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    I'm meeting his family in a couple of weeks. At his brother's wedding. I haven't done this routine in years. WHAT IS LIFE HOW DO I DO THIS

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    I met an incredible woman at the bus stop tonight....We chatted on the bus and I got her number. I really want to see her again.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cashpiles View Post
    I met an incredible woman at the bus stop tonight....We chatted on the bus and I got her number. I really want to see her again.
    Didn't you recently post a video in your artistic thread with you and your girlfriend or something?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ryan View Post
    Didn't you recently post a video in your artistic thread with you and your girlfriend or something?
    Yes I did..... We had agreed to polyamory a few months ago.... But I don't think she'll act on it. That's the problem, because I definitely would. I feel guilty. Part of me wants her to hook up with another man for random sex to really see if I can handle it. Whenever I imagine her with another man I feel jealous. But it would be a sign of the strength of our relationship if we could have other partners yet still be in love together.

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    Well, I think my 4 year relationship is over. He wants to meet up in a few weeks to talk properly (which means the voices in my head will be super loud until then) and says he wants to be friends but given what we're falling out about it's unlikely (one-sided relationship, lack of communication etc). I will currently concentrate on not dwelling on "you need to make it up to me" and "I won't let you get away with this", and instead just focus on getting on with my life. In theory, anyway.

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    For the last two months I've been seeing this girl I met on Tinder (Yes, I use it. Fuck you). She happens to be a Native American, and I must say that oddly enough few things give me more pleasure than saying blatantly racist things to her, like calling her a redskin, asking her where the best casinos are, etc.

    So she tells me she's never finished Breaking Bad and never seen Old School. Which is more unforgivable?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Bachy View Post
    For the last two months I've been seeing this girl I met on Tinder (Yes, I use it. Fuck you). She happens to be a Native American, and I must say that oddly enough few things give me more pleasure than saying blatantly racist things to her, like calling her a redskin, asking her where the best casinos are, etc.

    So she tells me she's never finished Breaking Bad and never seen Old School. Which is more unforgivable?
    dude, what the fuck is wrong with you? pull your head out of your ass and stop being a dick. if you KNOW something is blatantly racist and you choose to say/do it anyway, you are the definition of a terrible person.

    i can't even believe you would admit to doing something like that. my brain is just like...short circuiting right now.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bachy View Post
    For the last two months I've been seeing this girl I met on Tinder (Yes, I use it. Fuck you). She happens to be a Native American, and I must say that oddly enough few things give me more pleasure than saying blatantly racist things to her, like calling her a redskin, asking her where the best casinos are, etc.

    So she tells me she's never finished Breaking Bad and never seen Old School. Which is more unforgivable?
    What the mother of all fucks, dude?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bachy View Post
    So she tells me she's never finished Breaking Bad and never seen Old School. Which is more unforgivable?
    A racist with terrible taste. What a catch.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bachy View Post
    For the last two months I've been seeing this girl I met on Tinder (Yes, I use it. Fuck you). She happens to be a Native American, and I must say that oddly enough few things give me more pleasure than saying blatantly racist things to her, like calling her a redskin, asking her where the best casinos are, etc.

    So she tells me she's never finished Breaking Bad and never seen Old School. Which is more unforgivable?
    Bahaha, dude what? You're getting roasted for this. Is this a sex thing, like race play?

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    Quote Originally Posted by DF118 View Post
    Bahaha, dude what? You're getting roasted for this. Is this a sex thing, like race play?
    "Yay, xenophobophiliac bae !!!"

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    ^

    Yes. The ONLY way this shit is acceptable is if you and her THOROUGHLY discussed it before you ever even thought about such a thing. If race play is her thing and you TALKED ABOUT IT before ever engaging in it... Then do you.

    But if you randomly just started saying racist ass shit to her out of the blue, you're a huge dick and you should go back to whining about girls not responding to you or whatever. There was a reason for that.

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    Dudes like that make it feel extra awful to be single. It really is all confidence based. It has to be.

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    I realize what I said was idiotic and insensitive. Probably should have kept it to myself since it's kind of an inside joke the two of us have. Believe me, I have no hatred in my heart, nor am I a racist whatsoever. I apologize to anyone I may have offended.

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    "I'm not racist, but" I LOVE saying racist shit to my partner.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bachy View Post
    it's kind of an inside joke the two of us have
    The recipient likes it. Ergo consent and not hate. But I really enjoyed watching a bunch of white people tell another (presumably) white person what is racist without considering or acknowledging the opinion of the "victim" of the remarks. White people find it racist so it must be racist.

    Quote Originally Posted by Sarah K View Post
    "I'm not racist, but" I LOVE saying racist shit to my partner.
    So am I to assume you condone domestic violence because you like BDSM in your relationships?

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    Like I said up there, consent is the key! If everything is discussed beforehand and that's their kink, then rock on. But the way it was presented, it did not seem like that was the case.

    While I am into degradation, if someone started making "jokes" about those topics without discussing it with me first, having an understanding of where it comes from, etc that's totally different than something that is carried out in a kink context.

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    Quote Originally Posted by icklekitty View Post
    The recipient likes it. Ergo consent and not hate. But I really enjoyed watching a bunch of white people tell another (presumably) white person what is racist without considering or acknowledging the opinion of the "victim" of the remarks. White people find it racist so it must be racist.
    1) he is white, he's posted multiple pictures in the narcissism & voyeurism thread
    2) he admitted that what he was saying was racist, it was in his original post, in his own words
    3) he presented it as if it wasn't a joke, wasn't part of a kink, and wasn't enjoyed by his partner

    so given all of that, there was very little assumption involved.

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    Quote Originally Posted by eversonpoe View Post
    and wasn't enjoyed by his partner
    technically, he never said anything about how she felt about it; hence what @icklekitty is saying.

    I don't mean to be disrespectful, @Bachy , but I sometimes wonder if you have been diagnosed with Asperger's. You don't seem to really mean to cause this commotion, you just don't see the social cues.
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    Quote Originally Posted by allegro View Post
    technically, he never said anything about how she felt about it; hence what @icklekitty is saying.

    I don't mean to be disrespectful, @Bachy, but I sometimes wonder if you have been diagnosed with Asbergers. You don't seem to really mean to cause this disruption, you just don't see the social cues.
    Aspergers*

    lol ass burgers

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    sorry i'm on my phone, fat finger did not yet have a chance to proof and edut. don't be a douche Ryan.

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    Quote Originally Posted by allegro View Post
    sorry i'm on my phone, fat finger did not yet have a chance to proof and edut. don't be a douche Ryan.

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    The relationship with my current partner is likely coming to a close and I actually feel okay about it. I think that alone kind of eases the pain. Still not easy. I love this person. We just have too many compatibility issues and I acknowledge a lot of that is on me not being able to change.

    I feel like shit, but I things will just get worse if you stay with someone who's not right for you...right?

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    Yeah it will. You'll start to get increasingly frustrated with them and have that constant feeling that your life isn't where it's supposed to be, and you'll silently blame them for it. Even if you avoid conflict you'll both grow increasingly unhappy.
    Love isn't all there is to a relationship, and love isn't a magic wand that allows you to fix everything eventually. If there's no way to fix it, the best course of action is probably to let go.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bachy View Post
    I realize what I said was idiotic and insensitive. Probably should have kept it to myself since it's kind of an inside joke the two of us have. Believe me, I have no hatred in my heart, nor am I a racist whatsoever. I apologize to anyone I may have offended.
    So was it a sex thing?

    Break this down, if it's a sex thing:

    If she likes it more than you, that's cool - it's indicative of a need. I've seen this before, it's a thing for some people, and that's really fine.
    If you like it more than her, it's a bit more complex - you may be a racist.

    If it's not a sex thing, and more of a "casual joke"- that's fine if you both know you're being ironic. The moment you start sharing your gag with everyone else... you're no longer being ironic, and instead being racist.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sarah K View Post
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    Yes. The ONLY way this shit is acceptable is if you and her THOROUGHLY discussed it before you ever even thought about such a thing. If race play is her thing and you TALKED ABOUT IT before ever engaging in it... Then do you.

    But if you randomly just started saying racist ass shit to her out of the blue, you're a huge dick and you should go back to whining about girls not responding to you or whatever. There was a reason for that.
    She actually thinks it's funny and jokes about it herself. It's just a thing between the two of us. There's no maliciousness behind it. It's just like friendly jabs at each other. I probably should have phrased it better. She takes shots at me as well. I guess what I meant to say is that I really enjoy joking around with her.

    This is just how the two of us talk. Just kind of insulting each other. We both know we're joking around.

    It's a weird relationship. I mean our first real connection was with Rick and Morty.

    The main thing is I'm really happy for the first time in about a year.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Bachy View Post
    She actually thinks it's funny and jokes about it herself. It's just a thing between the two of us. There's no maliciousness behind it. It's just like friendly jabs at each other. I probably should have phrased it better. She takes shots at me as well. I guess what I meant to say is that I really enjoy joking around with her.

    This is just how the two of us talk. Just kind of insulting each other. We both know we're joking around.

    It's a weird relationship. I mean our first real connection was with Rick and Morty.

    The main thing is I'm really happy for the first time in about a year.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ryan View Post
    I will invite her here soon enough.

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    Yeah! This is our club!

    i kid.

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