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    Quote Originally Posted by Boots View Post
    I just wanna get married already. I am so fucking tired of being single. People always say God has a plan for me. Yeah right.
    I thought the same thing. Then I got married. It will happen. It's not a god thing, it's a personality thing. Gotta come across the right one.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Conan The Barbarian View Post
    Gotta come across the right one.
    You got that right.

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    I want to say I saw this bit about a month before I lost my virginity at the tender age of 27:



    I started to believe, yeah, I'm probably one of those.

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    The worst feeling in the world is grieving the loss of someone still living.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Boots View Post
    The worst feeling in the world is grieving the loss of someone still living.
    I promise you that the alternative is worse, and that things will be much less shitty one day in the future. Sorry you're having a rough time.

    Also man, I wish Louis CK wasn't a fucking creep :/

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    Seven years. Wow. I didn't expect it would last this long but I also don't do one nighters nor do I want kids (period; can't have them myself and don't want them). That narrows my dating choices drastically where I live. Also, I'm not hot with 11 t's.

    Ain't it funny how time flies?

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    I’m Elijah Wood in this picture.


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    Usually when people around me are fucking in suits it's the like... two button kind.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Swykk View Post
    Seven years. Wow. I didn't expect it would last this long but I also don't do one nighters nor do I want kids (period; can't have them myself and don't want them). That narrows my dating choices drastically where I live. Also, I'm not hot with 11 t's.

    Ain't it funny how time flies?
    Huh. I couldn't find anyone for years and years because everyone wanted kids and I knew I didn't. If you didn't want them you were right out of the picture.

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    That’s how it is where I live. Nearly all are single moms.

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    I just had a wild idea. I’m not sure how it’s pronounced, but:


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    Y'all three are gonna bang?

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    Wait. What? I for sure missed something.

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    v v v v v v

    Quote Originally Posted by bachy View Post
    i just had a wild idea. I’m not sure how it’s pronounced, but:

    [gif about banging]
    Last edited by playwithfire; 10-08-2017 at 06:22 AM.

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    I don't want to bring it up on the Trans thread because it seems to cover much more important issues than my piddling query, but I am very very curious to know something and I thought some of you might help me out. Is there a "nice" way of putting it that you aren't physically attracted to trans or otherwise fluid gender? I wrote something on my FetLife that I'm not quite sure reads as anything else than being a little too blunt about it. Or does it not matter at all?

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    To me that falls along the same lines as "not attracted to black people", and I think will require some serious internal reflection on your part. "Trans" covers such a wide array of people and expressions that I do not believe it is possible to proclaim that you are not attracted to any trans person ever. Evaluate what you *actually* mean by that statement.

    Though there are many people here who are much more knowledgable about this topic than I am, and perhaps they will be able to give you better/more thoughtful advice.

    One of my partners who I have known for years, who I have been in a power exchange with, came out as trans and started the process of transitioning earlier this year. I 100% did not think that their transition would impact our relationship, as my attraction to them extends to many different areas. However, as they started dressing in a more feminine manner, my attraction to them slowly diminished. I tried for months and months to come to terms with this and to try to figure out WHY I couldn't adjust to their shifting way of presenting. Nothing about our interactions had changed, and in fact we even got closer as people, but I found myself slowly backing away from our relationship. We had a talk, and I think the conclusion for me is that the *masculine* energy is necessary for me to be involved in any sort of power exchange. We are still pretty serious play partners and really good friends, but what I needed for our power exchange to continue was just not there for me anymore, unfortunately.

    It kinda reaffirmed my long-standing stance of "I can bottom to a woman, but I cannot sub to a woman".

    It has caused me to do a LOT of thinking and research regarding gender, attraction, and a lot of other closely related topics, though, so I am thankful for that. I felt like such an asshole for the longest time about this situation because what we had was good and hard to find. And it also felt like I was making their transition and experience about me, which I was desperately trying to avoid. I still feel guilt over this whole thing, even though they have been very understanding.

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    Quote Originally Posted by playwithfire View Post
    v v v v v v
    Oh, got it. Thanks. I get the joke now but as aforementioned, I don’t do casual sex (and I’m into women. Women who don’t have or want kids and I have to know as well as like her).

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    wait so you're saying you're heterosexual oh okay got it got it

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    I’m saying I’m socially awkward (with just about every post I make). Sorry.
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    Quote Originally Posted by onthewall2983 View Post
    I don't want to bring it up on the Trans thread because it seems to cover much more important issues than my piddling query, but I am very very curious to know something and I thought some of you might help me out. Is there a "nice" way of putting it that you aren't physically attracted to trans or otherwise fluid gender? I wrote something on my FetLife that I'm not quite sure reads as anything else than being a little too blunt about it. Or does it not matter at all?
    how do you know you're not attracted to trans people? is it a genital-related thing? is it purely about general physical appearance? or do you have an issue with people being trans?

    for example, i'm trans, but i haven't done anything about transitioning. so despite the fact that i look 100% like a dude with a beard, i am a woman. there are plenty of trans women who have done things about transitioning and you'd never know they're trans unless they tell you. likewise with trans men.

    i feel like you're eliminating a vast group of people from your sights for reasons that you don't necessarily understand, and it comes across as being a bit...bigoted. not saying you're an asshole who hates trans people, but if you flat-out state that you have no interest in pursuing anything with anyone who falls under that umbrella, it's hard not to get that read from it.

    gender-fluidity is a whole other issue. my friend norine, who is getting married to her partner marc this friday, is gender-fluid. she refers to herself as a lady-dude. but she looks 100% woman. she's got a figure made for burlesque (which she used to do) including boobs that are ridiculously big and she loves to show off, and dresses "feminine" about 95% of the time. you'd never know she isn't just a woman unless you get to know her, and even then, it's really just about how she identifies herself and wants to be treated (with respect, which is all any trans and gender-fluid people want).

    so i think you need to re-examine your position and figure out what makes you feel that way.

    also, thanks to @Sarah K for sharing your experience and offering some sound advice.

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    Thank you both @Sarah K and @eversonpoe, for your insights and your questions. I do think I should clarify that I am open to having trans people as friends. And there have been a few instances where I found men who were very very convincing as women attractive. To some extent I'm quite picky about what or who I can be attracted to, but I also realizing after reading my initial post that it may just only be in my head and that if put into practice I might react differently.

    You both have given me much to think about, and I could not have asked for a better response from each of you. Thanks
    Last edited by onthewall2983; 10-09-2017 at 10:25 AM.

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    Quote Originally Posted by onthewall2983 View Post
    where I found men who were very very convincing as women
    This is super problematic phrasing, bud.

    Having physical preferences is TOTALLY OKAY, attaching identities to those physical preferences is problematic.

    Example: Preferring partners who are less muscular is okay
    preferring partners to have soft facial features is okay
    preferring partners to look extremely feminine is okay
    preferring partners to have a certain set of genitalia is okay

    Going "I don't date trans people" is not okay

    Because "trans" is not in any way tied to physical characteristics

    Because, I'm guessing if you met a person who looked like this



    whose name was Brit, was assigned female at birth, had a pussy, and was non-binary and used they/them pronouns... I bet you wouldn't mind so much.

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    My advice to you would be to state that you prefer very feminine people and prefer to have sex with people who have a vulva and enjoy being sexually receptive.

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    I'm a straight man. Someday I'll want a wife and we will want to conceive children. A woman is required in order to fulfill that wish (nevermind that some women can't get pregnant), not a trans woman. A woman who I'm attracted to in many, many ways, one in which is probably going to be very physical. 30 years in and I know for myself I've only been really physically attracted to feminine women (some more feminine than others), so that also (definitely) rules out any interest in trans men.

    There is no reason for me to date a transsexual.

    I don't understand why that is a problem for some to read.

    Quote Originally Posted by Boots View Post
    I just wanna get married already. I am so fucking tired of being single. People always say God has a plan for me. Yeah right.
    lol Respek. Sending you warm wishes.
    Last edited by Amaro; 10-11-2017 at 10:39 PM.

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    Read the post two above yours.

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    Yeah... uh... I think there was a big point that you missed there, Amaro.

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    Naomi wat

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    Quote Originally Posted by playwithfire View Post
    Naomi wat
    Justin Ther-no-sex

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    thank u for letting us know

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