Hi everyone. Long time listener, first time caller. Everyone in here is brave, courageous, and awesome.
I've recently become aware that I'm the father of a transgender child. He's come out as identifying as a boy and I don't believe I've ever seen him happier than he is day to day right now. We ventured to NYC for a friend's wedding roughly a week after he'd come out. I introduced him by his new name (despite the fact that he hadn't yet acquired a binder. he's 13 and developed early). Everyone was awesome, it was great.
But it is not without it's struggles. 13 years of reinforcement of names and pronouns is hard to overcome, but I think I've only slipped up a few times. I think the hardest part is finding the balance between being firm about the names and pronouns others use while not turning situations into embarrassing situations for him. I do my best to execute judgment on these situations, but I worry that sometimes I make the wrong call.
We've connected with GLYS (Gay and Lesbian Youth Services) and they've been really great and helpful. They've got a monthly group for parents and kids that seems good so far, but I'd like to engage as much support as I can. I'm hoping this is an appropriate place for that.