Originally Posted by
allegro
I don't understand any of this, either. I was in three very good platonic friendships with guys (I'm female) and I never implied that it was anything more than friendships. And, these situations, said guys eventually professed their love for me, and it was very uncomfortable, terrible, I had to tell them that I did not have feelings for them in that way, which was very difficult for me to do, but what was I supposed to do? LIE? Pretend to love them? We had really good, platonic, close friendships, I never ever ever implied that it was anything more than that, ever, and I never did anything that "led them on." I never used the term "friend zone." But, in one case, the friend never spoke to me again because he was really pissed at me. In another case, the friendship died a natural death. In another, the guy discovered he was gay, so no harm there. Are people pissed at the term, or the concept? I don't get it. The end result for me is that I didn't wanna be friends with guys anymore.