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Faceplams: IT'S A TRAP!Originally Posted by REPLICA
no, seriously...
she/her/hers
IT'S A TRAP!
no, seriously...
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Somebody's pregnant.
Hierba Gatera
Yeah, that was my first thought. It's either that or an STD.
Not even a copy of a
Yeah guys, those were my first thoughts too. I told her I would go but I'm pretty cautious about it right now. Hopefully it's neither of those things. But we'll see tomorrow evening what it all is.
The Enhancer
What's more expensive, an abortion or a penicillin prescription? Guess it depends on your HMO...
Active Member
Haha this was the first thing I saw when I opened up teh forums... Without context, I gotta say I laughed pretty hard.
Hope it goes well man.
The Enhancer
Haha! Well, WITH context, you should be wishing REPLICA luck!
Not even a copy of a
Yeah, that made me laugh too. Thanks for the wishes! Hopefully it won't be too bad, I just hate how I keep wondering what it could be.Haha! Well, WITH context, you should be wishing REPLICA luck!
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Other than the two previously mentioned, the only thing I can come up with is that she just really wants to see you and thinks that saying something like that is the only way she can get that to happen....
When's the last time you two.... spent time together....
Not even a copy of a
Well, she was away in Sweden (studying) from January to June - we broke up in April. Then about two weeks ago we had drunk sex and the next day she told me that she didn't want to be my friend. And just out of the blue last night, she sent me a text asking if we could have the dinner and a talk.
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Well... When you get there, assuming she's there before you, see if she's drinking a beer... That might give you a hint as to which of the two it is...
Let us know how it goes and what it is... I hope it's something minor that no one has considered yet...
The Enhancer
That's the wording? "A talk"? Sounds seriouskis.
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So, I called my girlfriend today (since it has been a few days since I've heard from her, and I figured she was too busy getting ready for college), but it turns out she was in the hospital because of her disorders, and no one called and told me. I knew she was depressed the other day, and I offered to keep her company to help her feel better or she could come to my house, but she wouldn't budge. And I didn't get to talk to her today because when I called, she was asleep. Hopefully things get better for her.
Not even a copy of a
Well, the dinner with my ex went alright. She told me that she is hoping to go back to Sweden for graduate school (if she's accepted) and that would be next year after she graduates from our current school. Basically she doesn't want to be in a relationship with me because she feels that she will eventually want to live in Sweden and she doesn't want me to go with her because she doesn't want me to leave my family just for her. I think a part of it is also that I still have two or two and a half years left of my undergrad work left to do and (this may just be my paranoia) but I think she might be thinking I'll hold her back from doing what she wants to do. I've told her that I don't want to do that but I just don't know how truthful she is with me right now.
So… We talked about it and she said that she would like to be friends with me but last night I happened to stay the night with her so we are now friends with benefits. So, yeah. I'm keeping my options open for other potential relationships for now.
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Why would you think she's not being truthful? You called her your ex, and she said 'yes, I need to be your ex'
The whole friends with benefits thing is a bit lost on me some times. I really think you both can't have a deep connection in order for that to work. Otherwise, it's one person getting what they want, and the other feeling wretched on the inside because they love this person so much, but this is the best they can get from them so they just go along.
I'm happy you don't have to get an abortion or penicillin - You ETSers are a bunch of cynical fuckers!!
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Well, I found out why she was in the hospital... suicide attempt. And nobody told me. I had to find out from her. And just when I thought she was doing better with her BDD and auditory hallucination problems, they've become worse and the main reason as to why she's alienating herself. Plus, her dad won't let her leave the house anyway since her suicide attempt. Told her to call me tomorrow if she felt like seeing me, but she told me she probably wouldn't because she feels too ugly.
I don't know what to do. It seems like when everything gets better, it then becomes twice as bad. I can't even support her through this because she won't let me.
she/her/hers
i am so, so sorry.
as someone who has been in her shoes (but not yours), i can tell you that the best thing to do is be patient and understanding (which it seems like you've already got covered). it may seem like a dick move for her family to have not told you, but it's possible that they didn't want you to freak out (which is stupid, i know, but that's how families operate in these situations).
good luck. i hope she heals.
Throbbing Member
*tosses confetti*
No hospital things! Just crazy "I need to talk to you and make you really stressed about what it could be by not telling you any details" thing! Those are much better!
Hairy Member
I am so very sorry. From everything I've read here it absolutely sounds like you ARE supporting her. You are reaching out to her, telling her how you care for her, and heeding her wishes when she needs space. The fact that you aren't running scared says a lot about your character. Best of luck to both of you. I wish I had words of advice.
BACKROLLS?!
Oh, this one seems to like me. Result.
Throbbing Member
She is going with me to Montreal while I'm at the show in October (got my ticket before I met her). This will be so good for us.
BACKROLLS?!
I have a date next week. I'm not entirely sure what to do, it's been that long. Perhaps dressing as an Amish woman is the way forward...
Down, but not out.
I don't know where this comes from, but have any of you ever been told that the early 20s were too young for relationships? I find that hard to believe. Some even insist that it's better off to fall in love in your late 20s and early 30s, or to at least wait until you're 25. And well, it inevitably leads me to ask the following question. Did you also find love early too?
she/her/hers
i think that anyone who tries to put age limitations on love is silly.
when i was in love with a girl at the age of 7, it felt incredibly real, and i retained those feelings for a long time.
when i was in my first relationship at the age of 12, it was painfully real, and those feelings lasted for three years.
when i was in my last high-school relationship, it lasted a year, and when it ended, it almost destroyed me.
all love is real and valid, and it doesn't matter when it happens, as long as you treat it (and the object of those feelings) with care and respect.
Throbbing Member
If that's the case then my wife and I are in trouble... We met at the end of high school and started dating pretty much right away. That was over 16 years ago now...
But maybe I just take after my parents... they met in high school too and they're coming up on their 40th wedding anniversary...
Throbbing Member
She basically dumped me last night. I'm through. Thanks 2013, been one heck of a year.
Bent Member
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Bite me
Fuck her (well, not literally), you'll have a good time in Montreal, anyway! :-)She basically dumped me last night.
God is an American
I've had two quite fulfilling and very long-term relationships and I'm still 26 (for a few more weeks). You just have to be very communicative and recognize the other person's needs/space/goals, just like at any other time in your life.
Active Member
Are you kidding me?She basically dumped me last night. I'm through. Thanks 2013, been one heck of a year.
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