Not a hero, just not there when that happened
But yeah, he was musing about the weight of loss out loud I guess, and maybe that even was his drunken, misguided way to try to say that it could be worse (which would equally warrant a massive STFU, I'm just saying that I'm sure he wasn't being a douche, just clueless and oblivious)... But mom was part of the conversation. She's a good egg so she shut her mouth and took the hit, but it did nothing to improve her mood as you can guess.