Fuck me. (No, seriously.)

[theimage13]

Thought this forum could use a new "bitching/not getting any" thread.

At least, I sure could.

[JessicaSarahS]

:D Awesome.

Four more days... can't take it anymore! :mad: It's only been less than a month since the last time, but I need it.

[RJK]

11 more days. Can't freakin wait.

[dominik]

Fuck me. (No, seriously.)


Can I just quote this

[cashpiles (closed)]

2 and half months of no action. But sometimes no action is better than action with someone you're not really in to.

[Jacob's Ladder]

Meet an awesome girl at a party.

Talk for an hour.

Flirt lots

She asks me what kind of porn I like!

Afraid to ask for her number.

I'm going to be here forever.

Time to drink more.

EDIT: SJKAHDSKJASKDJHASKJDHAS I'M SO MAD AT MYSELF RIGHT NOW. FUCKING COWARD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[mostlymad]

Once a year ain't cutting it. Met a completely beautiful man through a friend, talked for hours, then had a date last week. Have a second date tonight. Is it ok to fuck on a second date? I don't even remember anymore, as the dating thing never really happened in many years. But I really like him, so *pleasepleaseplease let it be tonight oh please*

Ahem, now back to my more civilized self.

[jehuty]

Imo fucking is perfectly fine on the first date.

[icklekitty]

Totally. And if they just wanted to get laid it's better to find out on the first date than 5 dates down the line when you might have developed feelings.

[heroicraptor]

Blerg. :-/

[the duder]

In the madness of this semester, I've not had a free minute to even get my sorry ass into a social situation where the possibility of meeting someone/dating/hooking up has even crossed my mind. It's a sad state of affairs. It's been a SOLID 4 months since my last 'poon. Getting out of hand here...

[theruiner]

afraid to ask for her number.

I'm going to be here forever.

Time to drink more.

Edit: Sjkahdskjaskdjhaskjdhas i'm so mad at myself right now. Fucking coward!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Do iiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiitttttttt.

[cashpiles (closed)]

http://www.echoingthesound.org/community/images/misc/quote_icon.png Originally Posted by jacob's ladderhttp://www.echoingthesound.org/community/images/buttons/viewpost-right.png (http://www.echoingthesound.org/community/showthread.php?p=5050#post5050)afraid to ask for her number.

I'm going to be here forever.

Time to drink more.

Edit: Sjkahdskjaskdjhaskjdhas i'm so mad at myself right now. Fucking coward!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Do iiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiitttttttt.

Do iiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiitttttttttttt!!!!!!!!!!!

[Jacob's Ladder]

Do iiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiitttttttttttt!!!!!!!!!!!
YES SIRS! Drinking more!

[dominik]

in the madness of this semester, i've not had a free minute to even get my sorry ass into a social situation where the possibility of meeting someone/dating/hooking up has even crossed my mind. It's a sad state of affairs. It's been a solid 4 months since my last 'poon. Getting out of hand here...

same!!!!!!! :(

[reseen_lamenti]

Oh my god I wish...

[Ken]

0000

[iamanexit]

Sharing a bed with someone cute (and no sexy times) is quite torturous.

Could very well be the worst kind of torture there is.

[theimage13]

Sharing a bed with someone cute (and no sexy times) is quite torturous.

Yeah...sadly, that's all I've done with my girlfriend so far. And only once. It was both wonderful and torturous at the same time.

[miss k bee]

Overlong dry spell and the pussy pump is rubbish

[Malechite]

It's only been two and a half months, which is two and a half months too long.

[jibbleaoife]

2 and half months of no action. But sometimes no action is better than action with someone you're not really in to.


Totally agree! I'm on month... 9. I had to count. Of deliberate celibacy. And it's awesome. I'm possibly willing to break it soon though, but that's probably one for the relationships thread.

That said, i honestly can't say how incredible an experience it's been not having sex for so long. And not having sex with people i don't actually like. Bring on the good times now i reckon.

[con4cyn]

Bleh. Meaningless sex has gotten old for me. The last time I had it, and I was too drunk to even be aroused. The guy was bone skinny and annoying. Just reinforced my "celibacy".

But...Does oral sex count? Heh.

[theimage13]

Goddamn. I expected to find someone whose dry spell would make me feel better about myself. But you've failed me, ETS.

26 years and counting without getting it on. There...feel better?

[richardp]

Been with my girlfriend for over five years now, and it's sadly at that point where I haven't gotten any since October. Dammit.

[theimage13]

You know, I thought I would. But no. Dang. I could mail you some tequila and we can lament together.

I think the tequila will just make things worse. Make it a few Russian Imperial Stouts.

[think i'm a fire engine]

Just had my third anniversary with my girlfriend, and I don't think I've gotten laid since before our second anniversary. Pretty sure I'm breaking up with her after the holidays.

[diptych]

26 years and counting without getting it on.

21 years here. Am I out of my mind?

[dzaver]

2 months. doh

[onthewall2983]

I'm not getting any and honestly, I just don't care. I've had time this year to measure the risk/reward factors of my relationships with women, and just realizing how much I was doing the first part and not getting enough of the second. I'm just planning on using 2012 to get a job and get in better shape. My hope is that seeing those things through will lead me to have enough confidence to get back in the game.

[M1ke]

Just had my third anniversary with my girlfriend, and I don't think I've gotten laid since before our second anniversary. Pretty sure I'm breaking up with her after the holidays.

I've always found that cheating on a girl makes her want to screw you more. Might be worth a shot.

[iamanexit]

The boyfriend is out of town, so it's another night of streaming porn on my phone (because one of the roommates are home and my computer is too out in the open). Ugh.

[Somewhat Damaged]

I need sex. Soon. That is all.

[con4cyn]

I'm not getting any and honestly, I just don't care. I've had time this year to measure the risk/reward factors of my relationships with women, and just realizing how much I was doing the first part and not getting enough of the second. I'm just planning on using 2012 to get a job and get in better shape. My hope is that seeing those things through will lead me to have enough confidence to get back in the game.

YES! THIS! ALL OF THIS!
I just want to try this out. I'm 30 now, and I feel lost and stuck at the same time. I need to move forward, and try not to distract myself with wanting sex when I know now I really want something more real.

[cheddamash]

I'm a fatty and I don't have anywhere near the issues some of you have. If all you're looking for is ass, I have no suggestions for you. However, if you're looking to start a relationship (and make some meaningful love juice):

Be yourself
Be confident
Have a sense of humor

Find a place where quality people hang out and bring a buddy. If this tub of shit can find love/ass you fuckers can too.

[Aaron]

Ex-girlfriend is begging me for sex. I haven't had any in months. Do I do it? I don't want to lead her on, and I've told her we're not getting back together, and we don't work as a couple (she has told me she's in love with me, but she's "totally happy" if we're just friends), but I also really want to have sex. And she's real, real good. She is obsessed with sex, in a big way, and she assures me that she understands that we're not dating, and that we won't be. But something still feels wrong about it. Jesus, I just realized how fucked up this is! Probably deserves to go into the Relationships thread, not here...

[RJK]

Ex-girlfriend is begging me for sex. I haven't had any in months. Do I do it? I don't want to lead her on, and I've told her we're not getting back together, and we don't work as a couple (she has told me she's in love with me, but she's "totally happy" if we're just friends), but I also really want to have sex. And she's real, real good. She is obsessed with sex, in a big way, and she assures me that she understands that we're not dating, and that we won't be. But something still feels wrong about it. Jesus, I just realized how fucked up this is! Probably deserves to go into the Relationships thread, not here...

This is never a good idea. But you gotta do what you gotta do.

[MAD]

Ex-girlfriend is begging me for sex. I haven't had any in months. Do I do it? I don't want to lead her on, and I've told her we're not getting back together, and we don't work as a couple (she has told me she's in love with me, but she's "totally happy" if we're just friends), but I also really want to have sex. And she's real, real good. She is obsessed with sex, in a big way, and she assures me that she understands that we're not dating, and that we won't be. But something still feels wrong about it. Jesus, I just realized how fucked up this is! Probably deserves to go into the Relationships thread, not here...
Do it.

Ever heard of fuck buddies?

[Aaron]

Do it.

Ever heard of fuck buddies?
Yeah. But doesn't the fuck buddy thing break down when one person is IN LOVE with the other, and the feelings aren't recriprocated?

[cashpiles (closed)]

Yeah. But doesn't the fuck buddy thing break down when one person is IN LOVE with the other, and the feelings aren't recriprocated?

Yes. but she knows and has agreed to the ground rules. It's her fault if she expects more. Go for the hot sex!

In my case, I haven't gotten any in 3 months and added to that, I have stopped masturbating. It's been about a week now. My thingies are about to burst.

[theruiner]

This is never a good idea. But you gotta do what you gotta do.Agreed. This is only going to end in a mess (no pun intended). I'd say don't do it.

[halloween]

UGH. FEELING. SO . FRUSTRATED.

I'm horny as hell but the only person who i really want to be fucking is so not around...WHY DO I DO THIS TO MYSELF.

[mostlymad]

5 months, nearly. A rejection from someone else, though apparently I'm "cool to hang out with and all" and I'm in a peak life point as far as hormones go. But I am picky. Picky picky picky. I almost wish I could just get all hot n bothered by just anyone. I wonder how many months it takes to get to that point? This is the longest I've gone in 15 years. Uuuuugh.

[Pillfred]

Coming off an 8 year relationship where sex was the one thing we never quite clicked on. We had our good times to be sure but we could never seem to get no the same page about sex and intimacy in general. I've never been one to chase tail, though i probably should have more when i was younger. At 33 I'm really not into the idea, though at the same time I don't really care about getting rejected so maybe that will help ease the transition. Needless to say i don't see me getting my fuck on anytime soon. In fact i feel pretty meh about anything sexual for the most part.

[halloween]

I've been rediscovering the joys of masturbating.

[botley]

O hai pathos!


I've been rediscovering the joys of masturbating.
THERE CAN BE NO JOY ONLY SADNESS. Have you ever climaxed from someone giving oral while they were crying? Or used a man's tears as lubricant? If so, I may have a proposition for you!

No, that's a lie, I'm confident in my sexual abilities and there's little chance I'll make a scene afterwards. I just don't want celibacy year to last any longer.

I did just have a dude hit on me, so that was kinda flattering.

[cashpiles (closed)]

THERE CAN BE NO JOY ONLY SADNESS. Have you ever climaxed from someone giving oral while they were crying? Or used a man's tears as lubricant? If so, I may have a proposition for you!


That sounds quite erotic and I would love to watch a late night softcore 70s French film with a scene like that in it.

[MrSlfDstruct]

I just had kidney stone surgery earlier in the week. To quote a popular sitcom, I feel like Superman without his powers. I have the cape, yet I cannot fly.

[Elke]

I already have a libido that's about as active as an ancient sloth, but since I've started to take meds I haven't even had the urge to masturbate. Fuck this. I used it as a perfectly fine way to get myself to relax / sleep when I was stressed out, so now I have to find something else.

[profane]

Wrong thread.

[wizfan]

22-year-old virgin. Not a single relationship. Had a lot of shitty experiences with girls. I've been rejected many times, and have rejected some girls for various reasons. I'm not looking forward to getting laid. Not anymore, that is. I do have some hope, but I'm not doing much about it. I've gotten over my "emo" phase and now I just care about making my life better. Sex is a secondary objective. I feel somewhat more optimistic than before, but it still feels like a big risk. And I don't want one-night-stands. I care for emotions and intimacy and all that shit. So, it's gonna take a while.

[AgentofChaos]

22-year-old virgin. Not a single relationship. Had a lot of shitty experiences with girls. I've been rejected many times, and have rejected some girls for various reasons. I'm not looking forward to getting laid. Not anymore, that is. I do have some hope, but I'm not doing much about it. I've gotten over my "emo" phase and now I just care about making my life better. Sex is a secondary objective. I feel somewhat more optimistic than before, but it still feels like a big risk. And I don't want one-night-stands. I care for emotions and intimacy and all that shit. So, it's gonna take a while.


Correct, it is going to take a while with that attitude. You are actually on your way down a tragic, dark path my friend. 22 year old virgins become 27 year old virgins very quickly, and before you know it you are Steve Carrell at 40. Laugh, but that is how that shit happens. Feel free to use the cliched pussy on a pedestool analogy here. After a certain point, one you are essentially passed now, you are going to have a very hard time passing through any of the self defense walls of women as a virgin. You don't have your card punched, thou shalt not pass. It's not something they even consciously do most of the time but it's written all over your face and body language and their fem radars pick up on that before they even think twice and you are marginalized as a result . So if you want emotions and intimacy and all that good stuff, that's cool. Very respectable. Women will love it, eventually. But you need to do something before any of that can happen. And that is get laid. At least once. Probably a couple times.

It will actually be near impossible to obtain the comfort and relaxation required to get on a level where you can find the emotionally connected relationship you want until you let go of whatever you are holding on to. You missed out on a phase of your life in high school. Shitty. But it happens. Nothing to be ashamed of. So you just need to go back before you can move forward. And that should be easy, because you should be much more mature and evolved as opposed to if you would've done it at 16, 17, 18, whatever. You will realize that it ain't no fucking thing - it's just sex. And you will gain the confidence to put some past failures behind you. The confidence to act like you don't have this 10,000 pound weight dangling over your head of fear, anxiety, and confusion over something you currently can't fully grasp due to your stunted developmental process.

Break through the wall, and liberty shall be yours. Find one of those girls you turned down in the past while you were waiting for the right one. Find one at the bar after a few drinks. Fuck, and this is a grey area, potentially leading down another dark path of it's own, but if the situation is dire I might look at a getting a prostitute. Seriously. It will help sever the connection in your head that sex can't be fun (you're not even looking forward to it anymore! What the fuck man who the hell is going to want to sleep with that?) and also make you more comfortable with being naked around women at the same time.

When all is said and done, you are going to feel sheepish for turning girls down you shouldn't have, and making it seem like this larger than life problem for. You will feel so free when you put that shit behind you. And everything else you are looking for will find it's way to you afterwards.

[miss k bee]

A year this month, not that the last time I did it was any good. Getting fed up of buying sex toys...

[Fixer808]

Two months now, I need some action. NOW!

[the duder]

7 months - I do believe this might be the longest I've ever gone without sex. Not a fan.

[Frozen Beach]

I think any hope I've ever had of having sex with anyone has long flown out the window. If it happens, it happens.

[halloween]

I think any hope I've ever had of having sex with anyone has long flown out the window. If it happens, it happens.
How young are you?

[Frozen Beach]

How young are you?
20, but I hang out with the older crowd, and being around people who are in relationships isn't always fun.

[Carpathian Psychonaut]

A year this month, not that the last time I did it was any good. Getting fed up of buying sex toys...

I'd give you a high-five as I'm around that myself but then again it's not exactly the sort of thing we should celebrate I guess. If it was we'd not be posting in this thread.
Hell, we should all book a room somewhere, stick Closer on the stereo and reset our clocks* together.







* in some of our cases, calendars :D

[theruiner]

Are you proposing an ETS sex meetup? I like the cut of your jib!

[icklekitty]

Shall I dust off my meet-up crown?

[Carpathian Psychonaut]

Are you proposing an ETS sex meetup? I like the cut of your jib!

I was actually trying to put a light-hearted spin on the thread and my posting in it. I tend to find scurrilous smut helps with that. If I'm honest, I'm amazed that some of the folks in this thread aren't getting any as they're pretty damn gorgeous. No names, obviously, but the comment stands.

Anyhooooo........... {ahem}

As plans go, though, it's got merit. Can you imagine the hotel we choose to all arrive at - they'd be so confused :D

[Fixer808]

"Hotel"? What are we, royalty?

[Carpathian Psychonaut]

"Hotel"? What are we, royalty?

Hey, I was trying keep this.....{thinks}....classy.

Sounded better than third-rate flea pit or tent under a bridge.

[Fixer808]

Now he's knocking bridges!

[Findus]

Now he's knocking bridges!

If you can't knock boots, knock bridges instead.

[halloween]

20, but I hang out with the older crowd, and being around people who are in relationships isn't always fun.

Ah, well don't give up quite yet- you've got a least 10 more years before you're maybe allowed to start feeling desperate! But yeah, you should find a crowd to hang out in that include some more single people ;)

[sentient02970]

I posted this over on the Prometheus thread but I'm guessing it would have been more appropriate here:


I've fallen in love with this movie before I've even seen it. The awful part of that is my infatuation with all of the teasing foreplay seems to be slowly chipping away at the lovely surprises awaiting me in the final act. I don't think I'm alone there.

PS: yes I haven't gotten any in a long time

[the duder]

http://chzmemebase.files.wordpress.com/2012/04/internet-memes-not-quite-dry-enough.gif

Good news: I bit the bullet and registered for an online dating service. Figured, hey, why not.

Bad news: I find myself consistenly checking said service to see which "matches" I have and who has "viewed" me.

[miss k bee]

Internet dating sucks, made one good friend on one website but meh

[jonypony81]

Yes Im sure I can beat all the last times on here, its been since before thanksgiving. NO exclamation point.

[jonypony81]

I definitely would have to agree with you, I have not had any luck whatsoever. I just think meeting people is getting increasingly difficult.

[jonypony81]

Yeah I bought A FLESHLIGHT, it was good but it takes so much time to get it all prepared. By the time I actually get it all ready its not long before I straight blow.

[Piko]

Not liking the fleshlight. Got one a little while back. Too much maintenance. And it kills my mood...

[onthewall2983]

One of the things I've learned experimenting with S&M is that no amount of leather, rubber, wood, plastic and electronics can beat live human flesh.

[miss k bee]

Internet dating sucks but I am still on one site, checking matches and views, must ween myself off it!!. Ooh fleshlights look freaky!

[playwithfire]

no amount of leather, rubber, wood, plastic and electronics can beat live human flesh.

I'm not sure that you're doing it right.

[nemesiswontdie]

I had a Tenga Flip Hole about a year ago. Was alright, it's better than a Fleshlight and it's easier to clean than a Fleshlight as well.

I really need to get laid. It's been over a year and a half and reaching 2 years here soon.

[jessamineny]

One of the things I've learned experimenting with S&M is that no amount of leather, rubber, wood, plastic and electronics can beat live human flesh.


I'm not sure that you're doing it right.

He's doing it right. When it's primal -- biting, slapping punching, kicking -- it can be the most powerful.


VVVVV Doh. Missed the unintended double-meaning of "beat" :D

[onthewall2983]

That's what I meant, but I think playwithfire got it too and was messing around by saying that lol.

[playwithfire]

Pretty much. I was saying that YOU CAN HIT SOMEONE WITH EVERY ONE OF THESE LISTED ITEMS. You can even craft your own sex whip a la Fixer808. I'm so clever.

[onthewall2983]

And I do do it right, btw ;)

[halloween]

My libido has gone down, i'm actually not complaining for once.

edit. even after reading about all these whips and flesh.

[icklekitty]

When it's primal -- biting, slapping punching, kicking -- it can be the most powerful.

+1. Haven't used anything but body parts in a while.

[miss k bee]

Damn had a chance to end dry spell next week when back in UK but it is not possible :(

[ImTheWiseJanitor]

Every time I read this thread title I feel like it's some kind of thread to ask people for sex. HMMMMM...:P

[miss k bee]

Umm two im convos on one subject while my mum is watching tv.

[JessicaSarahS]

Good news: I bit the bullet and registered for an online dating service. Figured, hey, why not.


I did the same recently since I want to get out there and have some more traditional dates. I have to admit that I was pretty overwhelmed by the amount of responses I have received as I really did not anticipate any whatsoever. I don't know why I didn't try this earlier :D ! But I feel like I'm on a TV show where I have to let someone go every three days :(. So far I have two guys that I'm really digging and who have been consistent in communication and subsequent dates. But I'm still open to others.

[Piko]

I thought about trying the sites. But I dunno... I seem to attract the crazies. That, and maybe I was brought up a little old fashioned.

[JessicaSarahS]

I thought about trying the sites. But I dunno... I seem to attract the crazies. That, and maybe I was brought up a little old fashioned.

Be the initiator. I think I have more success with dates that I've "approached" first, whether it's rating their profile or saving them as a favorite and waiting for a message, etc. And out of the 40 people that I've communicated with so far online (I've only met a handful of those in person), I've only had one absolute crazy. He was jealous of all the people that I was dating and potentially dating and we had not even met yet! Ugh. What a crazy ass.

But choose a site that has a lot of Q&A's, in depth profiles, etc. etc. It's a good way to filter out a lot of people.

[miss k bee]

Year and a half now, soon will forget how to do it!

Damn it need a man soon!

[Sallos]

How can a thread named Fuck me be this depressing?

[halloween]

Because being fuckless is always depressing. I'm having too many dreams about my first boyfriend, some of them sexy dreams. I'm not grateful for it, it's just bugging me because I'd rather be having sexy dreams with my current love interest...

[the duder]

Totally wishing my lady friend didn't live in Florida...I could really, really go for a good, top to bottom, foreplay-heavy, multi-position, hour(s) long sex session. This summer spoiled me with the incredible coitus we had.

[botley]

I'm glad to be back in the city. Regular fucks foreseeable!

[Fixer808]

This dry spell is getting intolerable, and I don't forsee it ending any time soon. Working nights really hamstrings my social life...

[Pillfred]

Could have scored the other night but when we got back to her place i saw a condom wrapper on the ground combined with the scent of coitus in the air kind of turned me off, then there was the crazy talk... I don't mean to overtly judge here but to say it tipped off some flags. And if were to be completely honest had i had a condom i most likely would have done it. In any event i left the next morning with the first case of true blue balls i have had in some time.

[Frozen Beach]

I spent my night at a bar with my sister while smoking cigarettes and lusting after her friend, who is absolutely gorgeous and teases me all the time. I've been told she's a lesbian though, which makes me wish I were a Woman right now...

[R-Dot-Yung]

Considering fucking is really all we're supposed to do here on earth besides survive, you'd think we'd all be fucking all day until the there was no more sandwiches.

[poinoup]

It's been about eighteen months in poinoup-land. Go me...

But it's still not as bad as my drought in early 2005 to late 2007.

[Big Fat Matt]

day 666:

the friendzone remains a barren wasteland. no nourishment, and only the occasional drizzle to keep me alive. strewn around me i see skeletons of men who have been subjected and succumbed to this torture. i must remain strong.

- M


kinda makes me yearn for the days when i was a womanizing pillhead and i could pull pussy like it was nobodies business.

[Frozen Beach]

I'm pretty sure the only way to get out of the friendzone is to make that friend jealous, or at least become more close to who you want to be, not who you have settled to be.

[Big Fat Matt]

I'm pretty sure the only way to get out of the friendzone is to make that friend jealous, or at least become more close to who you want to be, not who you have settled to be.

i was typing a response to this and it was about 2 paragraphs long, so i summed it up for you.

"YOU CANT TELL ME WHAT TO DO YOU'RE NOT MY REAL DAD."

she is in every respect, physically, emotionally, intellectually, etc my IDEAL woman. she will be mine one day. (jesus fuck i sound like a creep)

-edit- this issue probably belongs in the relationship thread

[Frozen Beach]

i was typing a response to this and it was about 2 paragraphs long, so i summed it up for you.

"YOU CANT TELL ME WHAT TO DO YOU'RE NOT MY REAL DAD."

she is in every respect, physically, emotionally, intellectually, etc my IDEAL woman. she will be mine one day. (jesus fuck i sound like a creep)

-edit- this issue probably belongs in the relationship thread
To be honest, I think it's more creepy not to think that way. I think thinking otherwise means that you actually weren't that serious to begin. I think people forget that people change over time after they get experience from life. The only thing I think stops people from being with the one they want is marriage, but we all know how inconsistent marriage is(not to say that anyone's marriage here is going to downfall). Keep your hopes down, but store it in your emotional freezer for the time being.

Also, nice guys might finish last, but in the end, I think they're the only people who truly finish.

[lady weetly]

I haven't had any in a year and a few weeks. Last time was with my ex, who was my first, and I just haven't since then. The only person I've been really attracted to is one of my friends and we've been heading in that direction slowly for months now. I can not explain how horny I have been. Fuuuuck.

[Fixer808]

My quest now is for pussy. I hope to find it at Galaxion on the 6th.

[pigpen]

So close, yet so far... Ugh.

[miss k bee]

Dry spell might be ending soon!!! **hopes and prays**

[playwithfire]

wrong thread!

[REPLICA]

So even though I've never felt the need to have a one night stand, tonight seemed like the night for me to have such. Unfortunately, that would not fare with me tonight. The cutest girls at the bar left before 10pm and I ended up staying there until 11:50pm - naturally the bar was just full of basketball and football (euro) fans - which I have no beef with, I enjoy Euro football (soccer).

Anyway, I haven't had sex since my ex girlfriend left for Sweden nearly 6 months ago… So… I'm really antsy right now to have someone to hold for the night. It's pretty bad, I have gotten to the point to start up an online account at Datemyschool and Match to see if I can get anyone local but they all say they want a man to be there for them and their children. SO YEAH. The one girl I know well here at UNCG is not interested at all in me and her friends are all engaged.

I have asked out three different girls (the Australian, a runner girl and the lady friend I know) and each has said no. So, I'm back to square one… I hate not having anyone to be with. I am hoping that I get to find a summer fling or something… I don't like going a year or two without sex, it makes me really mean/frustrated.

TL;DR - I wish I had a girl to sleep with tonight! I hope I find a summer fling! I NEED SEX NOW!

[botley]

Pay a prostitute. Srsly.

[vpintz]

Need. Sex. Nao.

(inb4 sheepdean says "yes pls")

[alg]

3 years without sex but I'm ok because current bf is far away but knows how to keep me satisfied (I love Skype lol)

[miss k bee]

Well that's my sex life dead for another two years!

[Krazy]

Goal for the night: masterbate and "finish the job" before falling asleep.

FML. :/

[frankie teardrop]

try taking some benadryl for extra challenge! or sit on and then use your left hand.

[playwithfire]

try taking some benadryl for extra challenge! or sit on and then use your left hand.

Or wear a latex glove.

[playwithfire]

Annnd horny.

[Digital Twilight]

Ugh! Its been about 18 months for me, although a hot steamy sex romp would be delightful I think I miss the intimacy more right now. Waking up in the arms of a good woman is the greatest feeling and I could use a bit of female encouragement during this awful period job hunting i'm going through at the minute.

Here's hoping you're all having better luck than me right now :)

[slave2thewage]

I need a big injection of Vitamin D.

IF YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN.

[playwithfire]

UGH ME TOO

(fuck your caps tyranny)

[Swykk]

It's still getting worse after everything I've tried.

[playwithfire]

Yessss, finally getting laid tonight.

[Fixer808]

INSIDE THE NEXT WEEK FOR ME, I'M BETTING (the caps tyranny must end)

[playwithfire]

Oh I bet it'll be inside the next week ;) ;) ;)

[Fixer808]

http://imgc.artprintimages.com/images/art-print/george-marks-portrait-of-a-smiling-woman-winking_i-G-56-5641-ODJMG00Z.jpg

[Pillfred]

It's still getting worse after everything I've tried.

Lubricant?

No sex, the one thing that working myself silly doesn't seem to help.

[Halo Infinity]

I will finally admit and concede to how not wanting to go out and/or stay out late at night can be a barrier to achieving this, since hooking up during the morning and the afternoon can appear to be very creepy and weird most of the time. It finally hit me, but hoped people would just explain it to me. And if I don't have it in the context of a relationship, having it in the context of an excellent friendship sounds just about right too.

I also don't blame people for being driven crazy from the whole not getting any thing, and could see why some people keep it to themselves, since there are people out there that are judgmental enough to label everybody that wants it outside of a monogamous, heterosexual, and married relationship as shallow and and "immoral". They'd even try to make you feel guilty over it. I'm also amazed how ETS is great for even expressing such feelings in a topic that's already as controversial and personal at it is.

And but of course, I mean that in the best way possible. Thanks for helping me not feeling so alone during certain times, in certain threads, ETS. :)

[Fixer808]

BAH! Thought I was going somewhere good with a girl I met tonight but nothing happened. We were dancing all night and then I had to leave because I have to be at work at 7am and I gave her my card and told her my name and DIDN'T GET A FUCKING NAME BACK! If you're gonna dance with me for half an hour, come outside and smoke with me, then go back in and dance with me for another half hour you could at least tell me your NAME.

Annoyed and lonely.

[Ryan]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LHdnGs5PLIY

[Frozen Beach]

This is a question that's been pondering me for a long time: The idea of a one night stand has never really appealed to me. Is this me having too high of standards and being somewhat uptight, or am I seriously just not the type of person for them?

Also, my sexuality confuses me. Some days I feel attracted to my own sex, yet other days I feel attracted to the opposite. Whenever I'm attracted to my own sex, the opposite sex doesn't appeal to me at all. Whenever I'm attracted to the opposite sex, my own sex doesn't appeal to me. It's a bit frustrating because it feels so back and forth.

[Sarah K]

I've had exactly one one night stand in my life(with the exception of other people being brought in for threeways). It really does nothing for me, either. I'm such a girl in this way, but I absolutely need my mind stimulated before anything else. You can be nice to look at, but if you're dumb as fuck, I'm not really going to be interested. I also don't really see the appeal of racking up a bunch of one nighters. I'd rather have a few close friends I know I can call up. At least then the whole "learning curve" of what one another likes is already established.

[Halo Infinity]

I'd also figured that with friends, at least you'd be with people that you're cool with and actually know, which is also another very vital thing for me. I'd like to have a good rapport with the person or people I'm with, and know who and what they are before getting involved with them in that way to start with, should I go the opposite/alternate of the monogamous route.

[Sarah K]

You also don't have to have weird conversations about WHAT DOES THIS MEAN FOR OUR RELATIONSHIP

Some parts of getting old are awesome.

[Halo Infinity]

There's sometimes nothing worse than being at the lowest point of this overall mood and then seeing pictures of somebody on Facebook you know you can never have, especially in that way. (I just wanted to release that thought. I'll live, but those exact moments really suck, despite how much I realize my selfishness.)

[playwithfire]

This is a question that's been pondering me for a long time: The idea of a one night stand has never really appealed to me. Is this me having too high of standards and being somewhat uptight, or am I seriously just not the type of person for them?

Also, my sexuality confuses me. Some days I feel attracted to my own sex, yet other days I feel attracted to the opposite. Whenever I'm attracted to my own sex, the opposite sex doesn't appeal to me at all. Whenever I'm attracted to the opposite sex, my own sex doesn't appeal to me. It's a bit frustrating because it feels so back and forth.

I'm not into one-night-stands AT ALL. Never had one, doubt I ever will. Making out is all well and good but much further than than and I need to keep some sort of connection. Sex for me is a very affectionate act so some form of emotional bond matters to me. It can just be friendship, but yeah.

Re: sexuality. You don't ever have to label yourself. Whatever you feel is okay. Whatever you want to do is okay. I'm NOT bisexual, and I am NOT straight. Once I realized there was a word for me (queer), that was cool. I was pretty confused by that when I was younger, worried I was faking bisexuality/just wanting to be bi and all sorts of shit like that.

[JessicaSarahS]

This is a question that's been pondering me for a long time: The idea of a one night stand has never really appealed to me. Is this me having too high of standards and being somewhat uptight, or am I seriously just not the type of person for them?

I've only had three strictly one night stands in my life and I felt pretty shitty about them afterwards because the sex was mediocre and I ignored their communication attempts from then on. I don't think I'd go down that road again. I'm all for single night encounters with friends or acquaintances, but not 99% unknown, barely know your name situations.

[Halo Infinity]

I'm not into one-night-stands AT ALL. Never had one, doubt I ever will. Making out is all well and good but much further than than and I need to keep some sort of connection. Sex for me is a very affectionate act so some form of emotional bond matters to me. It can just be friendship, but yeah.
I thought about that too, since I'd rather be intimate with somebody I'd have an excellent rapport with, even though it's with a friend. I think I'd still try to fall in love though, despite the risks that entail because I've never fallen in love before. I really wonder what that's like.


Re: sexuality. You don't ever have to label yourself. Whatever you feel is okay. Whatever you want to do is okay. I'm NOT bisexual, and I am NOT straight. Once I realized there was a word for me (queer), that was cool. I was pretty confused by that when I was younger, worried I was faking bisexuality/just wanting to be bi and all sorts of shit like that.
I seriously like that way you think when it comes to intimacy and sexuality, and also like the way you exude such confidence and self-acceptance regarding such a practical and open-minded mindset. :)

And for some reason, this thread has the Kinda I Want To vibe far more than all the other fucking threads combined. Perhaps it's obviously lust being multiplied intensively and extensively when combined with devastation, desperation, and loneliness. Kinda I want to!!! :p


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HC6RFjgOncE

[theimage13]

http://cdn.themetapicture.com/media/funny-Futurama-Bender-Fry.jpg

[icklekitty]

I thought about that too, since I'd rather be intimate with somebody I'd have an excellent rapport with, even though it's with a friend. I think I'd still try to fall in love though, despite the risks that entail because I've never fallen in love before. I really wonder what that's like.

Just wondering - how old are you?

[Halo Infinity]

28, and with some of my other posts, you could see why I'd had such bad luck. Just about every woman I was interested was either taken, or not interested. Oh, and if you missed my other posts about not being outgoing, and not being the kind of person that likes to go out and/or stay out late at night, that's probably why, and I've admitted that it could very well be a barrier when it comes to finding somebody. I've sometimes wondered if being a non-drinker can be a deterrent as well. (Since I've noticed that some, or even lots of people wouldn't go as far as to even hang out with a non-drinker, which would immediately make dating/intimacy out of the question.)

And then there's also my ADHD and not really having any friends right now, along with some other issues I've mentioned in The Mental Health thread. And at the very least, I'd hope you'd understand as I'll admit to being something else. I actually wouldn't feel as bad mentioning this if I was in my late teens or early 20s. It's also like I might as well be the stereotypical "loner", "geek", and "nerd".

[icklekitty]

OK, being 28 and never being in love is like being 14 and not getting into university. If you were 50 maybe that'd be an issue. I'm 27 and I'd say I've never been in love. I think I've only loved two people ever, and one of them is my grandmother. It'd be cool to happen but it doesn't make you abnormal or weird. Lots of 28 year olds are virgins even. Every single one of my dating experiences has originated from the Internet, and you don't need alcohol or to go outside to do that. A ton of people on this forum who are married or in a relationship met their partner from this very website.

To be honest it's pretty hard to miss your posts about how much of an outcast you feel because you talk about it on several threads every day. You're actually pretty normal. Sitcoms etc that paint this lifestyle that you think is necessary for all this shit to happen (or that all this shit is necessary) is a lie.

In brief, everyone that is different to me can go fuck themselves and you should have the same attitude.

I mean, unless you actually want one of those drunk night owls for a girlfriend. Because you two would have so much in common!

[The_Prowler]

OK, being 28 and never being in love is like being 14 and not getting into university. If you were 50 maybe that'd be an issue. I'm 27 and I'd say I've never been in love. I think I've only loved two people ever, and one of them is my grandmother. It'd be cool to happen but it doesn't make you abnormal or weird. Lots of 28 year olds are virgins even. Every single one of my dating experiences has originated from the Internet, and you don't need alcohol or to go outside to do that. A ton of people on this forum who are married or in a relationship met their partner from this very website.

To be honest it's pretty hard to miss your posts about how much of an outcast you feel because you talk about it on several threads every day. You're actually pretty normal. Sitcoms etc that paint this lifestyle that you think is necessary for all this shit to happen (or that all this shit is necessary) is a lie.

In brief, everyone that is different to me can go fuck themselves and you should have the same attitude.

I mean, unless you actually want one of those drunk night owls for a girlfriend. Because you two would have so much in common!
I'm 26 and I've been in love once, and it destroyed me for a very long time when I lost her. I almost felt it again with my last girlfriend, but that relationship ended before my feelings for her were able to advance that far (I know that sounds kind of dickish... It sounds better in my head, I just don't know how to translate it into text right now).
Much like you, most of my relationships originated online in some form or another. Not all, but most. That just seemed like the easiest route to take since I'm kind of awkward when I try to meet girls out in public. Recently, however, it's not been going so well. I know it's my fault, but I just don't know what I'm doing wrong so I don't know what I need to fix. That being said, I'm trying to get myself out there more and try to talk to girls face to face, since that's how I prefer to communicate, anyways.
Still, I haven't been touched by anyone but me since January, and it's starting to get to me >.<

I still firmly believe that there's someone for everyone. You just have to find them and take the chance.

[The_Prowler]

28, and with some of my other posts, you could see why I'd had such bad luck. Just about every woman I was interested was either taken, or not interested. Oh, and if you missed my other posts about not being outgoing, and not being the kind of person that likes to go out and/or stay out late at night, that's probably why, and I've admitted that it could very well be a barrier when it comes to finding somebody. I've sometimes wondered if being a non-drinker can be a deterrent as well. (Since I've noticed that some, or even lots of people wouldn't go as far as to even hang out with a non-drinker, which would immediately make dating/intimacy out of the question.)

And then there's also my ADHD and not really having any friends right now, along with some other issues I've mentioned in The Mental Health thread. And at the very least, I'd hope you'd understand as I'll admit to being something else. I actually wouldn't feel as bad mentioning this if I was in my late teens or early 20s. It's also like I might as well be the stereotypical "loner", "geek", and "nerd".
If it makes you feel any better, I'm a non-drinker, too. I do drink on occasion, but not nearly enough to be called a "drinker". I have health concerns, so I'll have maybe one light beer a week at absolute most. There are lots of times when I feel like it's preventing me from meeting more people.
The funny thing about that is the fact that I'm a musician, so I actually spend quite a lot of time in bars. I've been hit on a few times at gigs, but never from anyone even remotely resembling sober, and I'm not the kind of guy who would take a drunk girl into the bathroom to make out with her/have a quickie.
So yes, I can definitely relate to you there. Sometimes I just feel so out of place and paranoid about trying to talk to girls who are drinking and I'm just sitting there with my glass of water.
Doesn't always stop me from trying, though. You shouldn't let it get in the way of trying to meet people, either.
And as we all know, not everyone who drinks is a raging drunk. You might meet a sweet non-drinking girl who was just dragged out to a bar by her friends :P

[Halo Infinity]

OK, being 28 and never being in love is like being 14 and not getting into university. If you were 50 maybe that'd be an issue. I'm 27 and I'd say I've never been in love. I think I've only loved two people ever, and one of them is my grandmother. It'd be cool to happen but it doesn't make you abnormal or weird.
Thank goodness, as I've encountered so many people that thought it's weird for people to not get that over with before turning 22 or 25. Some of them even look down at people that didn't lose their virginity at ages 18-21, and even go as far as to believe that they should be ashamed if they lost their virginity at 22+ years of ago.


Lots of 28 year olds are virgins even. Every single one of my dating experiences has originated from the Internet, and you don't need alcohol or to go outside to do that. A ton of people on this forum who are married or in a relationship met their partner from this very website.
And since I've dwelled on thinking about everybody's expectations and preferences, I completely forgot to consider that. Oh yes, and I've noticed actual relationships and marriages on ETS, and I certainly think that's cool too.

The people that told me that I had to go to clubs and bars and drink were actually players too, and were also people I worked with on my last job. They told me that my 20s should be about do everything I can to hit it and quit it while getting girls drunk and having sex with them in that way regardless of their feelings. One of the biggest players there even told me how I was wasting my 20s away, and how I should feel miserable and ashamed. Which is ironic, because if he was so relaxed, he wouldn't have jumped down my throat in frustration in order to get me to be like him.

I liked how he complimented me on being a good person, and at least liked how he said I'd deserve as much girls as him, or even more though. That's probably the only nice thing he said, but I don't think I want to be a player, since from what he had explicitly stated, involved breaking hearts and cheating. He even went as far to say that women are only around to please men.


To be honest it's pretty hard to miss your posts about how much of an outcast you feel because you talk about it on several threads every day.
Oh, sorry about that. Not that I did anything wrong, or that's what you're implying, but I'll admit that I can and have seemed to endlessly ramble on and on about such things due to harboring them for so many years, or even decades, since I've occasionally mentioned my childhood here. I only did that because most of ETS seems to be accepting, and prone to give very supportive and encouraging advice, while being great listeners, or should I say readers.

For the most part, it just feels good to release my thoughts and have some understanding, along with some positive reinforcement. It has also obviously increased my post count far more than I ever expected, and well, I had more fun here than I expected, or probably should too. After all, I was mostly absent and/or lurking ETS for around 5 to 6 months this year, so it seems to more than make up for it.

But yeah, I think I've perhaps said as much as I've wanted to say on those issues for now, and will try to only post when I'm 100% good and ready with a clear mind, heart, and conscience. :)


You're actually pretty normal.
Thank you, I really appreciate that, as I've gotten accustomed to being perceived as the odd one out.


Sitcoms etc that paint this lifestyle that you think is necessary for all this shit to happen (or that all this shit is necessary) is a lie.
That's so true. I've even seen in on lots of Internet memes as well. It's also what most "players" would say too, and even if they're not players, people with that mindset believe that all that shit should be done no later than the age of 21. And then you have people bragging about losing it before the age of 18 too. And then you also have the very simple and obvious fact that entertainment isn't reality anyway.


In brief, everyone that is different to me can go fuck themselves and you should have the same attitude.
I've figured, and I think I sort of came to terms with it again as mentioned here (http://www.echoingthesound.org/community/threads/69-Little-things-that-cheer-you-up?p=148731#post148731). I sometimes need to be reminded though, because I tend to forget and lose my sense of self though.


I mean, unless you actually want one of those drunk night owls for a girlfriend. Because you two would have so much in common!
I'd actually hope so, and for the record, as of now, I'm definitely not a teetotaler either. Thank you so much for your kind words, advice, and reassurance. This also seems to be our first actual conversation. I think it's about time to add you to my friend list count on ETS.

How about it? :) And dear goodness, I can be such a motor-mouth online. Holy shit. :p My stay on ETS is getting better and better, even though I should still tone it down from time to time. It really was nice talking to you.

[Halo Infinity]

If it makes you feel any better, I'm a non-drinker, too. I do drink on occasion, but not nearly enough to be called a "drinker". I have health concerns, so I'll have maybe one light beer a week at absolute most. There are lots of times when I feel like it's preventing me from meeting more people.
I don't think it should either, but I've seen and heard of it being a barrier for some people. As for me, and this is just me, but drinker or not, I don't mind hanging out as long as we're cool. That's all that really matters to me.


The funny thing about that is the fact that I'm a musician, so I actually spend quite a lot of time in bars. I've been hit on a few times at gigs, but never from anyone even remotely resembling sober, and I'm not the kind of guy who would take a drunk girl into the bathroom to make out with her/have a quickie.
I see what you mean, since I'm sure lots of people probably could and would expect the opposite from a musician, but of course, I wouldn't be one of those people that would hold it against you. I also don't think I'd even want to do that either, unless we really were cool, but would still prefer my bedroom or her bedroom... not a public bathroom. :eek:


So yes, I can definitely relate to you there. Sometimes I just feel so out of place and paranoid about trying to talk to girls who are drinking and I'm just sitting there with my glass of water. Doesn't always stop me from trying, though. You shouldn't let it get in the way of trying to meet people, either. And as we all know, not everyone who drinks is a raging drunk. You might meet a sweet non-drinking girl who was just dragged out to a bar by her friends :P
That's true, and that would be one hell of a fine coincidence for me, should that ever happen. Thank you for your kind words and reassurance as well. :)

[icklekitty]

Thank goodness, as I've encountered so many people that thought it's weird for people to not get that over with before turning 22 or 25. Some of them even look down at people that didn't lose their virginity at ages 18-21, and even go as far as to believe that they should be ashamed if they lost their virginity at 22+ years of ago.


And since I've dwelled on thinking about everybody's expectations and preferences, I completely forgot to consider that. Oh yes, and I've noticed actual relationships and marriages on ETS, and I certainly think that's cool too.

The people that told me that I had to go to clubs and bars and drink were actually players too, and were also people I worked with on my last job. They told me that my 20s should be about do everything I can to hit it and quit it while getting girls drunk and having sex with them in that way regardless of their feelings. One of the biggest players there even told me how I was wasting my 20s away, and how I should feel miserable and ashamed. Which is ironic, because if he was so relaxed, he wouldn't have jumped down my throat in frustration in order to get me to be like him.

I liked how he complimented me on being a good person, and at least liked how he said I'd deserve as much girls as him, or even more though. That's probably the only nice thing he said, but I don't think I want to be a player, since from what he had explicitly stated, involved breaking hearts and cheating. He even went as far to say that women are only around to please men.


Oh, sorry about that. Not that I did anything wrong, or that's what you're implying, but I'll admit that I can and have seemed to endlessly ramble on and on about such things due to harboring them for so many years, or even decades, since I've occasionally mentioned my childhood here. I only did that because most of ETS seems to be accepting, and prone to give very supportive and encouraging advice, while being great listeners, or should I say readers.

For the most part, it just feels good to release my thoughts and have some understanding, along with some positive reinforcement. It has also obviously increased my post count far more than I ever expected, and well, I had more fun here than I expected, or probably should too. After all, I was mostly absent and/or lurking ETS for around 5 to 6 months this year, so it seems to more than make up for it.

But yeah, I think I've perhaps said as much as I've wanted to say on those issues for now, and will try to only post when I'm 100% good and ready with a clear mind, heart, and conscience. :)


Thank you, I really appreciate that, as I've gotten accustomed to being perceived as the odd one out.


That's so true. I've even seen in on lots of Internet memes as well. It's also what most "players" would say too, and even if they're not players, people with that mindset believe that all that shit should be done no later than the age of 21. And then you have people bragging about losing it before the age of 18 too. And then you also have the very simple and obvious fact that entertainment isn't reality anyway.


I've figured, and I think I sort of came to terms with it again as mentioned here (http://www.echoingthesound.org/community/threads/69-Little-things-that-cheer-you-up?p=148731#post148731). I sometimes need to be reminded though, because I tend to forget and lose my sense of self though.


I'd actually hope so, and for the record, as of now, I'm definitely not a teetotaler either. Thank you so much for your kind words, advice, and reassurance. This also seems to be our first actual conversation. I think it's about time to add you to my friend list count on ETS.

How about it? :) And dear goodness, I can be such a motor-mouth online. Holy shit. :p My stay on ETS is getting better and better, even though I should still tone it down from time to time. It really was nice talking to you.



I'm just shocked it was all news to you. Also in case you didn't realise the "Because you would have so much in common" was sarcastic.

[Halo Infinity]

Oh whoops. Sorry, my mistake. It was also news to me because I ended up believing what most people were saying when it came to getting laid ASAP between ages 18-21 and how having relationships under 25 was also supposed to be the norm for everybody.

(And well, I guess that was also kind of normal to happen, since sarcasm can be harder to detect on the Internet.) And yeah, it also shows how much I know, and that I really am still something else in some ways. And thanks for telling me. :p

-Edit-

I also saw reality TV shows perpetuate that lie as well, but of course, it's just a lie, and absolutely not real life.

[playwithfire]

Maaan. So I'll hit up my boyfriend for phone sex now and then, and it's not unusual for him to not be in the mood or busy or something.

So I called him last night to talk and I made one of my (usual and frequent) comments where I was basically like "Hey, you should take off all of your clothes." Y'know, I just say shit like that. And he asked if I was asking for phone sex and was down for it.

So, since that never happens, I was.

Except I wasn't in the mood, really, so it didn't work. And we ended up not really going anywhere with it.

UGGGHHHHHHHH.

[miss k bee]

Watched Masters of Sex and got horny as fuck, damn it! Not easy when your fuck buddy lives in another country

[The_Prowler]

I just want to be touched by someone who's not me >.<

[the duder]

So, I spent a solid :45 minutes on Victorias Secret website looking for a gift for lady friend. I kept trying to think "what would she like?" Then I felt guilty; I felt like I was objectifying her? So, I asked her straight up, would you like if I bought you underwear for Christmas? The answer was a resounding "YES!" Then it dawned on me - we're both adults and in a serious relationship and it's ok to fantasize about your significant other in frilly underwear; they actually dig that shit!

Needless to say, I got all sorts of turned on thinking about her opening her present, modeling it for me, then taking it off...

[theimage13]

Needless to say, I got all sorts of turned on thinking about her opening her present, modeling it for me, then taking it off...

Wouldn't an empty box save about 10 minutes and a pretty good chunk of money? ;)

[icklekitty]

So, I spent a solid :45 minutes on Victorias Secret website looking for a gift for lady friend. I kept trying to think "what would she like?" Then I felt guilty; I felt like I was objectifying her? So, I asked her straight up, would you like if I bought you underwear for Christmas? The answer was a resounding "YES!" Then it dawned on me - we're both adults and in a serious relationship and it's ok to fantasize about your significant other in frilly underwear; they actually dig that shit!

Needless to say, I got all sorts of turned on thinking about her opening her present, modeling it for me, then taking it off...


Yeah, but go for a proper lingerie brand rather than that teen cheerleader shit VS sells.

[the duder]

Yeah, but go for a proper lingerie brand rather than that teen cheerleader shit VS sells.

Baby steps...
(Also...suggestions?)

[icklekitty]

Hmm, American lingerie shops are really disgusting tbh, it's all really tacky and/or wanting people to look like teenagers.

Try:
- Secrets in Lace
- What Katie Did
- The stuff they sell in department stores (Elle MacPherson, Fantasie etc)
- Kiss Me Deadly

If you want to import, take a look at Marks and Spencer, Playful Promises, Ann Summers.

[Fixer808]

Baby steps...
(Also...suggestions?)
Baby Steps sounds like an horrific brand. ;p

[the duder]

^ Can you just go back to killing people's families?

[Charmingly Miserable]

Idk if it's the hormones in my IUD or if I'm on the rag but damn, I've been so horny lately with no luck. Ugh. Spare me.

[Your Name Here]

Yeah I don't want a relationship, I just want to feel cheap and violated. Cheap and meaningless sex gets such a bad rap.

[Halo Infinity]

I'm just thankful that it's generally accepted here. I totally understand that feeling, even if I'd like to actually have an attempt at a monogamous relationship, if given the opportunity. However, a nice fling here and there sounds like it could be sort of meaningful and extremely fun with a really good and close friend, but of course there's still the risk and debate of one person falling in love and the other person not falling in love. But yes, I totally understand that feeling. It's like The Only Time in real life.

[Halo Infinity]

I don't know why it didn't occur to me any sooner, but if the option for topic subtitles was available, "Need to contaminate, to alleviate this loneliness!", would seem to say it all. :p

[playwithfire]

Nooooo too much room for std jokes noooooo.

[playwithfire]

Need to take proper precautions prior to alleviating this loneliness.

[Halo Infinity]

Nooooo too much room for std jokes noooooo.

It's a good thing that I was mostly kidding then. If I were to have made this thread, I wouldn't have actually done that anyway. :p


Need to take proper precautions prior to alleviating this loneliness.

Exactly, and agreed 100%.

[theimage13]

I'm quite happy with my title still. I just wish I didn't still belong in this thread after over a year.

*sigh*

Fuck me.

[playwithfire]

I still like mine back on the old board: “The Virginity and Not Getting Any Thread" but, I'm biased.

[Fixer808]

Whatever way you spell it, I'm over a year without. :/

[Halo Infinity]

And for another go at an awkward attempt at humor again since joking around isn't exactly my forte... this topic... plus being single in like forever is probably tantamount to what @Jinsai (http://www.echoingthesound.org/community/member.php?u=272) and @Kid Charlemagne (http://www.echoingthesound.org/community/member.php?u=92) might feel if they were subjected/stuck at a Super Shitty Music Festival/Convention, or a really bad dream about one. ;)

(I'm also trying to make light of this, since this sometimes drives me fucking crazy. I know this pain all too well. Fuck! Fuck! Fuck! Fuck! Fuck me!)

[Jinsai]

I once got a free ticket to go to a KROQ festival called "Acoustic Christmas." The lineup turned out to be Coldplay, Linkin Park, Nickelback, Staind, and No Doubt. It sucked.

On thread topic, I guess lately I'm not into the idea of having a serious relationship. Lately I value my personal space more. It's odd... I think most people as they get older get more serious about having a lasting relationship. All my friends are getting married and having kids. More and more I just want to be left alone, and I'm perfectly ok with that.

[Halo Infinity]

That sounds just about right to me. At least it's better than nothing, and I'm definitely feeling your stance on that.

[theimage13]

Seen elsewhere:

"My name might as well be New Years Resolution, because nobody's going to do me."

[playwithfire]

But they keep hoping that one day they might be able to.

[Pillfred]

A sticker showed up on my truck like 10 years ago that said, "every second of everyday, someone other than me is getting laid." No one I knew fessed up but at the time it was fitting.

[Fixer808]

Hmm, tonight may well prove interesting...

UPDATE! It wasn't.

[theimage13]

441 days.

Not that I'm counting or anything.

[Ryan]

On thread topic, I guess lately I'm not into the idea of having a serious relationship. Lately I value my personal space more. It's odd... I think most people as they get older get more serious about having a lasting relationship. All my friends are getting married and having kids. More and more I just want to be left alone, and I'm perfectly ok with that.

I used to be of that mindset (as of a year ago even) - didn't ever see the point in getting married or wanting to, or wanting kids.

A year later I've found the right person and we're expecting a baby in August, with engagement to come shortly. It's amazing what can happen when you meet the one.

edit: she was of that same mindset as me, too.

[[73]]

I stopped counting. I don't have a clue when it will happen again. I'm not that desperate.

[playwithfire]

Observations: I hate the title of this thread, seriously.

HEY REMEMBER THIS THREAD EXISTS, THOUGH? So we don't have to whine in the actual Fucking thread about how we're not fucking.

I'm going to be at a party with two gorgeous people who, as of about the past week, my boyfriend and I can't bang anymore. And they're REALLY ATTRACTIVE, and I haven't seen either of them in ages, so getting with them was already hella overdue, and it's off the table now. And it's going to be super lame.

Also my boyfriend is more like... emotionally affected by us breaking stuff off with them than me and is also having a shit day and he doesn't want to hear me attempt solidarity at not being able to bang the absurdly attractive people, so I'm venting here.

[Charmingly Miserable]

Why is it off the table now?

[Sarah K]

My friend in Omaha was going to pick me up from the airport and we were gonna bang. But I was kinda sick before I left, so I postponed with him and had my brother pick me up. Then, the day that I was back in Omaha on my trip, he was busy.

My poor vagina.

[playwithfire]

Why is it off the table now?

See my further complaining in r&r. THEY'RE ALSO REALLY FUN IN BED. And the chick is the most stacked. Just the most. And a redhead and I could go on sighhhhhh

[GlitchyFlame]

Long Distance shit. Skype sessions at least three times a week for almost 8 months are starting to get a bit boring and mixing it up is nearly impossible. No visits in sight. Kill me.

[playwithfire]

So, I was totally right. We all still hung out a lot, because we get along really well, but I really like them. Sigh.

And of course they were perfectly behaved and wonderful about everything.

[theimage13]

Long Distance shit. Skype sessions at least three times a week for almost 8 months are starting to get a bit boring and mixing it up is nearly impossible. No visits in sight. Kill me.

Similar boat. One visit in sight, but after that, no idea.

[Nyx]

Long Distance shit. Skype sessions at least three times a week for almost 8 months are starting to get a bit boring and mixing it up is nearly impossible. No visits in sight. Kill me.13 months and counting............

[Bachy]

I'm horny.

Seriously.

[aggroculture]

In serious need of a good fucking

[The_Prowler]

I haven't been touched by someone other than me in so long...

At this point I don't care if it's flat, I just want to touch some butt.

[Khrz]

ups wait wat

[Sarah K]

Tomorrow is 38 weeks.

[Pillfred]

I would just like to want to have sex. I presumably could without much trouble but I'm not feeling it, at all. I think part of it is I don't want to just have a fling but would rather have a good solid go round. The fact that I could feasibly make it happen makes it a bit worse. Sure it's spring time so occasionally my dick turns into a devining rod, but 95% of the time I feel pretty meh...

[Wolfkiller]

I thought this was going to be a hook up thread. Am disappoint.
I only get to fuck on the weekends (gf lives a little over an hour away) but it's some damn good sex. She's going to a lame show this weekend and I had to work overtime. No booty for me unless I find a stand in. ;p

[Melancholygrl78]

I have never been able to just fuck anyone. I have been divorced for almost three years from a man that I gave my virginity to...we had been together since I was 14 years old. I don't even know where to begin with getting back into the dating scene. The closest I have come to sex was over the phone but then I met him and couldn't bring myself to any sort of interest. I have had plenty of opportunities but I really do not have the interest at all.... I suppose that I still love my ex-husband and feel wrong about anyone else in that way. I would have to fall in love with someone else and be able to trust them fully before I could go that route again. I just have a real hard time trusting enough to get that close to another. My ex-husband tried to kill me in front of our children. He was on a lot of meds from the VA at the time. He killed some part of me that I have not been able to fully revive since...I have long forgiven him for all of it. He has remarried to a very lovely woman. I am grateful for her presence in our children's lives.

[Melancholygrl78]

I am happy without knowing what I may be missing...whatever.

[playwithfire]

I haven't had penetrative sex (not a fan of digital penetration for the most part) since like... May or some shit. My sex life isn't a TOTAL wasteland but it's been dry-ish and I need to meet a lady who's great with a strap-on or something. None of the cis men I'm fond of who I think would be down are in the state except for one person where I think we may be settling back into a platonic friendship, I dunno.

[playwithfire]

ALSO I always wanna post about how sex workers should be considered valid options. Sex workers are great!

[cashpiles (closed)]

I haven't had penetrative sex (not a fan of digital penetration for the most part) since like... May or some shit. My sex life isn't a TOTAL wasteland but it's been dry-ish and I need to meet a lady who's great with a strap-on or something. None of the cis men I'm fond of who I think would be down are in the state except for one person where I think we may be settling back into a platonic friendship, I dunno.

strap me in.

[playwithfire]

You're not my target audience, bud. Good pun tho.

[Haysey_Draws]

Haven't had "the sex" since, let's see we're in August so...since 2011. At this point i'm just happy if i can talk to a premier phone service lady, doesn't matter about what.

[kel]

haven't had the d since november. but goddamn, my ex sucked at intimacy. i'm a sexual person, adventurous, up for experimenting, all that. i was so in love with this man that i looked past his ridic boundaries:

1. shower first, no exceptions (him, not me -- if you're thinking of the plane scene in bridesmaids, you get it).
2. the dog must be in the right mood and preoccupied in another room (guys, i wish this was a joke).
3. shirt off (his, not mine -- i'm a big guy: 6'3," 230 lbs -- no shame) only with the lights dimmed.
4. he claimed he was vers, but no.
5. the whole just lay there thing? oy ...

we were compatible as oil and water.

thank god that ship sailed.

[playwithfire]

I mean, I'm not comfortable with someone going down on me unless I clean off down there first, and I'm not good with pets hanging out unless they're REALLY distracted (have you ever had a cat get weird and want to like lie in the bed where y'all were fucking after you fuck someone because it's FUCKING WEIRD, animals are sexual beings but noooope). So I can't hate on that too much. But, it sounds like y'all were really incompatible and I'm sorry that you fell so hard for someone who couldn't give you what you needed.

[kel]

but it killed any spontaneity, which to me is key with sex. we basically scheduled it out.

as far as the pet thing, put him/her in the living room and shut the door. he couldn't do that.

[playwithfire]

Oh that's weird. I pull a "be back in 5" if anything. Showers don't take long if you're about business. And did... did he have to like... make sure the dog was okay with going in the living room? What?

[kel]

Oh that's weird. I pull a "be back in 5" if anything. Showers don't take long if you're about business. And did... did he have to like... make sure the dog was okay with going in the living room? What?

yes.

i'm a dog lover and father to two, but the relationship he had with his frenchie was weird at times. if the dog whined at all from the other side of the door, it was over.

[Boots]

I just wanna get married already. I am so fucking tired of being single. People always say God has a plan for me. Yeah right.

[Space Suicide]

So frustrated lately, it's been over 3 years since my last fuck. I need it. It'd probably ease my current moods as well.

[kel]

I just wanna get married already. I am so fucking tired of being single. People always say God has a plan for me. Yeah right.

may i ask you how old you are? or approximate age group?

[Conan The Barbarian]

I just wanna get married already. I am so fucking tired of being single. People always say God has a plan for me. Yeah right.

I thought the same thing. Then I got married. It will happen. It's not a god thing, it's a personality thing. Gotta come across the right one.

[Timinator]

Gotta come across the right one.You got that right.

[Bachy]

I want to say I saw this bit about a month before I lost my virginity at the tender age of 27:


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aUgQPzq6ifc

I started to believe, yeah, I'm probably one of those.

[Boots]

The worst feeling in the world is grieving the loss of someone still living.

[playwithfire]

The worst feeling in the world is grieving the loss of someone still living.

I promise you that the alternative is worse, and that things will be much less shitty one day in the future. Sorry you're having a rough time.

Also man, I wish Louis CK wasn't a fucking creep :/

[Bachy]

I’m Elijah Wood in this picture.

https://media.giphy.com/media/LQrCDxO5h44j6/source.gif

[playwithfire]

Usually when people around me are fucking in suits it's the like... two button kind.

[theimage13]

Seven years. Wow. I didn't expect it would last this long but I also don't do one nighters nor do I want kids (period; can't have them myself and don't want them). That narrows my dating choices drastically where I live. Also, I'm not hot with 11 t's.

Ain't it funny how time flies?

Huh. I couldn't find anyone for years and years because everyone wanted kids and I knew I didn't. If you didn't want them you were right out of the picture.

[Swykk]

That’s how it is where I live. Nearly all are single moms.

[Bachy]

I just had a wild idea. I’m not sure how it’s pronounced, but:

https://c.sceneclip.com/data/clip/KB5Cb-G/clip.small.gif

[playwithfire]

Y'all three are gonna bang?

[Swykk]

Wait. What? I for sure missed something.

[playwithfire]

v v v v v v


i just had a wild idea. I’m not sure how it’s pronounced, but:

[gif about banging]https://c.sceneclip.com/data/clip/kb5cb-g/clip.small.gif

[onthewall2983]

I don't want to bring it up on the Trans thread because it seems to cover much more important issues than my piddling query, but I am very very curious to know something and I thought some of you might help me out. Is there a "nice" way of putting it that you aren't physically attracted to trans or otherwise fluid gender? I wrote something on my FetLife that I'm not quite sure reads as anything else than being a little too blunt about it. Or does it not matter at all?

[Sarah K]

To me that falls along the same lines as "not attracted to black people", and I think will require some serious internal reflection on your part. "Trans" covers such a wide array of people and expressions that I do not believe it is possible to proclaim that you are not attracted to any trans person ever. Evaluate what you *actually* mean by that statement.

Though there are many people here who are much more knowledgable about this topic than I am, and perhaps they will be able to give you better/more thoughtful advice.

One of my partners who I have known for years, who I have been in a power exchange with, came out as trans and started the process of transitioning earlier this year. I 100% did not think that their transition would impact our relationship, as my attraction to them extends to many different areas. However, as they started dressing in a more feminine manner, my attraction to them slowly diminished. I tried for months and months to come to terms with this and to try to figure out WHY I couldn't adjust to their shifting way of presenting. Nothing about our interactions had changed, and in fact we even got closer as people, but I found myself slowly backing away from our relationship. We had a talk, and I think the conclusion for me is that the *masculine* energy is necessary for me to be involved in any sort of power exchange. We are still pretty serious play partners and really good friends, but what I needed for our power exchange to continue was just not there for me anymore, unfortunately.

It kinda reaffirmed my long-standing stance of "I can bottom to a woman, but I cannot sub to a woman".

It has caused me to do a LOT of thinking and research regarding gender, attraction, and a lot of other closely related topics, though, so I am thankful for that. I felt like such an asshole for the longest time about this situation because what we had was good and hard to find. And it also felt like I was making their transition and experience about me, which I was desperately trying to avoid. I still feel guilt over this whole thing, even though they have been very understanding.

[Swykk]

v v v v v v

Oh, got it. Thanks. I get the joke now but as aforementioned, I don’t do casual sex (and I’m into women. Women who don’t have or want kids and I have to know as well as like her).

[playwithfire]

wait so you're saying you're heterosexual oh okay got it got it

[Swykk]

I’m saying I’m socially awkward (with just about every post I make). Sorry.

[eversonpoe]

I don't want to bring it up on the Trans thread because it seems to cover much more important issues than my piddling query, but I am very very curious to know something and I thought some of you might help me out. Is there a "nice" way of putting it that you aren't physically attracted to trans or otherwise fluid gender? I wrote something on my FetLife that I'm not quite sure reads as anything else than being a little too blunt about it. Or does it not matter at all?

how do you know you're not attracted to trans people? is it a genital-related thing? is it purely about general physical appearance? or do you have an issue with people being trans?

for example, i'm trans, but i haven't done anything about transitioning. so despite the fact that i look 100% like a dude with a beard, i am a woman. there are plenty of trans women who have done things about transitioning and you'd never know they're trans unless they tell you. likewise with trans men.

i feel like you're eliminating a vast group of people from your sights for reasons that you don't necessarily understand, and it comes across as being a bit...bigoted. not saying you're an asshole who hates trans people, but if you flat-out state that you have no interest in pursuing anything with anyone who falls under that umbrella, it's hard not to get that read from it.

gender-fluidity is a whole other issue. my friend norine, who is getting married to her partner marc this friday, is gender-fluid. she refers to herself as a lady-dude. but she looks 100% woman. she's got a figure made for burlesque (which she used to do) including boobs that are ridiculously big and she loves to show off, and dresses "feminine" about 95% of the time. you'd never know she isn't just a woman unless you get to know her, and even then, it's really just about how she identifies herself and wants to be treated (with respect, which is all any trans and gender-fluid people want).

so i think you need to re-examine your position and figure out what makes you feel that way.

also, thanks to Sarah K for sharing your experience and offering some sound advice.

[onthewall2983]

Thank you both @Sarah K (http://www.echoingthesound.org/community/member.php?u=3236) and @eversonpoe (http://www.echoingthesound.org/community/member.php?u=588), for your insights and your questions. I do think I should clarify that I am open to having trans people as friends. And there have been a few instances where I found men who were very very convincing as women attractive. To some extent I'm quite picky about what or who I can be attracted to, but I also realizing after reading my initial post that it may just only be in my head and that if put into practice I might react differently.

You both have given me much to think about, and I could not have asked for a better response from each of you. Thanks :)

[playwithfire]

where I found men who were very very convincing as women

This is super problematic phrasing, bud.

Having physical preferences is TOTALLY OKAY, attaching identities to those physical preferences is problematic.

Example: Preferring partners who are less muscular is okay
preferring partners to have soft facial features is okay
preferring partners to look extremely feminine is okay
preferring partners to have a certain set of genitalia is okay

Going "I don't date trans people" is not okay

Because "trans" is not in any way tied to physical characteristics

Because, I'm guessing if you met a person who looked like this

http://daxushequ.com/data/out/39/img59870643.jpg

whose name was Brit, was assigned female at birth, had a pussy, and was non-binary and used they/them pronouns... I bet you wouldn't mind so much.

[playwithfire]

My advice to you would be to state that you prefer very feminine people and prefer to have sex with people who have a vulva and enjoy being sexually receptive.

[Amaro]

I'm a straight man. Someday I'll want a wife and we will want to conceive children. A woman is required in order to fulfill that wish (nevermind that some women can't get pregnant), not a trans woman. A woman who I'm attracted to in many, many ways, one in which is probably going to be very physical. 30 years in and I know for myself I've only been really physically attracted to feminine women (some more feminine than others), so that also (definitely) rules out any interest in trans men.

There is no reason for me to date a transsexual.

I don't understand why that is a problem for some to read.


I just wanna get married already. I am so fucking tired of being single. People always say God has a plan for me. Yeah right.

lol Respek. Sending you warm wishes.

[Sarah K]

Read the post two above yours.

[playwithfire]

Yeah... uh... I think there was a big point that you missed there, Amaro.

[Bachy]

http://68.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lpfsu1YHg91qzdvd4o1_500.gif

[playwithfire]

Naomi wat

[Bachy]

Naomi wat

Justin Ther-no-sex

[playwithfire]

thank u for letting us know

[playwithfire]

It's not like I don't have opportunities to have sex with people, my body just doesn't work (chronic BV/ph issues bb) most of the time and hollllly shit it's such a bummer sometimes. The last time I had penetrative sex was JUNE and the last time I had any kind of receptive sex was like September despite having humans in my life who would be up for the task if my vagina would get its shit together. I do all the shit I'm supposed to do before someone comes at me with some "wear cotton underwear" shit. Hoping for a light at the end of the tunnel at this point with what I'm currently trying, just frustrated. Next time I see a sexual partner is in early January so I'd really love to be able to get laid then.

[playwithfire]

Did not get laid, still having bv probs, but didn't even want to. Neither of us were in the mood to. My desire to have sex with other people has been like... almost not-present lately and I can't figure out if it's depression or just fluid sexuality being fluid. Which like, isn't super great since I have a couple of dates I'm supposed to follow up with now that I'm back in NYC and stuff, and one of them is a girl who I think is just amazing and is super my type so w t f, brain.

[kel]

i'm in a weird sexual slump, too. zero libido. none. it even goes beyond that right now -- i saw a porn ad this morning that honestly made me feel nauseated.

wtf, indeed.

[playwithfire]

Ugh, solidarity like, dude. :( It's really bothering me. I miss feeling attracted to new people. :( Though hey, I'm remembering there was a burlesque dancer I saw last week who made me feel at least something. That's comforting.

[Vertigo]

i'm in a weird sexual slump, too. zero libido. none. it even goes beyond that right now -- i saw a porn ad this morning that honestly made me feel nauseated.

wtf, indeed.

That seems to be going around. I'm going to use the Broad City explanation and blame it on Trump (https://www.thecut.com/2017/10/trump-killed-ilanas-orgasm-on-broad-city.html).

[playwithfire]

My favorite part about this is that it made me think about how I'd totally make out with Ilana because I keep forgetting there are people who exist characters I'd like to do that with, at least, even if I can't get into wanting to fuck


“I’ve just been more anxious and depressed this whole disgusting gross year and now I have dead pussy,”

:~)

[elevenism]

i'm in a weird sexual slump, too. zero libido. none. it even goes beyond that right now -- i saw a porn ad this morning that honestly made me feel nauseated.

wtf, indeed.
I, too, am having the strange lack of libido. The struggle is real.

[theimage13]

I, too, am having the strange lack of libido. The struggle is real.

Same. My guess / hope is it's just the joys of seasonal anxiety. Cold and grey, cold and grey, cold and grey...it's easier to deal with than "it's too hot to even think about going outside," but it messes with my head.

[playwithfire]

Shouldn't that make us want to do the cuffing season thing, though?

I finally wrapped some traveling so I'm back in NYC for the forseeable future so I actually have time to go on DATES and intellectually I want to but yeah, the libido thing is just a mess :/

[theimage13]

Shouldn't that make us want to do the cuffing season thing, though?

I finally wrapped some traveling so I'm back in NYC for the forseeable future so I actually have time to go on DATES and intellectually I want to but yeah, the libido thing is just a mess :/

I mean, I'm in a long term relationship. Cuffing season (possibly my second most hated phrase in the world after "bae") is for single people who don't want to be single anymore. Here, winter just means the windows are drafty as fuck, we don't turn the heat up high because of it so it's never really "warm" inside, my better half spends most of her non-working time in bed, and I'm a lot less physically active due to a combination of factors ranging from my job to a vitamin D deficiency. It's the perfect storm for just feeling like crap and losing all interest in...you know.......stuff.

[Thomas W Jefford]

I'm in the midst of the longest dry spell for near 4 years (its been 3 months), Some days there is extreme libido, other days there is no desire for human interaction yet alone any libido, there is no in between.

[playwithfire]

http://gawker.com/its-the-horny-time-1710702578

MUST BE NICE, I WOULDN'T KNOW BECAUSE MY LIBIDO IS STILL DEAD AS HELL :(

[theimage13]

http://gawker.com/its-the-horny-time-1710702578

MUST BE NICE, I WOULDN'T KNOW BECAUSE MY LIBIDO IS STILL DEAD AS HELL :(

That's got to be one of the dumbest things I've read on the internet in a long time. I can't grasp why people were sad to see that website crumble.