Quote Originally Posted by caro View Post
You're right. I'm working on that. Maybe I just idealize both of them because I don't love myself as much as I should? I don't know. This could be insecurity.
To keep quoting songs, "I've got to let go!".
Thanks for your empathy. I've never talked about this to anyone, because I know it's pathetic.
without knowing anything about you and only narcissistically looking at myself, I would say that the times I've been most obsessed with people wasn't because I didn't love myself -- it was almost the opposite. I didn't think I needed to work on me, to invest in me, because I thought that the other person could fill what was missing in me -- I didn't realize that I was the only one who could do that