The Relationship Thread

[playwithfire]

^^ that's really rough, dude. I'm sorry.

All (2) of my NYC based non-platonic things seem to be fizzling out. One I've already decided is over (a fwb thing where the dude just dropped some major balls) and the other one I'm just beginning to think is a case of us not being compatible, but we've been going out for long enough that me talking about it with her (which I will be doing) might hurt some feelings and

I think I've known her and I aren't compatible for a while now, and there are so many wonderful things about her, but our sexualities are so different (she's sweet and calm and cutesy and playful and I'm serious and intense and need to be driven by a lot of sexual tension and desire) that I think we'd be better off as friends. Because where we're at now... is I like cuddling with her, I like kissing her... but stuff transitioning to the bedroom is difficult. And I don't think I want to keep trying to self-motivate into being sexual with her and I just feel guilty and bad. If I'm honest with myself, I don't think I want to be anything but platonic with her at this point. I think I've been unsure for basically the whole time we've dated (like since February), and I'm only now beginning to accept that we aren't compatible. She has had Major Life Thing after Major Life Thing going on for her. Tons of health stuff and a family pet just died, and there's more health stuff coming up, and it makes me feel like if I address this with her now I'm going to be a monster but I just don't think I should wait either. Ugh. Ughhh.