The Relationship Thread

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I'm always close yet so far!

The girl I've been talking to and seeing (even had Thanksgiving with her family the Sunday prior to the holiday) since September is getting very unresponsive and distant in the past month and it's bumming me out so much. We had a talk that she is in an odd place currently (she was 150% full on with wanting to be with me early on) so she can't give her all towards me or what I deserve at this very moment and second. She is appreciative and glad for my affections, words and attention but is currently battling lingering feelings of her previous ex (broke up shortly before we spoke, a dude with whom she won't be with again as he doesn't live here) and being in a certain mood/mindset with her life.

I am so fucking ready to be with this girl. I have so much time and heart invested into her that my soul will be crushed if things die. She told me not to wait up if other opportunities come along but frankly I WANT HER and no one else. I have to actively seek out another woman due to my schedule and routines. I'm fine with how things are and I am patient and will wait till whenever she is ready. She has expressed we'd be a great couple that'd work and she finds me physically attractive to want to sleep together. She's very honest and open but waiting is tearing me apart when we had something fiery and its a slow burning ember now that needs another stroked flame to set it ablaze. I'm in hope her fleeting emotions and current stagnant mindset recedes because I'm aching. I hope things get on the right path early on in 2018, but I'm not quite sure.

I'm such a whiner.

I don’t care for the bs tomorrow usually brings but I’m hurting this time over it. I hate it.

I’ll try and self medicate and play Putting Holes In Happiness in loop like a cheesey loser.

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I'm always close yet so far!

The girl I've been talking to and seeing (even had Thanksgiving with her family the Sunday prior to the holiday) since September is getting very unresponsive and distant in the past month and it's bumming me out so much. We had a talk that she is in an odd place currently (she was 150% full on with wanting to be with me early on) so she can't give her all towards me or what I deserve at this very moment and second. She is appreciative and glad for my affections, words and attention but is currently battling lingering feelings of her previous ex (broke up shortly before we spoke, a dude with whom she won't be with again as he doesn't live here) and being in a certain mood/mindset with her life.

I am so fucking ready to be with this girl. I have so much time and heart invested into her that my soul will be crushed if things die. She told me not to wait up if other opportunities come along but frankly I WANT HER and no one else. I have to actively seek out another woman due to my schedule and routines. I'm fine with how things are and I am patient and will wait till whenever she is ready. She has expressed we'd be a great couple that'd work and she finds me physically attractive to want to sleep together. She's very honest and open but waiting is tearing me apart when we had something fiery and its a slow burning ember now that needs another stroked flame to set it ablaze. I'm in hope her fleeting emotions and current stagnant mindset recedes because I'm aching. I hope things get on the right path early on in 2018, but I'm not quite sure.

I'm such a whiner.

I don’t care for the bs tomorrow usually brings but I’m hurting this time over it. I hate it.

I’ll try and self medicate and play Putting Holes In Happiness in loop like a cheesey loser.

Still in the same situation?

Honestly man, if you don't mind me throwing in my 2 cents, she sounds like trouble. That sort of behaviour implies that her romantic feelings are tied up with this other guy, whether it could actually be consummated or not. I also wouldn't trust her in a relationship if she's that reluctant to be with you due to feelings for another man - there's an imbalance there right from the start. Personally, if there's no sort of overture for Valentine's Day, I'd hop on a dating site.

Sorry if that's an unwanted or harsh viewpoint, but I figure posting in this thread kind of invites that!

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Still in the same situation?

Honestly man, if you don't mind me throwing in my 2 cents, she sounds like trouble. That sort of behaviour implies that her romantic feelings are tied up with this other guy, whether it could actually be consummated or not. I also wouldn't trust her in a relationship if she's that reluctant to be with you due to feelings for another man - there's an imbalance there right from the start. Personally, if there's no sort of overture for Valentine's Day, I'd hop on a dating site.

Sorry if that's an unwanted or harsh viewpoint, but I figure posting in this thread kind of invites that!

Yeah for the most part.

Nah, I fully understand and get that reasoning for your post. However she's not telling me to stay around for her. That's MY own choice. She's still 100% by her stance for me finding another girl since she's not ready and won't know when. She told me straight up I deserve someone that'll be as nice and take care of me as much as I would to whomever. The fact she even said that to me makes me know it's genuine. We didn't play games or tiptoe around issues ever, even from the very first day. She's dry, blunt and honest. It's refreshing honestly since I don't have to have what if or what? games going on. I'm an open man and always have been so it's something I applaud and admire.

I won't do the typical "she's not like others" stuff but I do genuinely know how her position is. I ended a 3 year relationship in mid 2016 and I hurt and had lingering feelings for my ex while trying to see other women. None of them ever ended well. I'm fine now and found this wonderful woman but it won't advance. It's just frustrating. I know her position and I know it'll pass in time. Minus my built up feelings, I know the eventual reward is worth it.

As for Valentine's Day, I never held any real high regards for it since it's stereotypical shit for money raking and selling but sometimes my mind just wanders to pleasantries.