into. Next time!

[implanted_microchip]

We got our first vibrator last night, haven't had a chance to check it out yet. Very excited! We're considering it a Valentine's present to the both of us.

[aggroculture]

http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/news/a35819/not-sure-what-to-get-for-valentines-day-how-about-a-chocolate-butthole

[Charmingly Miserable]

Um, no thanks.

[The_Prowler]

My dude accidentally poked me in the pooper last night. Honestly, it wasn't as bad as I had anticipated but I wasn't expecting it so I naturally yelped. I have been really wanting to get into anal but I don't think I can go full on just yet. I can tolerate a couple of fingers up there and the anal beads I just bought were like meh to me. If I can withstand 1" anal beads, what do you think I should do then? Should I try a plug with a wider diameter or just have my guy put his really lubed tip up there and work up from there?
Have I told you that I'm envious of your FWB?

I have? Oh, well, don't mind me. Carry on, then :p

[implanted_microchip]

So we got to try our toy out and did DP for the first time. All I can say is: WOW. What a feeling. We need more male friends.

[Sarah K]

Yo, fuck it. I'm gonna be a slut for a while. This dating shit gives me migraines.

[eversonpoe]

My dude accidentally poked me in the pooper last night. Honestly, it wasn't as bad as I had anticipated but I wasn't expecting it so I naturally yelped. I have been really wanting to get into anal but I don't think I can go full on just yet. I can tolerate a couple of fingers up there and the anal beads I just bought were like meh to me. If I can withstand 1" anal beads, what do you think I should do then? Should I try a plug with a wider diameter or just have my guy put his really lubed tip up there and work up from there?

yes, get yourself a plug (or a couple different sizes) and some (regular) lube (DO NOT get "anal" lube because it contains numbing agents; if it hurts, you shouldn't be doing it). get used to using it on your own, get comfortable with it, then introduce it into partner play (have him put it in you when he's going down on you, leave it in while you're boning), and then eventually work your way up to full on anal sex. what's important is to take it SLOW and never keep going if it hurts.

[Sarah K]

Buy that plug that I got. It's awesome.

I think the one that I got is 1"(weighs 5oz). But I had never had any butt toys. They also have 1.25"(weighs 7oz) 1.5"(weighs 11oz), and a 2 inch one(weighs 1.3 POUNDS(omg)).

I hear good things about their wands. And they even have a plug designed for male prostate stimulation.

I want to get some more of their stuff!

[botley]

Happy happy VD fellow fuckers!

[Dra508]

Happy happy VD fellow fuckers!

I see what you did there. [emoji57]

Yeah dark chocolate and afternoon sex. Ahhhhhh.

[eversonpoe]

after not having nearly as much sex on our honeymoon as i had hoped/thought we would (and i think sarah was pretty bummed about it, too; she got her period in the middle of our trip and just felt kinda queasy the whole time), we had a great time as soon as she got home from work last night, and then just now, when i was in the shower, she put on the lingerie i had gotten her as a wedding gift (and which she hadn't worn since our wedding night) and we had the best sex we've had since our wedding night.

[ophelia_]

Yay! Great sex is so good for the soul :)

[Sarah K]

http://www.orgasmatronics.com/products/x1-orgasmatron

That orgasmatron dealie is half off until the 22nd.

It says they don't recommend using it if you have an IUD. WHAT WHY ARE YOU CRUSHING MY DREAMS?!

[howdidislipinto]

I figured this would substitute well as a NSFW NIN-Spotting thread?

http://xhamster.com/movies/4145654/cuckold.html

[eversonpoe]

I figured this would substitute well as a NSFW NIN-Spotting thread?

http://xhamster.com/movies/4145654/cuckold.html

take it to the spice thread (http://www.echoingthesound.org/community/threads/2259-The-Spice-Thread-%28everything-NSFW%29?p=238210#post238210) ;)

[The_Prowler]

I figured this would substitute well as a NSFW NIN-Spotting thread?

http://xhamster.com/movies/4145654/cuckold.html
I once saw a video of a girl doing an amazing striptease to Closer and then getting down and making love to herself to Get Down, Make Love... I wish I could still find it.

[Indefinite_Cure]

it's official, I haven't had sex in over a year now.

BUT! I've been seeing someone lately and at first I wasn't really sure I wanted to pursue a relationship but...well she seems like a really nice girl now...though she told me she wanna take things slowly...

yeah so...another day's gone without no sex

[goody]

So, when people said that they were fucking for hours, I always thought it was just a lot of foreplay and not straight fucking because that always sounded like it would hurt or make your dick fall off or something - plus who would want an erection that long etc.
Well my opinion has changed. Holy hell. I think it's fucking awesome that we could both come and then like just chill there for a little and suddenly round two without having pulled out or anything.
Plus, I've discovered that there are parts inside of me that I never realised could feel so good for so long - which is just strange to be like "Oh new discovery of new amazing feeling, it's not like I haven't been having sex for 12 years."

Suffice to say, I am really happy to be enjoying sex again. I swore that my birth control just killed my libido - but nah it was just not having been with the right person.

[JessicaSarahS]

Sooooo, I know I've gone on and on here about how I don't care for oral, but I just had a recent session that might make me take it all back. Definite game changer. :eek: It's still a bit uncomfortable and weird feeling for me at first, but an hour into it and I'm hooked.

[Ryan]

Sooooo, I know I've gone on and on here about how I don't care for oral, but I just had a recent session that might make me take it all back. Definite game changer. :eek: It's still a bit uncomfortable and weird feeling for me at first, but an hour into it and I'm hooked.

Don't care for giving or receiving?

[Khrz]

After an hour of giving oral sex, my jaw would probably need to be operated with a crank handle from then on... No way I could use those muscles ever again.

[JessicaSarahS]

Don't care for giving or receiving?

Oh, I love to give oral. I don't care much for receiving. It always felt odd to me. But this time around was so different. It felt more like he was worshiping me with his tongue and mouth.


After an hour of giving oral sex, my jaw would probably need to be operated with a crank handle from then on... No way I could use those muscles ever again.

I would ask him to take a break often because I was worried he'd get exhausted. He did a couple times but kept at it. What a trooper, haha!

[Ryan]

I figured this would substitute well as a NSFW NIN-Spotting thread?

http://xhamster.com/movies/4145654/cuckold.html


Well now I know what I'm going to be picturing every time I listen to or see Copy Of A live from now on.

[halloween]

Fucking! Finally! My boyfriend is visiting tomorrow. Two months away from each other is TOO MUCH.

[Digital Twilight]

Plus side: I had really awesome sex with an incredible woman.

Negative side: Given where she lives and a few other complications I don't know when I'll be able to see her again :(

[Sarah K]

8 of my friends ended up having an impromptu orgy at this playspace the other night. This guy I've been seeing for a bit tried to get me to join. But no thank you. I'm all for being open and fucking. But NONE of them were using protection. I saw dicks go in one mouth and vagina after the other. I threw some condoms at them, but I don't think any of them used them at all. While I love all of them, it for sure made me view them in a different light. Have fun and fuck. BUT PROTECT YOURSELVES.

I've gotten REALLY close to fucking this dude a few times. Now I am so, SO thankful that it never happened. Like, we even slept in the same bed all night Friday night.

Ugh. I feel like I need to be tested just from watching.

[Digital Twilight]

You did the right thing Sarah. It's just not worth it and incredibly reckless. Its one thing to put your own health at risk but when it could affect someone else's it becomes a major problem.

[Ryan]

8 of my friends ended up having an impromptu orgy at this playspace the other night. This guy I've been seeing for a bit tried to get me to join. But no thank you. I'm all for being open and fucking. But NONE of them were using protection. I saw dicks go in one mouth and vagina after the other. I threw some condoms at them, but I don't think any of them used them at all. While I love all of them, it for sure made me view them in a different light. Have fun and fuck. BUT PROTECT YOURSELVES.

I've gotten REALLY close to fucking this dude a few times. Now I am so, SO thankful that it never happened. Like, we even slept in the same bed all night Friday night.

Ugh. I feel like I need to be tested just from watching.


feels good man.

[nin5in]

I need to fucking get laid already. It's been a month since my hubby could come home (he's a truck driver) and I'm sick of having phone sex and jilling off! I need the real thing again already!

[The_Prowler]

I may or may not be getting some soon... we'll just have to wait and see.

[Vertigo]

I need the real thing again already!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cU9CB7ebvX8

[icklekitty]

I have a date tonight so of course I'm on my period. My vagina is a cunt.

[Sarah K]

feels good man.


I'M SURE! It looked fun. Until one of them gets pregnant or gets herpes or some shit. I know this dude is going to want to go out/want to play this weekend and I'm gonna be like NOPE. I realize that his unsafe sex practices don't influence his sadism. But it really just changed how I look at all of them. And with him, I can no longer view him in the same way, so I won't be able to take beatings from him without that previous level of respect I had for him.

I'm being a bummer!

[Ryan]

I'M SURE! It looked fun. Until one of them gets pregnant or gets herpes or some shit. I know this dude is going to want to go out/want to play this weekend and I'm gonna be like NOPE. I realize that his unsafe sex practices don't influence his sadism. But it really just changed how I look at all of them. And with him, I can no longer view him in the same way, so I won't be able to take beatings from him without that previous level of respect I had for him.

I'm being a bummer!


I'm being silly - I agree with everything you said about the situation. I find gangbangs and such a turn on, but I'd rather be safe and just watch people do it online. In person I'm all for fidelity and protection. That's the problem with sex; the buildup and how good it feels initially, then after the release you would (I'd imagine, in the situation you mentioned) think "what the fuck have I done?" and I'd be manic, due to my hypochondria and always thinking I have some kind of disease. It isn't worth it.

As Peter Steele once sang, "Is sex worth the price of certain death?"

[aggroculture]

as someone who also has been obsessed my whole life with worries about getting STDs, I'd like to play devil's advocate
though it doesn't stop me obsessing, I do realize that these fears can be overblown sometimes
I will never forget the doctor who told me, when I was getting one of my MANY HIV tests, in my 20s, that "if you want to get HIV you have to try really hard." If you look online there is a ton of people worrying about STDs (usually HIV) and some very weary responses carrying the same message: your worries about HIV are medically ungrounded and irrational please stop

I think it's generational to a degree: I grew up learning about AIDS and sex pretty much side by side, so that in my teenage mind sex=death. And yes I know there are lots of other STDs besides HIV.

Of course I believe in protection, as much protection as possible, always; but I also realize that obsessing about this issue can be very damaging and detrimental to one's emotional well being, and can go beyond the practical and the rational and into the self-destructive. At least that has been my case

[allegro]

as someone who also has been obsessed my whole life with worries about getting STDs, I'd like to play devil's advocate
though it doesn't stop me obsessing, I do realize that these fears can be overblown sometimes
I will never forget the doctor who told me, when I was getting one of my MANY HIV tests, in my 20s, that "if you want to get HIV you have to try really hard." If you look online there is a ton of people worrying about STDs (usually HIV) and some very weary responses carrying the same message: your worries about HIV are medically ungrounded and irrational please stop

I think it's generational to a degree: I grew up learning about AIDS and sex pretty much side by side, so that in my teenage mind sex=death. And yes I know there are lots of other STDs besides HIV.

Of course I believe in protection, as much protection as possible, always; but I also realize that obsessing about this issue can be very damaging and detrimental to one's emotional well being, and can go beyond the practical and the rational and into the self-destructive. At least that has been my case
My little brother got HIV from sharing a needle and doing drugs, otherwise I know a lot more people who got HPV, Hep C and Herpes from the free love 70s and pre-AIDS 80s than anything else, and you can get some of that shit even WITH protection. The only sure protection is self-love.

[Dra508]

I think it's generational to a degree: I grew up learning about AIDS and sex pretty much side by side, so that in my teenage mind sex=death. And yes I know there are lots of other STDs besides HIV.

There was a time when there was no treatment. HIV = Death. It's unfortunate that we had to scare the crap out of everyone to change behaviors and be safer. I totally agree with sarahK that it's just a turn off today not practice carrying that on.

[Sarah K]

I was born in 1984, so there was for sure a lot of talk about OMG THE AIDS talk growing up. But honestly, AIDS is kinda the least of my worries. Maybe that's ignorant, but I'm much more worried about HSV2.

[playwithfire]

Barriers generally don't do all that much to protect against it, sadly. I don't want to get it, but yeah. :( Getting an oral STD kinda freaks me out. I've never had my throat swabbed, which I should some time.

I watched this movie about a lesbian/queer burner camp the other week, which has a giant play party each year where everyone wears gloves and stuff (because safety) and I got all "why can't everyone be chill about safer sex :(." Latex gloves are sexy.

Also they introduced me to Reid Mihako's elevator speech, which is my new favorite thing: http://reidaboutsex.com/safersexelevatorspeech/

[The_Prowler]

I may or may not be getting some soon... we'll just have to wait and see.
Never mind, forget I said anything... it's probably not happening.

[botley]

Last night, my partner and I both got WAY too drunk to fuck, but we fooled around a bit hungoverly on the couch this morning, with a promise to pick it up again tonight after work. Romance!

[The_Prowler]

Last night, my partner and I both got WAY too drunk to fuck, but we fooled around a bit hungoverly on the couch this morning, with a promise to pick it up again tonight after work. Romance!
I can just feel the romance emanating from this post...

"I'm too drunk and hungover to have sex, but I still want to touch your naughty bits... let's continue this later tonight when I don't feel like I'm about to hurl all over you."

[botley]

Pretty much. "Hi honey, how was your day? Feeling better? That's good — just going to wash a bit of the 14-hour workday off, and we can get back in bed." (super-gooey multiorgasmic goodness ensues)

[Dra508]

I was born in 1984, so there was for sure a lot of talk about OMG THE AIDS talk growing up. But honestly, AIDS is kinda the least of my worries. Maybe that's ignorant, but I'm much more worried about HSV2.

I'm so old and been out of the touch I don't know what the fuck HSV2 is...


On topic, I'm getting busy tonight as long as I don't have more then a glass of wine. Jet lag.

[allegro]

I'm so old and been out of the touch I don't know what the fuck HSV2 is...

Herpes simplex virus 2 = genital herpes

Edit: Mayo Clinic (http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/genital-herpes/basics/causes/con-20020893)

[playwithfire]

2 or 1 can be genital, or oral, but yep.

[Dra508]

Herpes simplex virus 2 = genital herpes

Edit: Mayo Clinic (http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/genital-herpes/basics/causes/con-20020893)

Gawd dam acronyms. I have to many of those in my professional life to now have to follow STDs with ones. Ah, see what I did there. [emoji57]

[ophelia_]

SHARK WEEK IS OVER.. and now I have a week of oral sex to make up for. Not leaving the house this weekend, goodbye world!

[theimage13]

SHARK WEEK IS OVER.. and now I have a week of oral sex to make up for. Not leaving the house this weekend, goodbye world!

Aw, but I'm in Sydney this weekend.

Also....it was shark week? Damnit. I even had a decent TV at this hotel. I knew I shouldn't have gone outside and looked at actual nature.

I feel like I had something actually related to this thread, but it's totally gone now. Note to self: don't start posts with wise ass comments before getting to the point.

[Charmingly Miserable]

I've been having the best sex of my life for the past month or so.

[ophelia_]

Is anyone else really bad at dirty talking? I never know what to say... I can think all these dirty things in my head, but can't express the same creativity when it comes to verbalizing them, so I end up just saying the same kind of things every time.

[Charmingly Miserable]

No way. I'm good at it. I'm such a dirty girl.

It doesn't matter if you say the same things over and over. You're having sex; not writing a novel. Just keep a handful of dirty things to say and rotate them once in a while.

[eversonpoe]

Is anyone else really bad at dirty talking? I never know what to say... I can think all these dirty things in my head, but can't express the same creativity when it comes to verbalizing them, so I end up just saying the same kind of things every time.

did you read the story about when my wife said "french soup" out loud during sex (she doesn't swear very often and usually only during sex) and i thought she had said "fridge soup" and we both cracked up while we continued boning? yeah, that was hilarious. but we're both really bad at dirty talk, so we don't even try it.

[The_Prowler]

I've been having the best sex of my life for the past month or so.

No way. I'm good at it. I'm such a dirty girl.

It doesn't matter if you say the same things over and over. You're having sex; not writing a novel. Just keep a handful of dirty things to say and rotate them once in a while.
Your man is such a goddamn lucky son of a bitch :p

[Digital Twilight]

I've been having the best sex of my life for the past month or so.

That makes two of us ;)

[Sarah K]

I love RECEIVING dirty talk, name calling, etc. But yeah. I'm hella awkward when it comes to saying it back. Unless it's texting. Haha.

[Magtig]

PSA - The nice TSA lady at the airport told me that big rubber dildos show up as bombs in the x-ray machine.

[icklekitty]

Even if they're shaped like the Eiffel Tower?

[halloween]

Yikes, that's...funny...?

As for dirty talk, I'm not one to dirty talk at all. I love hearing the heavy breathing and if I don't have to be quiet, I can't help but to moan here and there. The most I'll say is like "Keep doing that" or "Don't stop". Just as instructions really, but I'm all about non verbal communication when it comes to sex and getting turned on, hehe. In the end you gotta find what you're comfortable with, what keeps you in the zone and not feel self-conscious about it.

[Sarah K]

I'M SURE! It looked fun. Until one of them gets pregnant or gets herpes or some shit. I know this dude is going to want to go out/want to play this weekend and I'm gonna be like NOPE. I realize that his unsafe sex practices don't influence his sadism. But it really just changed how I look at all of them. And with him, I can no longer view him in the same way, so I won't be able to take beatings from him without that previous level of respect I had for him.

I'm being a bummer!


UPDATE: Once I stopped messing with him, he began telling everyone that we fucked.

Am I in 9th grade?

[playwithfire]

The amount of butthurt in response to this article is both hilarious and depressing: http://jezebel.com/is-it-selfish-for-a-woman-to-declare-that-shes-done-wit-1693419066

Funnily, I'd probably be totally down to date a chick where I just went down on her, so long as the relationship was casual and I had other partners.

[telee.kom]

It's baffling to me what things are considered news nowadays

[Dra508]

The amount of butthurt in response to this article is both hilarious and depressing: http://jezebel.com/is-it-selfish-for-a-woman-to-declare-that-shes-done-wit-1693419066

Funnily, I'd probably be totally down to date a chick where I just went down on her, so long as the relationship was casual and I had other partners.To me, that's part of the issue with the article. Her tone is that she doesn't give a shit about his organism. your response says what her article doesn't give us - what would that guy do? Just eat her and go home? Or eat her and have another partner to get him off?

I wonder if the whole Vice thing isn't just trolling. Written by a man, posing as a woman, trying to prove some belief of his and turn the genders in the story to prove it.

[DigitalChaos]

Gawd dam acronyms. I have to many of those in my professional life to now have to follow STDs with ones. Ah, see what I did there. [emoji57]
They are called STI's now.
:)

[playwithfire]

To me, that's part of the issue with the article. Her tone is that she doesn't give a shit about his organism. your response says what her article doesn't give us - what would that guy do? Just eat her and go home? Or eat her and have another partner to get him off?

I wonder if the whole Vice thing isn't just trolling. Written by a man, posing as a woman, trying to prove some belief of his and turn the genders in the story to prove it.

I think they were farming butthurt.

Honestly, I used to have kinda judgey views about guys who didn't go down on women. But, this was because I'd been with people who'd neglected my own pleasure. Like, "Oh, you'll get your dick sucked, though." I was frustrated because I was fucking people for whom sex was over after they got off and dumb shit like that. I remember how I literally went down on a guy (we were both tested and not really getting with anyone else) for so long that I CUT MY LIP AGAINST MY TEETH FROM THE FRICTION OF SUCKING. I'm so glad I don't fuck selfish/super negatively hetero-normative people anymore.

But like, people can like what they like. If you don't like it? Don't bang them. It's okay to dislike giving oral, it's okay to feel whatever about whatever.

Shit, be selfish in bed, but be honest about it and make sure your partner is cool with it. Don't be a dick.

And the "BUT WHAT ABOUT THE MEN/GOOD LUCK OWNING THOSE CATS/HOW DARE SHE HOW DARE A SINGLE DICK GO UNLOVED" responses are depressing and ridiculous.

[Charmingly Miserable]

You guys, I'm still having amazing sex.

[Sarah K]

The day after I hit my year mark, I will be sucking all the dicks for like a month.

[The_Prowler]

The day after I hit my year mark, I will be sucking all the dicks for like a month.
Well... hi, there :D

[botley]

Sure. In theory, it'd be far less complicated and difficult these days to just hook up online for casual sex, as long as you're careful. But I suppose people also sometimes crave the association of relationships (along with all their drama)... assigning some kind of external purpose to The Act. I found it quite hard to not get fixated on the people I screwed around with, when I was doing the casual thing, perhaps due to social conditioning from all my prior dating experiences. But not fucking anyone at all led to a somewhat different kind of angst. Not "jeez, I'd rather be flat broke from being on the hook to persons X & Y than have my dick shrivel up further", that's not my kind of poison.

[playwithfire]

You know, I don't especially like having someone cum (don't like that word, either) inside me. It's fun every now and then, but honestly I'm glad condoms factor into my birth control (in other news my pill ran out, yaaay, ugh)

[eversonpoe]

You know, I don't especially like having someone cum (don't like that word, either) inside me. It's fun every now and then, but honestly I'm glad condoms factor into my birth control (in other news my pill ran out, yaaay, ugh)

sarah doesn't care either way, she always says, while she's in the bathroom stuffing a tissue into her undies with a goofy look on her face. i personally love it because we almost always come at the same time, and it makes it feel that much more intimate and connected. i also feel really foul coming ON someone, like i'm doing something dominant and bestial, and i don't like that feeling. but that's just me.

also, it's been three weeks. other than our honeymoon at the beginning of february, the only times we've had sex at all this year have been on weekends. and other than our honeymoon, we've only had sex about 5 or 6 times since the beginning of the year. that's...not enough. at all. and i know it's a symptom of how much she hates her job and the fact that it's basically ruining her life, but i wish she could work up the will to make love a bit more often because she is SO HAPPY when we do. i feel like if she comes home from work in a terrible mood and manages to get in the mood for fooling around, she'll end up feeling so much better instead, but it never seems to happen that way. :(

[Jon]

sarah doesn't care either way, she always says, while she's in the bathroom stuffing a tissue into her undies with a goofy look on her face. i personally love it because we almost always come at the same time, and it makes it feel that much more intimate and connected. i also feel really foul coming ON someone, like i'm doing something dominant and bestial, and i don't like that feeling. but that's just me.

also, it's been three weeks. other than our honeymoon at the beginning of february, the only times we've had sex at all this year have been on weekends. and other than our honeymoon, we've only had sex about 5 or 6 times since the beginning of the year. that's...not enough. at all. and i know it's a symptom of how much she hates her job and the fact that it's basically ruining her life, but i wish she could work up the will to make love a bit more often because she is SO HAPPY when we do. i feel like if she comes home from work in a terrible mood and manages to get in the mood for fooling around, she'll end up feeling so much better instead, but it never seems to happen that way. :(

Hahaha, now I know I'm not the only one that gets "that" look.

Serious question: would you still feel foul if you rubbed your penis against their clit until ejaculation? You might be missing out ;)

[eversonpoe]

Hahaha, now I know I'm not the only one that gets "that" look.

Serious question: would you still feel foul if you rubbed your penis against their clit until ejaculation? You might be missing out ;)

probably not, but she tends to prefer positions where we're both facing the same direction, which means i'm usually behind her in one way or another, so if i did that, it would end up all over the bed haha

[playwithfire]

I usually don't want someone to cum ON me either, though I enjoy both occasionally. But I've always used condoms most of the time and I've gotten used to not having to deal with like... Another person's fluids dripping out of my body/as much of a cleanup. And I like it that way. Sometimes it's awesome, but usually I'd rather not. Which I guess is funny, since I think it's a common part of "hetero" sex.

[Charmingly Miserable]

Although it doesn't happen all the time, I don't mind when my man comes on me. Yes, it feels a bit dirty but then again, I'm a badass dirty bitch in bed. ;)

I want this (http://store.lovecrave.com/vibrators/duet/)! I read good reviews on it. Does anyone have it?

[playwithfire]

Well, I think it feels dirty literally from a "there is stuff on me" perspective. I have 0 feels about the social connotations of it, though I'm pro-"straight" dudes getting more stuff on/in them more often.

[Dra508]

Sometimes it's awesome, but usually I'd rather not. Which I guess is funny, since I think it's a common part of "hetero" sex.

Is it? Or is that just a p0rn thing?

A while back I would have never said this, but having all those juices on me is a huge turn on. I think mostly because mentally, I'm finally in a place where I'm turned on by him being turned on. Big circle.

[playwithfire]

I just mean like, a guy coming inside or on a woman*, if no condom is in the picture. It's just funny how I, as a someone who uses condoms heavily, have gotten used to that lack of cleanup re: having cum inside me, and because I experienced it so late (last May, while I was on the pill and had an IUD simultaneously is the first time I was ever comfortable with doing it) means I was just like "This is entertaining for a few seconds and then it's a mess." and decided I liked generally forgoing it.

*I don't know how to talk about sex and gender without feeling the need to throw in asterisks and quotes everywhere these days.

[Dra508]

I just mean like, a guy coming inside or on a woman*, if no condom is in the picture. It's just funny how I, as a someone who uses condoms heavily, have gotten used to that lack of cleanup re: having cum inside me, and because I experienced it so late (last May, while I was on the pill and had an IUD simultaneously is the first time I was ever comfortable with doing it) means I was just like "This is entertaining for a few seconds and then it's a mess." and decided I liked generally forgoing it.

*I don't know how to talk about sex and gender without feeling the need to throw in asterisks and quotes everywhere these days.

I can totally see how you could get used to one way or other. Having been barrier free, I'm used to it.

Same thing with using asterisks. :P

[The_Prowler]

I've never actually blown my load onto another person. That may change in the next few weeks, but as of right now I've never had that experience. And I've only ever orgasmed inside a girl's mouth once.

[allegro]

I can totally see how you could get used to one way or other. Having been barrier free, I'm used to it.

Same thing with using asterisks. :P

Yeah married sex generally means wet spot and various forms of cleanup.

[Charmingly Miserable]

Is it? Or is that just a p0rn thing?


Funny you should say that because my man wants to come on me "money shot porn style" - my head cocked back, my mouth wide open, tongue out while he ejaculates all over my face. I'm sure they do that in porn, amirite?

[Sarah K]

Facials. <3 I'm a big fan of seeing it, for whatever reason.

[eversonpoe]

Facials. <3 I'm a big fan of seeing it, for whatever reason.

i hate seeing it! i'm like "OMG NO YOUR EYES!!!" and it just ruins the moment for me. anywhere else in porn is fine.

[playwithfire]

I like this piece about facials: http://luxnightmare.tumblr.com/post/54260737694/a-short-treatise-on-facials I have no interest in receiving one, though. Tits/external pussy (this is excellent, you can use the cum as lube and rub your clit!)/etc are great on occasion.

I have no interest in adjusting to cum dripping out of me. I like it as a rare novelty and am super pro a physical expression of pleasure, but yeah, yay using condoms.

I think being queer factors into some of my feels about this, too. Females as a receptive partner, sigh, etc.

[Dra508]

Yeah married sex generally means wet spot and various forms of cleanup.

I HAD married sex. :(

[The_Prowler]

In relation to post sex cleanup and wet spots, I prefer to have an easily washable comforter on the bed and do it on top of that so there's no wet spot on the actual sheets that winds up being the subject of disagreement on who has to sleep on it.

[bethylfan]

Wow, I've barely posted but I love this place already.

I'd get banned on the other boards I post on for this stuff. ALL HAIL ETS

[DigitalChaos]

Wow, I've barely posted but I love this place already.

I'd get banned on the other boards I post on for this stuff. ALL HAIL ETS
wtf? are you frequenting the Westborough Church forums or something?

[DigitalChaos]

The day after I hit my year mark, I will be sucking all the dicks for like a month.

As I read this, all I could think of is the refrain from this song:


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aMdJ78T32JE

[Dra508]

In relation to post sex cleanup and wet spots, I prefer to have an easily washable comforter on the bed and do it on top of that so there's no wet spot on the actual sheets that winds up being the subject of disagreement on who has to sleep on it.

I'm an environmental nightmare because I wash my sheets if there is even one spot. Like just now. [emoji16]

[The_Prowler]

I'm an environmental nightmare because I was my sheets if there is even one spot. Like just now. [emoji16]
Don't worry, I have an obsession with being clean, too. I go through clothes and sheets like nobody's business because I wash them so often.
And I prefer to shower before getting nasty, which really makes things interesting because I always feel the need for another one afterward. Especially if it gets pretty heated and intense...

[playwithfire]

Don't worry, I have an obsession with being clean, too. I go through clothes and sheets like nobody's business because I wash them so often.
And I prefer to shower before getting nasty, which really makes things interesting because I always feel the need for another one afterward. Especially if it gets pretty heated and intense...

<3 That feel.

[Lunatica]

I had a guy ones that did a spiderman on my whole bedroom it was aweful. I keep a clean everything cuz you don't want to get that UTI it's the worst totally, I'm so drunk on margaritas right now guys, somebody hug me sexily.

[allegro]

I had a guy ones that did a spiderman on my whole bedroom it was aweful. I keep a clean everything cuz you don't want to get that UTI it's the worst totally, I'm so drunk on margaritas right now guys, somebody hug me sexily.

HAHAHAHAAAA come here, beebee, I will hug you ...

http://nymag.com/daily/entertainment/2011/09/20/20_grace4.gif

[Sarah K]

I had one of these "It's hard for me to cum from blowjobs" guys on Sunday.

To make a long story short, I was in trouble, and hadn't been allowed to orgasm for over two weeks. But as soon as I was with this guy, I was allowed to. But he kept taking me right to the edge and stopping, because he knew that I wasn't allowed to orgasm for that long.

I then gave the most incredible blowjob(s) of my LIFE(because I can't have sex for three-ish more weeks) and he came twice.

Fuck him if he's playing that stupid "I only say I can't cum so I'll get more blowjobs" shit. I wonder if my enthusiasm would have been the same without that. I think it would have been, though. I was very, very motivated to have a fucking orgasm. Then he gave me like 5.

GUYS I CAN HAVE SEX AGAIN SOON. This man is too fucking sexy and he better prepare himself.

[halloween]

I have a friend who recently had a terrible breakup and it was apparent her boyfriend checked out months ago since it had been 6 months since they had any sexual activity beyond cuddling. She decided she just wanted to get laid and sure enough, two days afterwards she managed to just go out and find a cute guy to spend the night with. I'm not sure how that conversation went down but I admire her for being able to just want to get laid and have some guy be attracted to her for the night. I've tried a couple times to hook up before with a random cute guy but I never managed to go very far- meaning, one kiss and instead of feeling turned on, it felt absolutely gross. It is repelling to me to have a strangers tongue in my mouth.
I do wonder if I would be the same way if I had been in a relationship where I felt unwanted for months though. Difficult to say...either way. I want to get laid too. I get to see my boyfriend next weekend but I'm not sure if the getting laid is going to happen. Due to other reasons that don't belong in this thread. Sigh.

[miss k bee]

Yay meeting fb tomorrow for 5 nights of fun.. energy permitting.

[Lunatica]

I have a friend who recently had a terrible breakup and it was apparent her boyfriend checked out months ago since it had been 6 months since they had any sexual activity beyond cuddling. She decided she just wanted to get laid and sure enough, two days afterwards she managed to just go out and find a cute guy to spend the night with. I'm not sure how that conversation went down but I admire her for being able to just want to get laid and have some guy be attracted to her for the night. I've tried a couple times to hook up before with a random cute guy but I never managed to go very far- meaning, one kiss and instead of feeling turned on, it felt absolutely gross. It is repelling to me to have a strangers tongue in my mouth.
I do wonder if I would be the same way if I had been in a relationship where I felt unwanted for months though. Difficult to say...either way. I want to get laid too. I get to see my boyfriend next weekend but I'm not sure if the getting laid is going to happen. Due to other reasons that don't belong in this thread. Sigh.

I never thought I would flat out cheat on someone until I was in the same situation. And he wasn't even holding sex back he was just checking out emotionally. We dated for a year he was separated from his wife, she had cheated on him and was living with the dude but for whatever reason (probably cuz she's a bitch) she kept wanting to talk to him and them he'd get depressed. Honestly it should not have lasted a year but he really was a great guy when he bounced back and came around, ugh.

The last time it happened I broke up with him of course but the time before that I cheated on him and then told him everything because I'm stupid and felt bad. He forgave me which I thought it was weird. Whatever. They where probably still fucking, meh.

[halloween]

I never thought I would flat out cheat on someone until I was in the same situation. And he wasn't even holding sex back he was just checking out emotionally. We dated for a year he was separated from his wife, she had cheated on him and was living with the dude but for whatever reason (probably cuz she's a bitch) she kept wanting to talk to him and them he'd get depressed. Honestly it should not have lasted a year but he really was a great guy when he bounced back and came around, ugh.

The last time it happened I broke up with him of course but the time before that I cheated on him and then told him everything because I'm stupid and felt bad. He forgave me which I thought it was weird. Whatever. They where probably still fucking, meh.

Wow..that's something. A year is definitely long but at the same time it's about the right time to really get to know someone so I would probably have waited just as a long honestly, to see if that person "came around" as you said. I dragged on a relationship longer than it should have but it was in highschool so 3 months to me was a LOOOONG time to give someone a chance. The guy was too hurt by a previous relationship and kept throwing his insecurities on me and I hated it!

I honestly don't think it's that weird that he forgave you actually, if he hadn't been sexually intimate with you in awhile? But I don't know what the situation was. Together with his depression he probably understood that he wasn't giving you his all and couldn't feel upset over you cheating on him.

[Charmingly Miserable]

So, the other night I suggested that we would use some bondage tape and have some bad ass sex to my boyfriend. His replied, "If you don't mind, I would just like to make passionate love to my girlfriend." And you know what? It was so passionate, I got a little emotional and choked up. I nearly busted out in tears (good thing it was pitch black). Have any of you got so emotional during sex that you cried during sex out of joy/passion/happiness/etc? Or am I being just a big sap?

[miss k bee]

Five nights with my fb interrupted by my PMT oh dear.

[Dra508]

So, the other night I suggested that we would use some bondage tape and have some bad ass sex to my boyfriend. His replied, "If you don't mind, I would just like to make passionate love to my girlfriend." And you know what? It was so passionate, I got a little emotional and choked up. I nearly busted out in tears (good thing it was pitch black). Have any of you got so emotional during sex that you cried during sex out of joy/passion/happiness/etc? Or am I being just a big sap?Yes, it was put to me as being cathartic or having catharsis. Whether that's a real thing or not, it happens and it's makes you entirely human (avoiding the word normal here).

[Vertigo]

Ludicrously agonising sex headache. Anyone got any advice on dealing with these?

[halloween]

Advil. For every headache.

[theimage13]

So, the other night I suggested that we would use some bondage tape and have some bad ass sex to my boyfriend. His replied, "If you don't mind, I would just like to make passionate love to my girlfriend." And you know what? It was so passionate, I got a little emotional and choked up. I nearly busted out in tears (good thing it was pitch black). Have any of you got so emotional during sex that you cried during sex out of joy/passion/happiness/etc? Or am I being just a big sap?

http://www.buzzfeed.com/caseygueren/crying-after-orgasm

[Vertigo]

Advil. For every headache.

I was more thinking about prevention... It's a bit hard to be cuddly when your head feels like it's being squashed in a vice.

[allegro]

http://www.buzzfeed.com/caseygueren/crying-after-orgasm
She said "during" sex, not after. "Sex so good, it makes you cry. (http://thoughtcatalog.com/madison-moore/2012/12/sex-so-good-it-makes-you-cry/)" And, yeah, that's not all that uncommon, either. Sex is a very very mental thing, absolutely (tantric sex). And, many times, it's very very emotional ("lovemaking" vs. fucking).

[Dra508]

I was more thinking about prevention... It's a bit hard to be cuddly when your head feels like it's being squashed in a vice.

You get a headache from sex?

Get hydrated stat.

[Vertigo]

That wasn't the problem, and my head's still pulsing two days later. Ladyfriend thinks it's something to do with a neck problem.

[allegro]

Sex is a migraine trigger for some people.

Or, see also coital cephalgia (http://www.livescience.com/25629-coital-cephalgia-sexual-headache.html).

[Dra508]

http://www.salon.com/2015/05/20/the_secret_to_female_ejaculation_how_all_women_can _experience_it_partner/

Holy water

You're welcome

[Charmingly Miserable]

http://www.salon.com/2015/05/20/the_secret_to_female_ejaculation_how_all_women_can _experience_it_partner/

Holy water

You're welcome
I would LOVE to achieve this but all of my years of sexual activity, I have never had a g spot orgasm. Despite from countless sources saying that every woman is capable of having this, I don't think it's possible for me.

[allegro]

I would LOVE to achieve this but all of my years of sexual activity, I have never had a g spot orgasm. Despite from countless sources saying that every woman is capable of having this, I don't think it's possible for me.

Never say never. One may surprise you! Have your bf find it.

[Charmingly Miserable]

Never say never. One may surprise you! Have your bf find it.

I dunno. I'm kinda ashamed to tell him.

[playwithfire]

I don't know if I've ever had an internal orgasm with no clitoral stimulation. I *have* had internal orgasms without *direct* clitoral stimulation (the clitoris is bigger on the inside) and to me they just don't feel as good. I like g-spot area stimulation but the clit rules everything.

I think saying all women can come from g-spot stimulation is very silly and maybe reflective of a world that wants pnv to be the thing women are *supposed* to orgasm from.

I think you should tell him, though, because more orgasms. Either from getting more familiar with your body or more attention paid to what does work for you.

[allegro]

I dunno. I'm kinda ashamed to tell him.

Ashamed to tell him what? I don't think most women would know their G spot if it bit them, and I suspect even less guys know where it is LOL. There is nothing to be ashamed about! But exploration is, like ^ she said, more about you and you get to have fun. Win win! I don't know that most women who have G spot orgasms have them without simultaneous clitoral stimulation (both digitally stimulated with no penis involved although a tongue could be involved, e.g. stimulating the G spot during oral sex which is pretty common). There was a big discussion in here about that, where ETS guys were giving advise about how to stimulate the G spot during oral sex (the "come here" motion).

[eversonpoe]

(the clitoris is bigger on the inside)

:: insert TARDIS joke here ::

[playwithfire]

:: insert TARDIS joke here ::

Ahead of you.
(http://www.orgasmatronics.com/products/cli-tardis-t-shirt)

[The_Prowler]

So, earlier in the week, I had the girl over that I mentioned in the Relationship Thread. We were making out pretty heavily (keep in mind that all our clothes were on and no direct stimulation was being administered to her naughty bits), and at one point I grabbed a fistful of her hair and licked and sucked on her throat while I scratched her lower back...


She came twice in under a minute.

[Ryan]

So, earlier in the week, I had the girl over that I mentioned in the Relationship Thread. We were making out pretty heavily (keep in mind that all our clothes were on and no direct stimulation was being administered to her naughty bits), and at one point I grabbed a fistful of her hair and licked and sucked on her throat while I scratched her lower back...


She came twice in under a minute.

It's true, I did.

[The_Prowler]

It's true, I did.
It was pretty amazing, wasn't it?

[Ryan]

It was pretty amazing, wasn't it?

Why, I squealed like a little piggy bitch!

[The_Prowler]

Why, I squealed like a little piggy bitch!
I knew you would, you got a real purty mouth.

[eversonpoe]

my wife and i basically never have sex when we're drunk. i don't know if it's negative association with her college years or something else, but she just never seems to get in the mood when we're drinking (which is unfortunate because i get EVEN MORE in the mood when i'm a bit tipsy).

anyway, on saturday night, she was somehow ready to go after a couple drinks each, and JESUS CHRIST we had an amazing time. she kept telling me to do things, she was SUPER into her boobs (either playing with them herself or demanding that i do), aggressive but in a good way, and after i came, she had me go down on her again (something that never happens) and then we went again for a bit. it was absolutely magical and so much fun. after we were done, she refused to put on a shirt and kept having me massage her boobs for about an hour.

and she wonders why i want to fool around when we have drinks...

[ophelia_]

Drunken sex can be so much fun... All the things that hold you back when you're sober aren't an issue and you just go all at it. Woo! :D

Glad to hear you had lots of drunken sexy times.

[halloween]

I didn't end up fucking anyone in the strict sense of the word, but ohhhhh myyyy goooood the making out and the flesh on flesh......so amazing! I feel aliiiiiiiiive! P.S I was/am definitely tipsy, not drunk though. Tipsy enough not to feel aroused enough when he was trying to get me off, heh.

[halloween]

Thinking back, i think it was less because i was drinking and more because he was kind of going kind of fast that it didn´t give me much of a chance to warm up. I´ve historically not been able to be aroused with someone i don´t really know, so there´s that too.

[theimage13]

Drunken sex can be so much fun... All the things that hold you back when you're sober aren't an issue and you just go all at it.

Not sure why you'd hold anything back during sex in the first place. You know what you like. Go for it.

[playwithfire]

I actually really dislike drunken sex, on the other hand. Granted alcohol also doesn't make me feel amazing a lot of the time, but I also find drunk people quite a bit less attractive (I find self control and grace pretty attractive) than sober people. Go y'all, though.

[DigitalChaos]

Drunk (or other forms of substance intoxication) can do a whole lot more than just drop inhibitions. It can magnify specific sense, it can block out others. No need to actually get sloppy... but a loss of control can certainly be enjoyable... just ask a sub! (yes I know BDSM looks down on mixing with substance use).

[Sarah K]

I think drunk/high stuff is fun with a partner, as trust is already established. Not for hooking up, though.

And my "drunk", I mean a few drinks. Not like sloppy. I was once having a threeway and was so trashed that I fell asleep in the middle of it. No thanks to that.

[Charmingly Miserable]

You guys, you guys......morning sex :thumbs up:

[frankie teardrop]

i actually prefer mid-afternoon, roughly 3-5pm... still light outside, high energy, doesn't signal the end of the day, etc. i'm usually wayyyyyy too creaky for morning sex.

[eversonpoe]

You guys, you guys......morning sex :thumbs up:


i actually prefer mid-afternoon, roughly 3-5pm... still light outside, high energy, doesn't signal the end of the day, etc. i'm usually wayyyyyy too creaky for morning sex.

it's my favorite way to start the day. it just puts me in a good mood right away and i love that.

[Dra508]

You guys, you guys......morning sex :thumbs up:
After years of having zero interest in this, it's now my favorite. Though, mid day is great too for the reasons frankie mentioned. If anything, evening is when I get sleepy and then I don't want to. Funny - how I've changed.

sigh.


Good sigh

[DigitalChaos]

any of you have experience with those new polyisoprene condoms? I'm curious how they compare to lamb skin. Nobody seems to have compared them yet.

[Ryan]

Giving anal creampies is my big thing lately.

[The_Prowler]

I'm finally getting to truly delve into a Dom/Sub relationship, and so far it is glorious. Sometimes it's just "normal" sex, but other times I take total and absolute control over her.

It's pretty much the shit, and she'd agree with me there.

[Sarah K]

Just keep in mind if you're actually in a D/s relationship, and not just topping her that like 99.99999999999999999999999999999999% of that dynamic has to happen outside of sex.

[theimage13]

Just keep in mind if you're actually in a D/s relationship, and not just topping her that like 99.99999999999999999999999999999999% of that dynamic has to happen outside of sex.

Exactly. There's a huge difference between engaging in D/s roles during sexy funtimes, and having an entire relationship built around one person being Dominant and the other being submissive.

[Sarah K]

any of you have experience with those new polyisoprene condoms? I'm curious how they compare to lamb skin. Nobody seems to have compared them yet.

I haven't *used* them yet. But I just got a some of them. I was telling my friend who is a sex educator my condom woes and she gave me a bunch. They're the Skyn brand, which I believe is made by Lifestyles. I've taken them out and messed around with them. They seem kinda thick. But I had previously used like ULTRATHIN shit or whatever. The lube on them is sparse and gets tacky quickly. So plan for that accordingly, if necessary.

I've heard good things about the brand. I just can't bring myself to use the lambskin ones so I'm hoping that my vagina accepts these better than the latex ones.

*EDIT*

As I was typing this, I was messing around with one. I put it over three fingers, something a condom should fit over easily, and it got a decent sized hole in it. The hole is at the base of the condom, so it wasn't torn by a fingernail or anything.

So that is ummm... concerning.

[DigitalChaos]

I just can't bring myself to use the lambskin ones
How come? The tend to be superior in just about every way.
If it's about the "inability" to block STI transmission.. That's actually a whole bunch of bad science in the way those tests are done. When you factor in how actual humans use them AND the fact that they break a whole lot less than something like latex... i'd bet anything that they STI transmission rate is lower with lambskin.

[ltrandazzo]

How come? The tend to be superior in just about every way.
If it's about the "inability" to block STI transmission.. That's actually a whole bunch of bad science in the way those tests are done. When you factor in how actual humans use them AND the fact that they break a whole lot less than something like latex... i'd bet anything that they STI transmission rate is lower with lambskin.

Incorrect. Lamb skin condoms are porous and thus cannot prevent STI transmission. They're fine if you use them to prevent pregnancy, but not if you have an STI.

[DigitalChaos]

Incorrect. Lamb skin condoms are porous and thus cannot prevent STI transmission. They're fine if you use them to prevent pregnancy, but not if you have an STI.
That belief is based on some pretty junky science from the period of time when AIDS hysteria was at the peak.
Section 3 here sums it up well: http://www.slate.com/articles/health_and_science/science/2015/04/latex_condoms_are_the_worst_why_after_all_these_ye ars_don_t_we_have_a_better.html#section-3

The transmission tests were done with hypersaturated solutions after letting them sit in the condom for hours. The "large pores" issue was deduced by soaking them in alcohol, drying them, then coating them in metal. Stuff that actual use cases are never going to experience. Even the FDA says that the results are probably very hyperbolic.
The ~2% break rate of latex makes the comparative real world transmission rate very different than what the absolute claims printed on the sides of the box, as mandated by the FDA.

There is a reason there are quite a few sex/condom shops that specifically educate their customers about this.

[playwithfire]

I mean, personally there's no way in hell I'm getting fucked with sheep intestine, but that's just me.

https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/originals/4a/c9/dd/4ac9ddb32e379985f3550815c7c4e96a.jpg

[DigitalChaos]

I'm actually reading that slate article in full. I had no idea a shop like Greenwich Village's Condomania was backing the lambskin too. You'd think that would have propagated the knowledge a lot more, as a result.

Adam Glickman, the founder of Condomania—America’s first condom shop when it opened in 1991, and a beloved fixture of Greenwich Village until it closed in 2007—has long endorsed lambskin condoms. “I did my homework, and when people had asked me about it, I would give them the facts as I knew them,” he told me. “I said, ‘This is a study the FDA did, this is how they did it. These are other studies that I respect that are contrary. All I can tell you is the facts, and you can make a decision.’ And then if I was ever asked ‘Well, would you use one for STD protection?’ I’d say, ‘Yes, absolutely.’ ”

[Baphomette]

Even the FDA says that the results are probably very hyperbolic.Aside from the Slate article which quotes Glickman's assessment of FDA results, where have you read that?


Similarly, lambskin (or natural membrane) condoms, while effective for contraception, should not be used for disease protection because the naturally occurring pores in lambskin are large enough to allow some viruses to pass through.from FDA page (http://www.fda.gov/ForPatients/Illness/HIVAIDS/Prevention/ucm126370.htm), dated 01.06.15. (Glickman contributed to this release.)

From the Slate article:

Howard Cyr, a co-author of the FDA’s studies on lambskin condoms, was more circumspect. When I spoke to him on the phone, he emphasized that latex is a “better product” than lambskin. “If you have a better product around, use the latex,” he said. “Don’t use the natural membrane condom.”



I'm actually reading that slate article in full. I had no idea a shop like Greenwich Village's Condomania was backing the lambskin too. You'd think that would have propagated the knowledge a lot more, as a result.His opinion wasn't/isn't shared by all shops. LA's Pleasure Chest and SF's Good Vibrations (http://www.goodvibes.com/content.jhtml?id=Safer-Sex-for-Latex-Sensitive) do not back lambskin for protection against SDIs, for example.

[Sarah K]

The FDA is run by the GOVERNMENT and should NOT be TRUSTED. Citizens need to WAKE UP and decide for themselves.

[elevenism]

i finally did some fucking, for the first time since i had the seizure and broke my back.

i tried to be easy, but i still hurt myself :/

The fun part is that after no fucking for a month, it feels like we are fucking for the first time.

As far as the fda, i haven't even read what you guys are talking about yet, but @Sarah K (http://www.echoingthesound.org/community/member.php?u=3236) is right. The FDA ABSOLUTELY should not be trusted.

Always keep in mind that the FDA was in on the scandal involving the sale of hemophelia drugs that they knew were contaminated with HIV and hep C.

edit: drunk sex and sex high on opiates :p...i've fallen asleep SEVERAL times while having sex, and i've passed out while going down on girls.
But the worst is going down on someone and nodding out over and over and trying to pretend like i'm awake.

[Sarah K]

Was joke...

[elevenism]

Was joke...

oh...shit! well, i don't trust them for the reason i quoted.

watch the documentary Bad Blood and you won't trust them anymore either. Fuckers.

you too Miss Baphomette . you can't trust people who knowingly give other people HIV.

[playwithfire]

The FDA is run by the GOVERNMENT and should NOT be TRUSTED. Citizens need to WAKE UP and decide for themselves.

Jet fuel can't melt steel beems but u can sure steal my heart </3

[playwithfire]

For the record I have used polyisoporene condoms when I bought like a 3 pack of the Skyn ones years ago but don't remember them being remarkable.

Durex Ultra Thin are my go-to's.

What are y'alls?

[DigitalChaos]

Aside from the Slate article which quotes Glickman's assessment of FDA results, where have you read that?

from FDA page (http://www.fda.gov/ForPatients/Illness/HIVAIDS/Prevention/ucm126370.htm), dated 01.06.15. (Glickman contributed to this release.)

From the Slate article:



His opinion wasn't/isn't shared by all shops. LA's Pleasure Chest and SF's Good Vibrations (http://www.goodvibes.com/content.jhtml?id=Safer-Sex-for-Latex-Sensitive) do not back lambskin for protection against SDIs, for example.

I recall reading several comparisons on the studies and references to them. It was a few years back. I also remember reading similar sentiments in various medical literature my parents had around the house (my mom worked at Planned Parenthood for a long time). The slate article was the first thing google showed me when trying to dig them up.

For the record, I am not saying that lambskin ARE safe. I am saying that the science behind the warning on the box is crappy. At best, the results are theoretical against actual use situations. And when you couple that with the breakage rate of latex (especially the much higher rate of breakage in anal (as high as 15-20%), where there tends to be a higher risk of HIV) you should probably try to inform yourself about your own risks beyond the print on the side of a box.

We also need better tests done and better products. If I had to rely on fragile latex to protect against HIV, I would be pretty unhappy. Even more specific stats on the side of the box would be awesome. It would be nice if they could at least break down the different risk categories instead of averaging all types of sex into one.



The FDA is run by the GOVERNMENT and should NOT be TRUSTED. Citizens need to WAKE UP and decide for themselves.
Nothing about TEH GUBMENT has anything to do with my view here... other than the fact that the FDA actually does make it very difficult for a better (non latex) condom to be invented and brought to market. We are sitting on decades old tech.

[DigitalChaos]

I haven't *used* them yet. But I just got a some of them. I was telling my friend who is a sex educator my condom woes and she gave me a bunch. They're the Skyn brand, which I believe is made by Lifestyles. I've taken them out and messed around with them. They seem kinda thick. But I had previously used like ULTRATHIN shit or whatever. The lube on them is sparse and gets tacky quickly. So plan for that accordingly, if necessary.

I've heard good things about the brand. I just can't bring myself to use the lambskin ones so I'm hoping that my vagina accepts these better than the latex ones.

*EDIT*

As I was typing this, I was messing around with one. I put it over three fingers, something a condom should fit over easily, and it got a decent sized hole in it. The hole is at the base of the condom, so it wasn't torn by a fingernail or anything.

So that is ummm... concerning.

Somehow I missed your edit. That is concerning. But hey, the FDA put their stamp of approval on it! :P Hopefully it's just a rare flaw though. I've seen latex do similar.

[DigitalChaos]

For the record I have used polyisoporene condoms when I bought like a 3 pack of the Skyn ones years ago but don't remember them being remarkable.

Durex Ultra Thin are my go-to's.

What are y'alls?

Anything but LifeStyles. Maybe I managed to get some bad boxes, but every 2 out of 3 seem to break.

[Sarah K]

It for sure could have just been a one off thing that happened.

The lube thing must be a consistent issue with them because I saw a box yesterday that was like SUPER EXTRA LUBRICATED or something.

I'm going to try to put one on a Hitachi tonight. Will report back!

[DigitalChaos]

It for sure could have just been a one off thing that happened.

The lube thing must be a consistent issue with them because I saw a box yesterday that was like SUPER EXTRA LUBRICATED or something.

I'm going to try to put one on a Hitachi tonight. Will report back!



Fuck yeah, science!

I'm now imaging their lube machine as an intermittently drooling mentally challenged mess.

I'll have to try those out. They seem interesting. I was comparing against lambskin because those are best in terms of strength and sensation. Every time a new synthetic comes out I am hopeful of it matching or beating that mark. Bonus points if they are cheaper.

I'm guessing most of the sensation improvement is noticed by the wearer though. My wife says she doesn't notice much difference.

[Baphomette]

you can't trust people who knowingly give other people HIV.I unfortunately know someone who did that. He's a PoS as far as I'm concerned even if he's found "redemption" through NA and activism (I have no idea for what as I stopped talking to him soon after he told me about it.) He even tried painting HIMSELF as the victim, saying the woman he'd infected was "a piece of work" and "if you'd met her, you probably wouldn't feel sorry for her." VILE.

[playwithfire]

Anything but LifeStyles. Maybe I managed to get some bad boxes, but every 2 out of 3 seem to break.

I was about to defend their Kiss of Mint condoms (it's rare, but I have used condoms for oral in the past and I'm sure I will at points in the future) but apparently they were discontinued so NEVERMIND LIFESTYLES SUCK

[Sarah K]

I dunno if I should ask this question here or in the equality thread or what. I think it'll get ignored in the equality thread, since there is a shitstorm there right now... so I'm going to try it here.

A couple of weeks ago, I was sitting around with two friends. These are two women that I've met in the kink scene - very open minded, and both identify as bisexual.

We were just talking about sexuality, and I mentioned I used to see a guy who was bisexual. They both thought that this was so weird, and both stated that they would never date a bisexual man. I was like... WHAT?! YOU'RE BOTH BI?!?!@?13L?J3 I told them that I thought that was really weird, and asked them why. They both just kinda mumbled around and said that they couldn't be with a guy who was "like that".

What the shit is this? These are two very open minded and liberated women. Is there still a stigma about bisexual men to where they are seen as odd, but women are accepted(I know this has been common beliefs among bros, but two bisexual women?)?

I don't understand how two bisexual people can reject someone... for being bisexual. I cannot wrap my brain around this.

[playwithfire]

Ugh, it's a THING. My boyfriend doesn't identify as straight, but the backlash from women towards queer men has been something that has actually dissuaded him from thinking of pursuing guys more. Even though I would counter that he shouldn't want to be with someone who would be that shitty towards him.

I think it's homophobic and terrible and ugh.

(For the record, my boyfriend not being straight is a HUGE BONUS to me and something I'm actually very happy and proud of.)

[Dra508]

I think it's homophobic.
Me too. Are they really bi or have they just been conditioned into girl relationships because p0rn says it's ok?

[Sarah K]

Does this go back to the whole belief that being bisexual isn't real, and that bisexual men are secretly gay?

I dunno about their sexuality. I've never seen either of them with women, but that doesn't mean anything.

There is even more pressure in the kink community for women to be bisexual. So maybe it's just caving to that. But I also feel like then I'm doing the same thing.. OH, YOU AREN'T REALLY BI. You know? I know I should accept how people identify, I just don't understand this, and I'm trying to get a better grasp on it.

[DigitalChaos]

It's cultural. Pop media and porn shows WAY more girl on girl stuff compared to guy on guy. Granted, you have to be a slave to cultural bullshit to buy into it... but there are a ton of people in that category.

[Dra508]

There is even more pressure in the kink community for women to be bisexual. This is my mother's theory.She thinks society puts pressure on people to do things they might not otherwise do. Mind you she's a pretty accepting person while growing up in a prudish Catholic family. Her other theories include that more than 50% of priests are gay....and that's ok. /driftttttttt

[playwithfire]

I posted this in the feminism thread but this belongs here too:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e9v0CYsGPYg

[icklekitty]

(I felt the urge to tell someone this and remembered that this used to be my go-to place for overshare)

I've just had my first internal orgasm for two years!!!

In a testament to compersion, both Daddy and my sex libidos have been pretty shot for around two years (between my biodad being arrested for trying to kill my mum, a bunch of scary shit on the news that clashes with our kinks, and his cancer scare/reconstruction surgery), but since January (post-surgery for him) we've been meeting up regularly to build things up very slowly and do cuddly stuff like go for dinners and cuddle with cats along with lots of talking. It had got to the point where I was bone dry and nothing could go inside my vagina without me developing tears; my brain was desperate to do things but my vagina just wouldn't listen. It was a slow process of rubbing things on my vagina, searching for and writing something that might trigger us, and sitting for up to an hour at a time with one of those vibrating bullet things in (vibrations have never done it for me but I've read that this method of stretching is very useful for people who have suffered vaginismus and/or sexual trauma). Over the past two weeks I've started to feel mild tingling in my genitals that I haven't felt in a very long time, and tonight, with the help of a glass dildo, I had an orgasm. I was so relieved that I cried afterwards!

Ah, I will sleep well tonight.
:D :D :D

[orestes]

Congratulations on your orgasm!

[halloween]

That is great! I recently have had the opposite happen, I had gotten so used to internal orgasm that trying to stimulate just the clitoris was doing nothing. Uuuuntiiiiil I started masturbating more often because for a year there I didn't masturbate at all, then I found pleasure again in non-penetration sex! The downside has been that I'm not on birth control so my female musk has been too intense for my partner to go down on me...super lame I know. I'm making up for it by having more masturbating-while-he-watches-and-caresses sessions and more doggy style where I get to stimulate my clitoris at the same time- something that never had much appeal to me before. It's great because having clitoris orgasms is the only way for me to have multiple orgasms.

[playwithfire]

Whaaat @ female musk. If everything is healthy otherwise, whaaaat. Does he know how jizz tastes?

[nin5in]

My latest rendezvous took place on my birthday 20 days ago. Lets just say it involved a bottle of 1980 Yellow Tail Merlot and anal intercourse.

[Sarah K]

Does he know how jizz tastes?


lolololllllll I'm dying.

Also - the guy I moved to NYC for was at your party tonight, even though he was supposed to come beat me. What a bitch.

[Khrz]

Whaaat @ female musk. If everything is healthy otherwise, whaaaat. Does he know how jizz tastes?

Seriously, the amount of guys who think women should taste like honey and roses is frightening... And indeed, it's not like our cock is anything close to little bags of lavender...

[icklekitty]

Whaaat @ female musk. If everything is healthy otherwise, whaaaat. Does he know how jizz tastes?

Or furthermore the general ballsack area. It's like shoving your nose into a very moist empty peanut pack.

[Madmya]

Seriously, the amount of guys who think women should taste like honey and roses is frightening... And indeed, it's not like our cock is anything close to little bags of lavender...

I've never come across this in my life.

[Khrz]

You've never read Reddit hen.

Then again, I still wonder why I do.

[Vertigo]

I spend half my screentime on the dinosaur reddit, and I don't remember ever discussing football-target-zone aroma (archosaurian or otherwise).

[playwithfire]

I mean, from what I've experienced, I generally far prefer how pussy tastes to jizz. But yeah. So like... even if stuff is strong down there, I'm kinda like ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

[Khrz]

I mean, from what I've experienced, I generally far prefer how pussy tastes to jizz. But yeah. So like... even if stuff is strong down there, I'm kinda like ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Well, you're comparing membranes and fluids here. Cocks don't constantly taste like jizz... Usually...

Edit : Anyhow, taste isn't really the point, there's no good reason to go all gourmet, you're not here for a tasting.... Usually...

[theimage13]

Or furthermore the general ballsack area. It's like shoving your nose into a very moist empty peanut pack.

That doesn't sound unpleasant at all, honestly. Maybe I've just never smelled a peanut sack that was that moist.

[playwithfire]

I mean, I don't find it unpleasant, but at the same time I don't know if I can dispute it.


Well, you're comparing membranes and fluids here. Cocks don't constantly taste like jizz... Usually...

Oh yeah, totally. Saying like... vaginal excretions sounded weird. But yes, generally you spend a lot more time with it going down on someone with a pussy than a dick.

[halloween]

He does know how terrible it tastes (his smell even extra like bleach too, it's weird) and I never swallow jizz and sometimes the smell of his balls is too much that even I decide not to really spend time down there. He never asks me to go down on him so it's not like it's an unfair thing. I think I will ask him to go down one day immediately after showering though because I miss it...

[Baphomette]

immediately after showering thoughThis makes me sad/mad. Can I punch your boyfriend in his stinky smelly crotch?

[halloween]

Aww, that's nice, but honestly- I notice how strong it smells and I don't find it pleasant myself...

[eversonpoe]

Aww, that's nice, but honestly- I notice how strong it smells and I don't find it pleasant myself...

if it's bothering you, then you might want to talk to your gyno. sounds like you have a pH balance problem, which could be as simple as just that, or could be an indication of something else.

[Jinsai]

The downside has been that I'm not on birth control so my female musk has been too intense for my partner to go down on me...super lame I know.

The majority of girls that I've gone down on haven't been on birth control, and I didn't know this was a thing? I enjoy it, and as long as hygiene is considered I don't find anything off-putting about it. The opposite actually.

[Ryan]

I'm kinda like ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Best smiley ever.

[Madmya]

You've never read Reddit hen.

Then again, I still wonder why I do.

Reddit? I wouldn't use it as a social marker.

[halloween]

if it's bothering you, then you might want to talk to your gyno. sounds like you have a pH balance problem, which could be as simple as just that, or could be an indication of something else.

It was bothering me once upon a time and I did see the gyno and it was pH problem so I took probiotics for a while and it's gotten way way better. It's a natural smell now but it's still strong. I don't know, maybe it's off putting for him because he's been lacking a desire towards me lately- I mean, we still have sex but the foreplay isn't usually initiated by him and he's historically not had a very strong sex drive. I suspect it's more of a general lack of interest and the smell is just another thing on top of that. If he were 20 years younger with a stronger sex drive maybe overcome it?? Who knows....I need to stop thinking about this before I get too sad and feel too rejected.

[Vertigo]

Is he in good shape? Blood flow can play an important role in sex drive (and ability) for men, so if he's not working out, and particularly if he leads a sedentary lifestyle, it could be a component - and one that's very easily addressed.

[halloween]

That he is not, haha. He does spend all day at work on his feet, but that's not cardio. I've pushed him slightly to work out more but he really doesn't care for it much. He only pays attention to when he gains weight in the winter or looses it in the summer. Oh well.

[Vertigo]

I guess that's the problem then. If he doesn't want to get fit, large doses of ginseng can also help, especially with l-arginine supplements. They get the heart working a bit better, which in turn will get his junk more active.

[halloween]

I'm wondering if it would be worth mentioning it or not. He's mentioned wanting to be a monk as a joke before but also I'm leaving out of the country in three weeks so our romance is doomed to end. He is seeing someone else but I'm not sure I really feel like giving him "relationship advice" at this point... I mean, I think I might have an opportunity to bring it up just if I decide to talk to him about the whole going-down-on-me thing. I've been away from this week and part of me wants to avoid anymore romance with him with my time left because I'm feeling a little bitter and just want move on already. It'll be hard for me though because the next two weeks is part of my month when I get the horniest so I'll see how he acts towards me and take it one step at a time. Edit- Also, he hasn't had a difficult time getting hard, it's just his lust drive after he is turned on, is lacking. He could easily just sit there and wait for it to pass instead of pursuing much sexy time, has been my impression. Meh.