Originally Posted by
allegro
No, honey, I'm in my 50s and have done plenty of dates, I've been married twice, I've had lots of experience, and no, it's not that complicated. It's not.
Willingly consenting to sex and then feeling remorseful later and declaring sexual assault is a narrative portrayed on TV or online or whatever, but it's very very rare and it's not too difficult to figure out.
Yes means yes is black and white, people with experience know this, they feel good about saying yes, and the assaulter KNOWS this stuff but just doesn't care.
If a "too scared to say stop" instance happens, that's likely involving a weapon or strong physical overpowering; it's simple, what would make somebody THAT scared?
in the case of Harvey Weinstein, even THOSE victims were saying "NO." He didn't listen. He didn't care.
Listen to this verbal exchange. Does this sound like consent?