I also find it frustrating when it conversations like this folks seem to seek out some sort of perfect answer on how to know it's a "yes every time" when the fact is that humans are fallible and the main problem is we're seeing people being incredibly inattentive to power dynamics, non-verbal cues, or straight up expressions of disinterest/not wanting a thing. If we could just get folks to stop sucking at that we'd be so much farther along.

People are going "what if she says 'Yes Jake, I want you to have genital intercourse with me tonight and am enthusiastic about this idea." and then says she didn't mean it, but people are also ignoring someone looking out into space (though hey, for some people this is a sign that they're enjoying themselves, for me it's a bad sign, this is why asking is good) and making excuses about why she can't tonight that she eventually drops as her partner keeps going "but baby, please"