The little things that piss you off

[Haysey_Draws]

when people ask you to do them a favor, don't pay you... then crack the whip while pushing for you to finish.

THIS! I had a friend i was living with ask me and a bunch of others to help install his garden fence (i was renting there so i agreed) carrying 30 6 foot fence posts up and 50ft staircase up to the house was hell, made worse by "your not doing it quick enough"! But i was told i could pocket the favour. Then another friend asked me and a bunch of others to help lay his foundations for his extension (again no pay, just promise of a "returned" favour) and then had him yelling at us the whole time we're weren't doing it good enough (fucking hire some actual workers then!)
I only bring these up as i never got those return favours, when i moved further into London they all had settled down and chose not to continue my friendship as i "don't drink, so its hard to socialise with you"...yep

Moral is, only do favours for those who are 100% people you trust/like, and even then don't let them take the piss!

[ImTheWiseJanitor]

THIS! I had a friend i was living with ask me and a bunch of others to help install his garden fence (i was renting there so i agreed) carrying 30 6 foot fence posts up and 50ft staircase up to the house was hell, made worse by "your not doing it quick enough"! But i was told i could pocket the favour. Then another friend asked me and a bunch of others to help lay his foundations for his extension (again no pay, just promise of a "returned" favour) and then had him yelling at us the whole time we're weren't doing it good enough (fucking hire some actual workers then!)
I only bring these up as i never got those return favours, when i moved further into London they all had settled down and chose not to continue my friendship as i "don't drink, so its hard to socialise with you"...yep

Moral is, only do favours for those who are 100% people you trust/like, and even then don't let them take the piss!

I have one "friend" in particular that doesn't like to talk until she needs me to fix something, be it an object or a situation. She thinks I don't notice, but we'll go 3-4 months without speaking and suddenly it's "heyyy I locked my keys in my apartment" or "heyyyy I got kicked out of my apartment and need a place to stay, also I've secretly always felt like we had something special between us. <3" Followed by silence. The other night she called me at midnight to help her change a flat tire. She wanted me to meet her at a restaurant, where she was eating with a friend, who had her own car and drove them both there. Then an hour later we get to her place and her wheel was STUCK in place. I couldn't budge it no matter what I did. FUSED to the hub. At which point she goes "oh well I have roadside assistance so I'll just call them. Thanxx!" The next day I asked her straight-up if we were actually friends or if I'm only around to fix her problems. And all she said back was "definitely, I didn't mean it to seem another way." Like that's all you wanna say? And then two more weeks of no communication.

Next time you have a problem, I might just be busy. Oops.

[Jinsai]

when someone you consider a friend does something that fucks over someone you love... and all you wanna do is punch him in the face, but you hate drama so fucking much at this point in your life, and you don't want to make things worse, even though someone is a fucking ASSHOLE and deserves to get the shit beaten out of them...

Ungrateful, petty double-standard motherfucker. GODdamn it.

[Steven]

when someone you consider a friend does something that fucks over someone you love... and all you wanna do is punch him in the face, but you hate drama so fucking much at this point in your life, and you don't want to make things worse, even though someone is a fucking ASSHOLE and deserves to get the shit beaten out of them...

Ungrateful, petty double-standard motherfucker. GODdamn it.

First song to come to mind when I read this:

[SHORT ON SANITY]

Wet socks.

[Boots]

Never get an account at livejournal. The security at that website is terrible. Certain people can see all your entries, including the private ones. If you have too many failed login attempts, then your IP will be temporarily banned. I think most people have migrated to Facebook and Twitter anyway. If you need to get a diary, use xanga.

[Boots]

I joined a female only forum. I thought it would be a safe space to post. But no one replied to my threads due to a lack of interest, or maybe because of summer. So much for that idea. Moving on.

[Sarah K]

As I was flying to Vegas for NIN, a person I was involved with for many years was being outed by multiple people for abuse. I shared my story/experience in a closed group with many of them. Then, the entire time I was in Vegas, people kept fucking bugging me about it, and I got kinda pissed and told everyone to leave me alone until I got back. I got in touch with some of the other women, and now it has like, evolved into this Whole Thing where they are wanting to meet up and "process" everything that happened together. And I have absolutely no interest in doing that. I don't mind sharing my story to substantiate what was already out there. But I've only ever met one of these people, and I have ZERO interest in meeting strangers to talk about a shitbag we all knew or were involved with.

Here we are almost a month later, and they still won't leave me alone. Gonna feel like a dick blocking them. But holy shit.

[Jinsai]

HOLY SHIT... fuck people... yes, I speak Japanese, YES, we're friends.... NO, I don't want to translate your screenplay into Japanese and pretend to be Japanese while I voice act your dialog ASAP. Jesus Christ. Take NO FOR A FUCKING ANSWER. At least OFFER to fucking pay me to be whatever that is.

FUCK. THIS.

The dialog he wants translated is already broken English.... I just can't deal with this shit anymore. Sorry, no more favors for friends. Full stop. Fuck this.

[Space Suicide]

Fuck this son of a bitch.

[kaydraven]

People expecting me to help them work on things like letters or usernames because I'm a writer. No, I don't want to write a damn email for you. I have my own shit to worry about.

Also, traveling somewhere and having to stop when we're clearly supposed to be moving. So, the train station where I get off for work everyday has a broken escalator meaning we have to use the stairs. instead of getting into one line and making our way up, people split into two lines to try to get out faster. So what happens? Someone has to go downstairs. This means everyone who made a second line has to step over and we will stop dead in our tracks. It's been going for 3 weeks and it's frustrating as hell.

[Boots]

It's a good thing I moved back home. Greyhound Canada ended its service in all but 2 provinces. I used to take it at least 4 times a year to visit my family when I lived down south. Like those junior hockey players, I have a lot of memories of riding the bus. It's ironic that I'm reading Atlas Shrugged right now, which is basically about a crumbling transportation company.

[Pillfred]

Stupid work shit that in retrospect i shouldn't have said anything about which culminated in me pretty much losing my shit. I didn't go full tilt but pretty close, i dropped enough f-bombs to earn an easy r rating. Good thing the owner exec. chef is understanding of these things and helped me and my boss man (whom i don't hate, I just have no life and we make not the best dance partners so to speak) finally get things aired out. I need a hobby or something, all work and no play is driving me crazy. The heat and long hours last week didn't help either.

[allegate]

It's a good thing I moved back home. Greyhound Canada ended its service in all but 2 provinces. I used to take it at least 4 times a year to visit my family when I lived down south. Like those junior hockey players, I have a lot of memories of riding the bus. It's ironic that I'm reading Atlas Shrugged right now, which is basically about a crumbling transportation company.

That's...not...

You know what, if that's what you are taking from the book it explains a lot.

[ImTheWiseJanitor]

I wish it was more socially acceptable to just outright tell people "Please don't try to make plans with me. At all. I will say no."

Also, my phone has been dead since yesterday and I can't get it replaced until Friday. It does kinda suck, but it's also been weirdly liberating. I may even change my phone number for the first time since I got my first cell phone, because I'm getting really, REALLY tired of spam calls about setting up a warranty plan for a car I was SHOPPING for 4 months ago, not even the car I have now. Are those dudes even trying? "Oh! I see. Well, let me update our file with your current vehicle informa-" "No. You didn't hear me. I said I'm not interested. Period. I wasn't interested the first 6 times you called, and I won't be interested the next time. Changing the number you call from will not change that, either. And if you call me again, I'm going to explode on whoever's on the line. Got it? Excellent. Thank you."

[eversonpoe]

I wish it was more socially acceptable to just outright tell people "Please don't try to make plans with me. At all. I will say no."

Also, my phone has been dead since yesterday and I can't get it replaced until Friday. It does kinda suck, but it's also been weirdly liberating. I may even change my phone number for the first time since I got my first cell phone, because I'm getting really, REALLY tired of spam calls about setting up a warranty plan for a car I was SHOPPING for 4 months ago, not even the car I have now. Are those dudes even trying? "Oh! I see. Well, let me update our file with your current vehicle informa-" "No. You didn't hear me. I said I'm not interested. Period. I wasn't interested the first 6 times you called, and I won't be interested the next time. Changing the number you call from will not change that, either. And if you call me again, I'm going to explode on whoever's on the line. Got it? Excellent. Thank you."

if we're ever in the same city i just want to give you a big ol' hug for a full minute because i feel like you need it.

[ImTheWiseJanitor]

if we're ever in the same city i just want to give you a big ol' hug for a full minute because i feel like you need it.

Hahahaha, trust me, I'm not in nearly that kind of dire straights that I'm just blinded by rage and rejecting human contact, lmao. But I'm not gonna say no to a hug, who says no to a hug?

But I feel like everyone has sooomeone in their day-to-day that they don't want to see or be associated with. And sometimes that person is the one most persistent in trying to get you to do things with them. Sorry captain, don't wanna make plans with ya. Time with you for a chunk of the day, every day, is plenty to show me what that will be like. If you want to socialize outside of work, let's start by adjusting your behavior there before you ask me if I want to get drinks or hang out with you and your wife as a third wheel. Deal? Deal. I'm open to it, for sure, but as of right now all signs point to a hard pass from me every time.

As for the phone thing...I don't know what has happened this past month or so, but I've just been FLOODED with spam calls from two sources. One is a litany of people offering me warranties on my car, which I already have, and the calls are all from "different" agencies I've never heard of in my life who claim to be from the same area code where I used to live - which is in no way near where I bought my car. The information they have isn't even up to date - they're offering me warranties on a specific car that I do not and have never owned. That's usually followed by attempts to get information on my current vehicle so that their files are "up to date," which have been shot down every single time. Not giving you guys that info if you can't even go so far as to get it on your own. The second source of calls is my personal favorite so far: I've been getting non-stop calls from "the CDC of Chicago" asking for my health information. I'd be concerned that maybe it's regarding my last trip to Chicago, but here's the thing - I haven't been there since 2011, the one exception being when I drove there in 2015 to see Failure play and immediately left town to hit the road home. I was in-city for probably 5 hours total. How they would even know that I was there is beyond me, and why they would contact me regarding that visit THREE YEARS AFTER THE FACT is even more mind-boggling. Did I secretly come down with a deeply-latent form of Chicago flu that needs 3 years to gestate before just blowing my asshole out or something? C'mon, guys...

Nothing I've done to stop these calls has worked, to the point where I give the caller three strikes each time. I'm going to say no to their advances three times, and after that, I'm not above cutting them off mid-sentence and telling them to kindly leave me the fuck alone, haha. They're spam callers. I have no shame in inconveniently interrupting them when they have cooonstantly inconveniently interrupted me. I'm not going to scream and make threats, because that's uncalled for, but their behavior is unacceptable. These calls happen multiple times a day. I have blocked each phone number, I have tried being polite to the callers, and I've tried just straight-up not answering for days at a time, and the calls persist. The only one that's stopped is the Chicago CDC calls.

They know the jobs they have, and they should also know that "no" means "no." If they take heat from me for relentlessly calling me after repeated rejections, that's part of the job, and they should do us both a favor and actually add me to their do not call list; for the entire call system, not just that particular phone number they choose to call me from on that day.

So I'm gonna do eeeveryone a favor and just change my phone number! Win-win.

[playwithfire]

nevermind

[elevenism]

That's...not...

You know what, if that's what you are taking from the book it explains a lot.

Of course that's what Atlas Shrugged was about! And Infinite Jest was tips on how to play tennis better!

[Archive_Reports]

RE the phone call thing: A lot of those are not legitimate companies, no matter what they claim to be selling or offering. Your best bet is to not answer calls from numbers you don't recognize. Source: I work with consumer fraud and identity theft.

[ImTheWiseJanitor]

RE the phone call thing: A lot of those are not legitimate companies, no matter what they claim to be selling or offering. Your best bet is to not answer calls from numbers you don't recognize. Source: I work with consumer fraud and identity theft.

Oh, for sure. And I can usually see through to that almost immediately. Unfortunately, the nature of my work involves occasionally getting calls from numbers I don't have saved (contractors, other properties, temporary workers, all that goodness), so it's a bit of a gamble for me to just not answer any phone number I don't recognize. (Sometimes my supervisor will be a swell fella and just GIVE my phone number to residents that "he trusts" when they need a point of contact, and I cut THAT shit out immediately. You wanna give them a number, make it YOURS or the number of our property.) I wish I could know every time whether it was someone I really have to talk to or not, but I normally at least answer, and if it's bullshit I give them about 30 seconds before I personally end the call. No call backs, no answering voicemails they leave, nothin'.

They think they're being smart, trying to take advantage of people who don't know any better - and that's partially why I have no problems nipping their BS at the bud. No, I will NOT let you update your file with my information. I may not even tell you whether or not my name is my name. I'M gonna ask questions, and if you can't adequately answer within the first 30 or so seconds, then...sorry, homie. Not gonna buy into it.

[allegate]

I bitched some woman out for calling me and hung up on her. I got a call back immediately from an entirely different number talking about how they have all this personal information on me and that I shouldn't mess with people who have access to that kind of stuff.

Now I just tell them that the person they're looking for isn't there because if they can't pronounce my name right then why should I talk to them at all?

[elevenism]

@ImTheWiseJanitor I've been getting the ultra shady car warranty hustler bullshit too!
And if you ask them to not call you, they'll call you five times as much.
I don't even HAVE a fucking car.
They call and say that "it looks like we can set you up with blah blah blah because of your car" and one day I had been drinking and went along with it and halfway through it I was like "so where is my car? How do I use it? What does it look like? I don't remember having a car please help me, you said you knew something about me having a car."

I thought it was brilliant but they didnt.

And yeah man, these motherfuckers are RELENTLESS. I mean jesus: why do they keep calling me? They know they aren't going to make a sale.
They must not be on commission if they're doing this because I missed them off.

[Archive_Reports]

Not a call, but still somewhat relevant.

[MrLobster]

Canada Post.

[Swykk]

A year ago I injured my foot (tendinitis in the right Achilles). I stayed off it best I could for almost 3 months hoping it would heal itself. When that didn’t happen, I went to a podiatrist who put me in physical therapy for two months. It’s not cheap even with insurance. I finished it May 6th.

Just two goddamn months later it hurts like it did before.

[ImTheWiseJanitor]

Is every police force on the planet jumping on the “we’re a little late to the #lipsyncchallenge but we’re finally doing it omg so excited” bandwagon? For fuck’s sake. WHY DO GROWN ADULT POLICE OFFICERS GIVE A FUCK ABOUT THIS “CHALLENGE” THAT IS LITERALLY JUST LIP SYNCING WITH ZERO “CHALLENGES” INVOLVED WHATSOEVER? I don’t understand.

Social media is cancerous.

[Sarah K]

They are just trying to drum up some good PR in between shooting folks.

[Thomas W Jefford]

Did work in the garden, got sunburn, maximum discomfort for two days.

[Harry Seaward]

Is every police force on the planet jumping on the “we’re a little late to the #lipsyncchallenge but we’re finally doing it omg so excited” bandwagon? For fuck’s sake. WHY DO GROWN ADULT POLICE OFFICERS GIVE A FUCK ABOUT THIS “CHALLENGE” THAT IS LITERALLY JUST LIP SYNCING WITH ZERO “CHALLENGES” INVOLVED WHATSOEVER? I don’t understand.

Social media is cancerous.

Spoiler: because bootlickers love it